Hello everyone :)
I just wanted to ask about using Baby Aspirin and Mucinex while taking Clomid. What are the correct dosages and days to take these? I have preseed, instead cups, and Opk's so im covered with that lol. Also if anyone has any other advice about clomid I would love to here it.
I have been TTC for 4 years and I'm at my limit. DH's never home on O day because he works off-shore, but it really looks like he may be home this time :). So I'm really excited this month. It's really hard to be optimistic after four years and two M/C but with all the BFP's going around (especially with Clomid users) its hard not to :) Thank you everyone in advance Advice about clomid please help?
you need to understand that not all women succeed on clomid and there is a lot of side effect taking it.. such as blur vision, dizziness, bloating, bad cramps.. basically it is a hormone drug that cannnot be taken for more than 6 cycles in one LIFETIME. If taken more, it can increase risk of getting ovarian cancer. Women take this drug to help more eggs to mature thus ovulate better, this is why there could be risk of having multiple births while on clomid.
Have both of you been to pre-conception checkup? It is good to do fertility health screening before you ttc to understand what may be wrong. At the same time, you can find out the problem and decide the next step to take.. there is no point taking clomid if it is the male factor.. get what I mean?
Monday, August 23, 2010
Need advice about guitar?
i can't play a different rythym on the guitar than what i'm singing. this song for example. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kBAgrM_WQ鈥?/a>
any help you could offer on how to sing and play a different rhythym than what your singing? thnx.Need advice about guitar?
Take one thing at a time. I would first learn how to play the guitar part really well so you feel like you could play it in your sleep. Next practice learning and singing the lyrics until you think you never want to hear them again. Once you've got both of those down, put them together. It make take a few tries to get it right, but learning to play and sing at the same time takes patience.Need advice about guitar?
ever see a great musician close his eyes when he really gets into his music?
start with the guitar, close your eyes, really get into it.
Don't listen to yourself singing, just the music.
any help you could offer on how to sing and play a different rhythym than what your singing? thnx.Need advice about guitar?
Take one thing at a time. I would first learn how to play the guitar part really well so you feel like you could play it in your sleep. Next practice learning and singing the lyrics until you think you never want to hear them again. Once you've got both of those down, put them together. It make take a few tries to get it right, but learning to play and sing at the same time takes patience.Need advice about guitar?
ever see a great musician close his eyes when he really gets into his music?
start with the guitar, close your eyes, really get into it.
Don't listen to yourself singing, just the music.
Need advice about a shy virgo man.?
He and i live in separate cities. he doesnt cal or mail. I do. Whenever i cal hell be very friendly and al and i think he likes me too but is unable to express or somehow tries that i dont get to know abt his feelings for me. Earlier when we used to talk person to person he used to get red in face, was unable to even laugh properly. Also hed get very conscious and tense whenever i joined the group. tel me wht to do i really like this guy.Need advice about a shy virgo man.?
you should write/ask something that he got to reply in your mail use some open question [ eg. how to you spend your holiday? or tell me about that movie you have seen ? ]. Send him something or let him has some of your books/cd so that he has to return to you later, or try getting the same items from him then you can prolong your meeting with him n enhance the chances of you two meet-up !
if you both still have the chance to meet, try getting some friends together, be it from his or your side, this should make him feel more comfortable when facing you. If possible to visit him, tag along friends of you, tell him you wanted to meet him n his group of friends as well !
As you get to know him better, zoom down to just the two of you eventually ! You dont have to tell him in words that you like him but show it with your genuine concern n kindness ! eg. if he is looking for certain books, try getting it for him n hand it to him personally if possible ! that sure would 'move' him !
all the best !perfect makeup
you should write/ask something that he got to reply in your mail use some open question [ eg. how to you spend your holiday? or tell me about that movie you have seen ? ]. Send him something or let him has some of your books/cd so that he has to return to you later, or try getting the same items from him then you can prolong your meeting with him n enhance the chances of you two meet-up !
if you both still have the chance to meet, try getting some friends together, be it from his or your side, this should make him feel more comfortable when facing you. If possible to visit him, tag along friends of you, tell him you wanted to meet him n his group of friends as well !
As you get to know him better, zoom down to just the two of you eventually ! You dont have to tell him in words that you like him but show it with your genuine concern n kindness ! eg. if he is looking for certain books, try getting it for him n hand it to him personally if possible ! that sure would 'move' him !
all the best !
Need advice about losing weight....?
I'm 17 years old and I want to lose some weight. I want to lose half, if not all, by mid-march, but I want to lose it all by late June. Is it possible and how can I do it?Need advice about losing weight....?
1. Forget blame and guilt: It is important for you to make sure that you don't blame anyone -- either yourself or your parents -- for where you are right now. Feeling guilty about your appearance is a negative feeling that won't help.
2. Take the long term approach: Look at what you are about to undertake not as a short term, quick, weight loss, but rather a change in lifestyle to last a lifetime. You will begin to make more nutritious food choices, add exercise, and cut back somewhat on your eating. If you falter along the way, you don't need to look at it as a failure because you know that you have a long time to make the changes. For example, if you go with your friends to eat at a fast food restaurant, and you indulge in a large order of fries, there is no need to feel guilty because you know that eating them is not a regular habit, and that at the next meal you will eat more sensibly.
3. Set reasonable goals: Losing one-half to one pound per week is very realistic. Don't drop your calorie intake to below 1,300 calories because it would be hard to get all the important nutrition that you need in less than that, plus, you probably won't feel satisfied.
4. Add daily exercise: I suspect that you may be caught in a vicious cycle of not exercising, eating and not having energy. Exercising actually makes you feel more energetic once you have made a habit of it. If you don't feel like you have energy to exercise now, start out with some physical activity that will get you moving, but won't require a lot energy. How about taking the dog for a walk? Or, if you don't have a dog, take the neighbor's dog for a walk. Once you have done some walking, every day for a couple of weeks, try running for a short distance. Get out on your bicycle, or roller blades, or shoot some baskets in the driveway. If you are at a loss for exercise ideas, speak to your gym teacher. I'll bet they would love to help you out. Most teachers are thrilled with kids that are self-motivated to improve.
5. Enlist the support of your family: Have a serious talk with your parents and ask them to help. They should be able to help you find materials on nutritious eating, and can help purchase the foods that will help, such as fresh fruits for snacks and whole grain cereals for breakfast. And they can avoid purchasing foods that will tempt you with poor choices, such as sodas, chips, candy, donuts or cookies.
6. Find measures of success besides weight loss: This isn't just about losing weight, it's about getting healthier for good. So, don't measure your success merely on how much weight you lose. Other things you can look at (for example) may be the amount of time you spent being physically active and not watching television, an increase in endurance (for example, biking for a longer distance or jogging for a longer period of time), or a week of making nutritious snack choices (for example, after school you picked a yogurt fruit smoothie instead of cookies and a soda).
7. Block out cultural messages that emphasize being thin: Decide not to focus on the television shows with actresses or actors that are too thin, as well as fashion magazines with overly thin models. In the real world, most people don't look like that. In fact, it is hard to look like a model and still get the appropriate nutrition from an adequate amount of food. Instead, take a look at high school and college athletes. Most of them are muscular, full bodied and brimming over with good health! You don't have to be a full fledged athlete to look or feel that way, but once you have developed an active lifestyle and good eating habits, you will.
8. Schedule a visit with your health-care provider: If you think your energy level is unusually low, have your mom or dad call the doctor. It may be that some health problem is contributing to how you feel.
9. Find your motivation from within: Weight loss won't happen unless the desire comes from inside you. No amount of outside pressure will do the job.
Good luck to you and have fun developing a happy and healthy lifestyleNeed advice about losing weight....?
it helps to stay active... like running or even walking helps... if your not active right now, start slow cause you dont want to hurt youself then increase how much you walk/run weekly... working out can help tone you up and will make you feel really good. Fruit also helps you lose weight and eating healthy, not snaking either.... theres a nother way, if you switch up what you eat and when... like when you normally eat breakfast, eat dinner or lunch, when you eat lunch, eat dinner or breakfast, when you eat dinner, eat breakfast or lunch.... idk how but it works!
Its simple. No pills, no cheating, no excuses.
EAT LESS MOVE AROUND MORE.
Push yourself in your workouts and eat around 1,200 calories a day (at the most). I have lost 10 pounds in a week and a half by simply doing that. I jog and hour a day, meet with a personal trainer two times a week, and eat 1,000 calories a day. If you really look at foods and compare calories you can find some filling low calories options that allow you to eat all day.
Here are a few tips:
1. You MUST exercise if you want to lose weight and keep it off, so do something every day, even if it’s just a 15-minute walk around the neighborhood. Don’t say you don’t have time for exercise; you have to MAKE time. Yes, it takes time and effort, but you’re worth it, right?
2. Walk as much as you want, but don’t do cardio for more than 40 minutes at a time. If you do, you risk burning muscle instead of fat.
3. If you do strength training, use light weights and do lots of repetitions. That’ll really help you “tone up.”
4. Your diet will make you or break you. You have probably learned bad eating habits over time (most people do). That’s not your fault, but now you have to deal with it. Make a commitment to yourself to unlearn those bad habits and re-learn better habits.
5. Eat breakfast every day within an hour of getting up. People who don’t are 450% more likely to be overweight.
6. Eat six small meals or snacks per day instead of three squares per day or one big meal per day. Your body expends energy digesting your food, so eating smaller portions more often keeps your metabolism running high because you’re constantly digesting food.
7. Avoid these as much as possible:
-- Trans fat (any type of partially or fully hydrogenated oil)
-- High fructose corn syrup (soft drinks are LOADED with it)
-- Fast food
-- Junk food
-- White sugar, white flour, white rice, white potatoes
-- The deadly C’s (cookies, cakes, candy, chips, cola)
8. Build your diet around these trim-body-friendly foods:
-- Nuts, any kind (almonds are best)
-- Beans/Legumes
-- Fresh vegetables (green is GREAT!!!)
-- Dairy products (as long as they’re low-fat or non-fat)
-- Eggs
-- Lean meats (fish and poultry top the list)
-- Olive oil
-- Whole grain breads/cereals/pasta
-- Fresh fruits (anything that ends in “berry” is a winner)
-- Tea (green tea or black pekoe tea)
-- Cold water or ice water (your body has to expend extra calories to heat it up)
9. Desserts and treats are the exception, not the rule. Having said that, however, (1) you can have a couple of pieces of chocolate every day – just don’t overdo, and (2) Allow yourself one “cheat meal” every week where you eat and drink whatever you want as long as you don’t gorge yourself. That’ll help keep you from feeling deprived and it’ll make it easier to stick with your new healthy eating plan.
Good luck!
1. Forget blame and guilt: It is important for you to make sure that you don't blame anyone -- either yourself or your parents -- for where you are right now. Feeling guilty about your appearance is a negative feeling that won't help.
2. Take the long term approach: Look at what you are about to undertake not as a short term, quick, weight loss, but rather a change in lifestyle to last a lifetime. You will begin to make more nutritious food choices, add exercise, and cut back somewhat on your eating. If you falter along the way, you don't need to look at it as a failure because you know that you have a long time to make the changes. For example, if you go with your friends to eat at a fast food restaurant, and you indulge in a large order of fries, there is no need to feel guilty because you know that eating them is not a regular habit, and that at the next meal you will eat more sensibly.
3. Set reasonable goals: Losing one-half to one pound per week is very realistic. Don't drop your calorie intake to below 1,300 calories because it would be hard to get all the important nutrition that you need in less than that, plus, you probably won't feel satisfied.
4. Add daily exercise: I suspect that you may be caught in a vicious cycle of not exercising, eating and not having energy. Exercising actually makes you feel more energetic once you have made a habit of it. If you don't feel like you have energy to exercise now, start out with some physical activity that will get you moving, but won't require a lot energy. How about taking the dog for a walk? Or, if you don't have a dog, take the neighbor's dog for a walk. Once you have done some walking, every day for a couple of weeks, try running for a short distance. Get out on your bicycle, or roller blades, or shoot some baskets in the driveway. If you are at a loss for exercise ideas, speak to your gym teacher. I'll bet they would love to help you out. Most teachers are thrilled with kids that are self-motivated to improve.
5. Enlist the support of your family: Have a serious talk with your parents and ask them to help. They should be able to help you find materials on nutritious eating, and can help purchase the foods that will help, such as fresh fruits for snacks and whole grain cereals for breakfast. And they can avoid purchasing foods that will tempt you with poor choices, such as sodas, chips, candy, donuts or cookies.
6. Find measures of success besides weight loss: This isn't just about losing weight, it's about getting healthier for good. So, don't measure your success merely on how much weight you lose. Other things you can look at (for example) may be the amount of time you spent being physically active and not watching television, an increase in endurance (for example, biking for a longer distance or jogging for a longer period of time), or a week of making nutritious snack choices (for example, after school you picked a yogurt fruit smoothie instead of cookies and a soda).
7. Block out cultural messages that emphasize being thin: Decide not to focus on the television shows with actresses or actors that are too thin, as well as fashion magazines with overly thin models. In the real world, most people don't look like that. In fact, it is hard to look like a model and still get the appropriate nutrition from an adequate amount of food. Instead, take a look at high school and college athletes. Most of them are muscular, full bodied and brimming over with good health! You don't have to be a full fledged athlete to look or feel that way, but once you have developed an active lifestyle and good eating habits, you will.
8. Schedule a visit with your health-care provider: If you think your energy level is unusually low, have your mom or dad call the doctor. It may be that some health problem is contributing to how you feel.
9. Find your motivation from within: Weight loss won't happen unless the desire comes from inside you. No amount of outside pressure will do the job.
Good luck to you and have fun developing a happy and healthy lifestyleNeed advice about losing weight....?
it helps to stay active... like running or even walking helps... if your not active right now, start slow cause you dont want to hurt youself then increase how much you walk/run weekly... working out can help tone you up and will make you feel really good. Fruit also helps you lose weight and eating healthy, not snaking either.... theres a nother way, if you switch up what you eat and when... like when you normally eat breakfast, eat dinner or lunch, when you eat lunch, eat dinner or breakfast, when you eat dinner, eat breakfast or lunch.... idk how but it works!
Its simple. No pills, no cheating, no excuses.
EAT LESS MOVE AROUND MORE.
Push yourself in your workouts and eat around 1,200 calories a day (at the most). I have lost 10 pounds in a week and a half by simply doing that. I jog and hour a day, meet with a personal trainer two times a week, and eat 1,000 calories a day. If you really look at foods and compare calories you can find some filling low calories options that allow you to eat all day.
Here are a few tips:
1. You MUST exercise if you want to lose weight and keep it off, so do something every day, even if it’s just a 15-minute walk around the neighborhood. Don’t say you don’t have time for exercise; you have to MAKE time. Yes, it takes time and effort, but you’re worth it, right?
2. Walk as much as you want, but don’t do cardio for more than 40 minutes at a time. If you do, you risk burning muscle instead of fat.
3. If you do strength training, use light weights and do lots of repetitions. That’ll really help you “tone up.”
4. Your diet will make you or break you. You have probably learned bad eating habits over time (most people do). That’s not your fault, but now you have to deal with it. Make a commitment to yourself to unlearn those bad habits and re-learn better habits.
5. Eat breakfast every day within an hour of getting up. People who don’t are 450% more likely to be overweight.
6. Eat six small meals or snacks per day instead of three squares per day or one big meal per day. Your body expends energy digesting your food, so eating smaller portions more often keeps your metabolism running high because you’re constantly digesting food.
7. Avoid these as much as possible:
-- Trans fat (any type of partially or fully hydrogenated oil)
-- High fructose corn syrup (soft drinks are LOADED with it)
-- Fast food
-- Junk food
-- White sugar, white flour, white rice, white potatoes
-- The deadly C’s (cookies, cakes, candy, chips, cola)
8. Build your diet around these trim-body-friendly foods:
-- Nuts, any kind (almonds are best)
-- Beans/Legumes
-- Fresh vegetables (green is GREAT!!!)
-- Dairy products (as long as they’re low-fat or non-fat)
-- Eggs
-- Lean meats (fish and poultry top the list)
-- Olive oil
-- Whole grain breads/cereals/pasta
-- Fresh fruits (anything that ends in “berry” is a winner)
-- Tea (green tea or black pekoe tea)
-- Cold water or ice water (your body has to expend extra calories to heat it up)
9. Desserts and treats are the exception, not the rule. Having said that, however, (1) you can have a couple of pieces of chocolate every day – just don’t overdo, and (2) Allow yourself one “cheat meal” every week where you eat and drink whatever you want as long as you don’t gorge yourself. That’ll help keep you from feeling deprived and it’ll make it easier to stick with your new healthy eating plan.
Good luck!
Need advice about running.?
By August 17th i need to be able to run a mile in under 8 minutes.
I can do it in 10 flat now.
i know its a horrible time and thats why i need the help!
Please answer, thanks(:Need advice about running.?
Keep running! Every day go out and run at least a mile. If you can, do 2 or 3 miles. If you can't do that yet, then gradually add a little distance every few days to your run until you get up to a longer distance. Do this for a few weeks and you will have built up your endurance a lot. After that, try timing your mile to see how close you are to your goal. If you still have farther to go, do some speed work.
A good speed drill is to try to sprint about a quarter mile. Go as fast as you can for a quarter mile, then rest for 5 or more minutes. Then sprint another quarter mile. And so on.
If you do long runs 3-4 days a week and sprint drills 2 days a week you will definitely see your mile time improve!Need advice about running.?
run 2 miles everyday, getting faster each time. then the week before, run the mile faster each time! it'll be easy!! don't worry
Look into local running stores. Most offer a once a week training group that is free and open to the public.
I can do it in 10 flat now.
i know its a horrible time and thats why i need the help!
Please answer, thanks(:Need advice about running.?
Keep running! Every day go out and run at least a mile. If you can, do 2 or 3 miles. If you can't do that yet, then gradually add a little distance every few days to your run until you get up to a longer distance. Do this for a few weeks and you will have built up your endurance a lot. After that, try timing your mile to see how close you are to your goal. If you still have farther to go, do some speed work.
A good speed drill is to try to sprint about a quarter mile. Go as fast as you can for a quarter mile, then rest for 5 or more minutes. Then sprint another quarter mile. And so on.
If you do long runs 3-4 days a week and sprint drills 2 days a week you will definitely see your mile time improve!Need advice about running.?
run 2 miles everyday, getting faster each time. then the week before, run the mile faster each time! it'll be easy!! don't worry
Look into local running stores. Most offer a once a week training group that is free and open to the public.
Need advice about a girl I like...?
So I like this girl that works at a video game store...
anyone have any advice?
I've been in there a couple times, she talked to me, she's cute and seems really friendly and likes video games.
I just remembered she said she plays world of warcraft.. so should I be like what server are you on? and then talk to her on there?Need advice about a girl I like...?
I agree with Bad Kitty. Definitely do it in person. Take a chance and just pretend like you're talking w/ other friends. That'll make it easier. Also starting with other topics (like asking for help) helps too.Need advice about a girl I like...?
Just ask her what faction and what type of character she plays...Then say maybe you'll create a character on that server and play with her... =)
what is warcraft? if you want to get her attention rent a love story and ask her out.
Just be yourself. Yeah start talking about World of Warcraft and suggest that maybe it'll be fun to play online together or something. Then maybe you can move on to other topics that you guys both like and then somehow find out about her and tell a little bit about yourself so she can get to know you.
you could ask what server she is on. you can set up a LAN party and ask if she would like to come. try to find a way interact with her outside of the store and just become friends and go from there
no. you man up and talk to her whenever you see her at the store. as long as she doesnt look too intimidating you'll be alright.
Why not? The best way to start a relationship with a girl is to talk to her. You're never gonna get anywhere just looking at her from across the room. Talk to her about World of Warcraft, then ask her if you could play together (I don't know a lick about the game), and play her. Make additional reasons for you to talk in the future.
Yeah great! At least you know what she's into, and that you have something in common.
Why not chat to her for a bit, then ask her out to something you think you'd both enjoy? Something more like ';friends'; than a ';date';, because it's more fun and a good way to get to know each other properly.
if u had that line thought out...then y dont u just go for it.
what i have found out is that you don't know if you don't ask. Just ask her and don't torture yourself.
just go in there when she working , ask her about video games like your looking for something and then get kinda flirty and joke around, then ask her if she would like to go out to a movie or something. be a man girls love when a guy steps up ,dont do it over server, do it in person.
tell hur haw you feall it wurks whith me!!!!
um no stupied dont do that why dont you ask her out instead of ask her what server are you.
thats nothing to get advice on
anyone have any advice?
I've been in there a couple times, she talked to me, she's cute and seems really friendly and likes video games.
I just remembered she said she plays world of warcraft.. so should I be like what server are you on? and then talk to her on there?Need advice about a girl I like...?
I agree with Bad Kitty. Definitely do it in person. Take a chance and just pretend like you're talking w/ other friends. That'll make it easier. Also starting with other topics (like asking for help) helps too.Need advice about a girl I like...?
Just ask her what faction and what type of character she plays...Then say maybe you'll create a character on that server and play with her... =)
what is warcraft? if you want to get her attention rent a love story and ask her out.
Just be yourself. Yeah start talking about World of Warcraft and suggest that maybe it'll be fun to play online together or something. Then maybe you can move on to other topics that you guys both like and then somehow find out about her and tell a little bit about yourself so she can get to know you.
you could ask what server she is on. you can set up a LAN party and ask if she would like to come. try to find a way interact with her outside of the store and just become friends and go from there
no. you man up and talk to her whenever you see her at the store. as long as she doesnt look too intimidating you'll be alright.
Why not? The best way to start a relationship with a girl is to talk to her. You're never gonna get anywhere just looking at her from across the room. Talk to her about World of Warcraft, then ask her if you could play together (I don't know a lick about the game), and play her. Make additional reasons for you to talk in the future.
Yeah great! At least you know what she's into, and that you have something in common.
Why not chat to her for a bit, then ask her out to something you think you'd both enjoy? Something more like ';friends'; than a ';date';, because it's more fun and a good way to get to know each other properly.
if u had that line thought out...then y dont u just go for it.
what i have found out is that you don't know if you don't ask. Just ask her and don't torture yourself.
just go in there when she working , ask her about video games like your looking for something and then get kinda flirty and joke around, then ask her if she would like to go out to a movie or something. be a man girls love when a guy steps up ,dont do it over server, do it in person.
tell hur haw you feall it wurks whith me!!!!
um no stupied dont do that why dont you ask her out instead of ask her what server are you.
thats nothing to get advice on
Need advice about Dad? ASAP!!! Need as many answer's as possibe!?
Ok so my parents are divorced and my dad lies to my face and twists words around so he acts like the good guy in any situation. He blames me for stuff. He has even told me i cost to much money. I have a really hard time trusting guy's now. I think he has completley screwd up my life. Nobody ever listens to me or understands how hard it is. I am falling apart and i think i am going to lose my mind if i have to see him or talk to him again.
Do you think that i should have the parenting time suspended forever? Do you think that he diserves to be a parent(i don't)?
Need opinions here?Need advice about Dad? ASAP!!! Need as many answer's as possibe!?
How about you refuse to go see him anymore? If you can explain to your mother why you don't want to see him any longer on his weekend visits, go for it. Explain to her what you have posted here. Once you get older you can try and build a relationship with him again, with YOU setting the ground rules.
Sounds like dad is trying to put you in the middle of the divorce. Too bad he can't be an adult. Probably explains why your folks are split.
Good Luck!Need advice about Dad? ASAP!!! Need as many answer's as possibe!?
since your dad is toxic it's time for you to cut him from your life. just because he is your parent or because he is family doesn't mean that he can treat you like crap and it doesn't mean that he has to be friends. it seems to me like your dad is way insecure and because of that he is acting outwardly by trying to make himself seem bigger than everyone else is.
http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Parents-Susa鈥?/a>
try getting the above book. althogh your dad may not be toxic by the books definition...he is in some way. this book may help you to deal with his toxicity effectively.
How old are you? If you're still a minor (under 18), and your dad has even partial custody, you're going to have to get your mother to prove that he's an unfit parent. So talk to your mom about this, and see what she says. You might need some counseling as well, especially if you have a hard time trusting men. Your dad isn't all men, he's 1 man. You just sound like a teenager here to me. And the way you feel is completely normal, because all teens think that their parents don't understand them.
And no, I don't think he needs his parental rights severed, unless he's being abusive.
why don't you try to talk to your mom about what your dad is saying to you see if she can advise you
He's probably pissed because he has to pay lots in child support. It's NOT your fault that the marriage didn't last. That's the main point here. He is takings things out on you and no one deserves that kind of treatment. I would look into the Department of Children and Family Services. Let them know what is going on. Maybe they can help you with your problem. They take things seriously if no one else is listening to you. Let them know exactly what he is saying and doing. They might help you find a counselor. Don't lose faith in all guys. He is messing with your mind. Just try to ignore it and try to not spend time with him. What does your mom have to say about it?
You need to stay away from your dad if it is at all possible.
stay away from him!! he has no right saying those things to you and he doesn't deserve to be a dad. please don't see him anymore until he decides to clean up his act!!
I have a father just like that...
Just know that some fathers just don't know how to be a father their darn selves! They are frightened that you may end up like them so they just make up things and excuses why they did or didn't do curtain things to make life better. I accept that b/c I now understand. Right now, I just call my dad to say hi and try to see him but he always makes up excuses. I just give him phone calls every now and then just to say hi, just to let him know that I still think of him but I keep our conversations at a limit b/c I don't want to be hurt from broken promises and etc. My advice to you is to do the same. Just focus on yourself and hopefully in the future, you will carefully pick someone who will not be like that to your children. Then again men do change so, I think he'll come around. Mine came for 15 mins to my apt for Thanksgiving. I thought it was going to snow. Plus, he called me for my birthday- I was floored! He didn't do that for my other sibilings. Just don't ask him why he does or don't do whatever. My brother died last year in a car accident and he showed no sadness, but I knew he was dying inside b/c my brother just left from talking to him the day he died. My brother went to him and wrote his number down and put it in my dad's shirt pocket and said call me(b/c he don't). I know he regrets that! I just let him be and he seems to come around (not often) but at least once in a blue moon. We are all humans and relate to things in life differently. Just don't give up!
dad cares about one thing and that is dad,he is looking out for number one,stay clear of him until he realizes he is making a big mistake
What your dad is doing borders on emotional abuse. Tell your mom and the social worker who handles your case that you don't want to see your dad anymore, or if you must, that your time together be supervised. If you deliver your messge firmly and calmly, they will be more likely to listen to you.
Ask your mom to enroll you with a therapist so that you can talk through and overcome your distrust of men.
you sound like you need space. maybe a couple months... maybe years... maybe a life time. if or when you allow him in your life, it should only be under the conition that he is respectful. that is emtional abuse hon... not all guys are like that
I wish my girls could see there fathers faults. He uses them just like he used me. He has lived with two of the daughters for free. He can't watch the grandkids because of his health(which he plays to his own advantage.) He is able to ride his motorcycle all of the country in all kinds of weather. He drinks, smokes and does all kind of work for his girlfriend, mows her lawn, paints, builds her a shed , etc. this list is too long. He is too tight to send flowers to his only uncle funeral , but buys his girlfriend diamonds. Tells, his grandchildren he can't afford much so he gives them savings bonds. that cost him $12.50 each. He lies so much he does not even know what the truth is. He makes sure he goes back to his own place each night so he can tell the girls he and his girlfriend are just friends. He is such a work or art. He has messed up the girls for all his lies. His one daughter is now following in his footsteps, she has been cheating on her husband and calling it friendship. They have learned to lie from the expert. If you come back to your apartment each night they do not call it and affair. Yet, she is not sure if the last grandson is her husbands. Thank goodness you see the light. tell me how my girls will finally see the light of day. He is such a charmer and has lied so much even he doesn't know the truth. But it does not make a good parent and screws everyones life up. I think you dad needs to be shown the door to your life until he can get his head on straight. Good for you for seeing thur the man. I know you love him and he is your dad, but you deserve only the best life can offer and he sure is not it.
Your Dad sounds like a jerk. You don't mention your age, but keep in mind before you know it, you'll be an adult. Time flies - trust me. Speak with a school councillor or a teacher - they are adults that WON'T think your Dad looks like a good guy. There are ALOT of people out there that shouldn't be parents - just promise to be a good one when your time comes. I know that it seems like the end of the world when you have problems at home - it really isn't. My father was strict and I contemplated suicide when I was a teen. Thank God - I didn't do it. Now, I'm 40, have 2 great teens of my own, and my Dad has passed away. I laugh now at how much drama I felt when I was a teen. It WILL pass. Good Luck!
Well how old r you??
My ex husband does the same thing to my boys. He is verbally abusing you and if he truly loved you he would not lie to you and talk to you that way. I think that you should do what makes YOU happy, am not sure how old you are but you do not deserve to spend time with someone who treats you that way-relative or no relative-can you talk to your mom about this or maybe a counselor or close relative? It sounds like your dad is taking his anger and frustrations out on you simply because you're convenient. You don't deserve that or need that in your life.
Tell him to shove it!! And then remind him that when he's older and in a old folk's home and wants to see you, he'll only have himself to blame that you won't visit.
tell him that u love him cause he is ur father but u can longer be around him because he is to hurtfull and u need only things in ur life to enrich ur life and if he can chang his ways then u will let him back in
how old are you? where is your mom? see if you can move to your moms. or stay out of his way until you can move out and promise yourself to never treat your children this way. my dad was the same way, now he wants a relationship and its hard for me to do that. my children are my life, i live to guide and help them in there life. good luck.
I don't think that you 'can' have his 'parenting time suspended forever' ... that is something that only a 'court of law' may do, and you may be too 'young' to have your 'opinions' respected in a court of law. You should talk to your mother first, and ask for her 'help' ... because it may be that only she can actually 'sue' for 'no visitation' ... but you should also be aware that getting the court involved means that if you 'change your mind' and want to see your father again for any reason, you may not 'be allowed to' by the court. You write 'well' even though you have 'misspelled' some words, so I'm guessing that you are a 'teenager' so your 'best bet' might be simply to 'visit your dad' when his 'visit time' is scheduled, and just 'live with his lies and hatred'... which can be 'extremely easy' for you if you can just remember that what your dad 'thinks and/or says' don't have to 'influence you' in ANY WAY. All you 'must do' is 'put up with him' because that is what the court has 'ordered.' I know that it is 'hard' for you and that you think that 'nobody ever listens or understands how hard it is' ... but I think that you are 'putting onto someone else' the responsibility for a 'fix' for you that may not even be possible. No one should 'deserve' to be a parent, because EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES and unfortunately many of those mistakes 'hurt' our children. As 'a child' your job is simply to 'try to grow up to be the BEST I can be' and if that means that you must 'endure' your dad and try to 'ignore his ravings' then maybe 'just doing it' will actually HELP YOU TO UNDERSTAND what it means to be 'the BEST you can be.' So ... go 'talk with' your mom, but if you don't get the answer you 'want' I have at least given you the best 'advice' on how to 'deal with your dad' when you must visit him. Remember, all you are doing is 'visiting' and you don't have to 'listen to and take in' anything he says ... and that also should mean that you may be 'wary' of men after this, but that you should also be able to 'give them room' to be who THEY ARE and not 'see all men as your father is' because you should know that all men are not 'bad' ... you simply must 'look for a good man' to be your husband, lover, and you have a WONDERFUL EXAMPLE of the 'BAD' to help you make the 'right choice' for yourself.
Speaking as someone who lost there dad to cancer at a very young age I'd say.... No you shouldn't stop seeing your dad. I promise you later in life you will regret it. Why not go to counsiling to find out how to better deal with him? Or better yet see if he'll go to counsiling WITH you? That way you can both talk about issues and perhaps get some help on how to relate to one another better. I know parents are a hard thing to deal with... but just giving up on your dad isn't the right thing to do. Give it a try if it fails then cut your losses but if it works you'lll have a dad and friend for the rest of your life. And that is SO important.
I think go with ur mother
Talk to mom or another family member give yourself distance from dad my dad was the same way but as far as your too much money that's tough for him he has to support you until your 18 and if not did you know you can sue him for back child support -if he does not -YOU can .Find a job un the mean time and do good in school. I know it's hard but you can do it good luck! :)
Do you think that i should have the parenting time suspended forever? Do you think that he diserves to be a parent(i don't)?
Need opinions here?Need advice about Dad? ASAP!!! Need as many answer's as possibe!?
How about you refuse to go see him anymore? If you can explain to your mother why you don't want to see him any longer on his weekend visits, go for it. Explain to her what you have posted here. Once you get older you can try and build a relationship with him again, with YOU setting the ground rules.
Sounds like dad is trying to put you in the middle of the divorce. Too bad he can't be an adult. Probably explains why your folks are split.
Good Luck!Need advice about Dad? ASAP!!! Need as many answer's as possibe!?
since your dad is toxic it's time for you to cut him from your life. just because he is your parent or because he is family doesn't mean that he can treat you like crap and it doesn't mean that he has to be friends. it seems to me like your dad is way insecure and because of that he is acting outwardly by trying to make himself seem bigger than everyone else is.
http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Parents-Susa鈥?/a>
try getting the above book. althogh your dad may not be toxic by the books definition...he is in some way. this book may help you to deal with his toxicity effectively.
How old are you? If you're still a minor (under 18), and your dad has even partial custody, you're going to have to get your mother to prove that he's an unfit parent. So talk to your mom about this, and see what she says. You might need some counseling as well, especially if you have a hard time trusting men. Your dad isn't all men, he's 1 man. You just sound like a teenager here to me. And the way you feel is completely normal, because all teens think that their parents don't understand them.
And no, I don't think he needs his parental rights severed, unless he's being abusive.
why don't you try to talk to your mom about what your dad is saying to you see if she can advise you
He's probably pissed because he has to pay lots in child support. It's NOT your fault that the marriage didn't last. That's the main point here. He is takings things out on you and no one deserves that kind of treatment. I would look into the Department of Children and Family Services. Let them know what is going on. Maybe they can help you with your problem. They take things seriously if no one else is listening to you. Let them know exactly what he is saying and doing. They might help you find a counselor. Don't lose faith in all guys. He is messing with your mind. Just try to ignore it and try to not spend time with him. What does your mom have to say about it?
You need to stay away from your dad if it is at all possible.
stay away from him!! he has no right saying those things to you and he doesn't deserve to be a dad. please don't see him anymore until he decides to clean up his act!!
I have a father just like that...
Just know that some fathers just don't know how to be a father their darn selves! They are frightened that you may end up like them so they just make up things and excuses why they did or didn't do curtain things to make life better. I accept that b/c I now understand. Right now, I just call my dad to say hi and try to see him but he always makes up excuses. I just give him phone calls every now and then just to say hi, just to let him know that I still think of him but I keep our conversations at a limit b/c I don't want to be hurt from broken promises and etc. My advice to you is to do the same. Just focus on yourself and hopefully in the future, you will carefully pick someone who will not be like that to your children. Then again men do change so, I think he'll come around. Mine came for 15 mins to my apt for Thanksgiving. I thought it was going to snow. Plus, he called me for my birthday- I was floored! He didn't do that for my other sibilings. Just don't ask him why he does or don't do whatever. My brother died last year in a car accident and he showed no sadness, but I knew he was dying inside b/c my brother just left from talking to him the day he died. My brother went to him and wrote his number down and put it in my dad's shirt pocket and said call me(b/c he don't). I know he regrets that! I just let him be and he seems to come around (not often) but at least once in a blue moon. We are all humans and relate to things in life differently. Just don't give up!
dad cares about one thing and that is dad,he is looking out for number one,stay clear of him until he realizes he is making a big mistake
What your dad is doing borders on emotional abuse. Tell your mom and the social worker who handles your case that you don't want to see your dad anymore, or if you must, that your time together be supervised. If you deliver your messge firmly and calmly, they will be more likely to listen to you.
Ask your mom to enroll you with a therapist so that you can talk through and overcome your distrust of men.
you sound like you need space. maybe a couple months... maybe years... maybe a life time. if or when you allow him in your life, it should only be under the conition that he is respectful. that is emtional abuse hon... not all guys are like that
I wish my girls could see there fathers faults. He uses them just like he used me. He has lived with two of the daughters for free. He can't watch the grandkids because of his health(which he plays to his own advantage.) He is able to ride his motorcycle all of the country in all kinds of weather. He drinks, smokes and does all kind of work for his girlfriend, mows her lawn, paints, builds her a shed , etc. this list is too long. He is too tight to send flowers to his only uncle funeral , but buys his girlfriend diamonds. Tells, his grandchildren he can't afford much so he gives them savings bonds. that cost him $12.50 each. He lies so much he does not even know what the truth is. He makes sure he goes back to his own place each night so he can tell the girls he and his girlfriend are just friends. He is such a work or art. He has messed up the girls for all his lies. His one daughter is now following in his footsteps, she has been cheating on her husband and calling it friendship. They have learned to lie from the expert. If you come back to your apartment each night they do not call it and affair. Yet, she is not sure if the last grandson is her husbands. Thank goodness you see the light. tell me how my girls will finally see the light of day. He is such a charmer and has lied so much even he doesn't know the truth. But it does not make a good parent and screws everyones life up. I think you dad needs to be shown the door to your life until he can get his head on straight. Good for you for seeing thur the man. I know you love him and he is your dad, but you deserve only the best life can offer and he sure is not it.
Your Dad sounds like a jerk. You don't mention your age, but keep in mind before you know it, you'll be an adult. Time flies - trust me. Speak with a school councillor or a teacher - they are adults that WON'T think your Dad looks like a good guy. There are ALOT of people out there that shouldn't be parents - just promise to be a good one when your time comes. I know that it seems like the end of the world when you have problems at home - it really isn't. My father was strict and I contemplated suicide when I was a teen. Thank God - I didn't do it. Now, I'm 40, have 2 great teens of my own, and my Dad has passed away. I laugh now at how much drama I felt when I was a teen. It WILL pass. Good Luck!
Well how old r you??
My ex husband does the same thing to my boys. He is verbally abusing you and if he truly loved you he would not lie to you and talk to you that way. I think that you should do what makes YOU happy, am not sure how old you are but you do not deserve to spend time with someone who treats you that way-relative or no relative-can you talk to your mom about this or maybe a counselor or close relative? It sounds like your dad is taking his anger and frustrations out on you simply because you're convenient. You don't deserve that or need that in your life.
Tell him to shove it!! And then remind him that when he's older and in a old folk's home and wants to see you, he'll only have himself to blame that you won't visit.
tell him that u love him cause he is ur father but u can longer be around him because he is to hurtfull and u need only things in ur life to enrich ur life and if he can chang his ways then u will let him back in
how old are you? where is your mom? see if you can move to your moms. or stay out of his way until you can move out and promise yourself to never treat your children this way. my dad was the same way, now he wants a relationship and its hard for me to do that. my children are my life, i live to guide and help them in there life. good luck.
I don't think that you 'can' have his 'parenting time suspended forever' ... that is something that only a 'court of law' may do, and you may be too 'young' to have your 'opinions' respected in a court of law. You should talk to your mother first, and ask for her 'help' ... because it may be that only she can actually 'sue' for 'no visitation' ... but you should also be aware that getting the court involved means that if you 'change your mind' and want to see your father again for any reason, you may not 'be allowed to' by the court. You write 'well' even though you have 'misspelled' some words, so I'm guessing that you are a 'teenager' so your 'best bet' might be simply to 'visit your dad' when his 'visit time' is scheduled, and just 'live with his lies and hatred'... which can be 'extremely easy' for you if you can just remember that what your dad 'thinks and/or says' don't have to 'influence you' in ANY WAY. All you 'must do' is 'put up with him' because that is what the court has 'ordered.' I know that it is 'hard' for you and that you think that 'nobody ever listens or understands how hard it is' ... but I think that you are 'putting onto someone else' the responsibility for a 'fix' for you that may not even be possible. No one should 'deserve' to be a parent, because EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES and unfortunately many of those mistakes 'hurt' our children. As 'a child' your job is simply to 'try to grow up to be the BEST I can be' and if that means that you must 'endure' your dad and try to 'ignore his ravings' then maybe 'just doing it' will actually HELP YOU TO UNDERSTAND what it means to be 'the BEST you can be.' So ... go 'talk with' your mom, but if you don't get the answer you 'want' I have at least given you the best 'advice' on how to 'deal with your dad' when you must visit him. Remember, all you are doing is 'visiting' and you don't have to 'listen to and take in' anything he says ... and that also should mean that you may be 'wary' of men after this, but that you should also be able to 'give them room' to be who THEY ARE and not 'see all men as your father is' because you should know that all men are not 'bad' ... you simply must 'look for a good man' to be your husband, lover, and you have a WONDERFUL EXAMPLE of the 'BAD' to help you make the 'right choice' for yourself.
Speaking as someone who lost there dad to cancer at a very young age I'd say.... No you shouldn't stop seeing your dad. I promise you later in life you will regret it. Why not go to counsiling to find out how to better deal with him? Or better yet see if he'll go to counsiling WITH you? That way you can both talk about issues and perhaps get some help on how to relate to one another better. I know parents are a hard thing to deal with... but just giving up on your dad isn't the right thing to do. Give it a try if it fails then cut your losses but if it works you'lll have a dad and friend for the rest of your life. And that is SO important.
I think go with ur mother
Talk to mom or another family member give yourself distance from dad my dad was the same way but as far as your too much money that's tough for him he has to support you until your 18 and if not did you know you can sue him for back child support -if he does not -YOU can .Find a job un the mean time and do good in school. I know it's hard but you can do it good luck! :)
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