My husband thinks I am addicted to yahoo answers, I think he's about to stage an intervention. Next time he brings it up how do convince him(read: deflect) that there's no need?Need advice.. about my husband...?
He's probably right and the thing is that you probably know it. Take a week break from it and you might be surprised at how much else you get done. You are depriving your husband/children and yourself of a relationship if you are glued to the computer. Also, the more addicted you are the more you will deny it, otherwise you would just get off it.Need advice.. about my husband...?
He might be legitimately concerned that you are addicted. Take the self assessment quiz attached to this answer. Take the test with your husband. If you pass, then he'll probably back off (or at least tell you what he's REALLY upset about). If you don't do so well, you'll be in a position to deal with your problem.
Get him hooked as well. We all know that YA is addictive, why fight it?
You either get him into this to or divert him with sex every time. Which is easier? If you have sex you have to shower. YA doesn't care if you play ';dirty';.
Respond quicker to his question and give him more thumbs ups and of course chose his answer as best answer more enough though they are not.
Do it at work or early in the morning before work. Never do it in front of him. It takes away from quality family time.
Sound like my situation! Bahahaha
I feel for you. I am currently going through a divorce due to my wife making fun of my avatar. People are so hurtful.
Umm... why don't you just stop going on Yahoo Answers?
Try taking a break from YA. We will forgive you.
Monday, August 23, 2010
HELP! advice about cuttin?
My brother did cut he got sent to a hospital for it i dont really cut any more but i want too i think adout killin myself more now then when i was cuttin HELPHELP! advice about cuttin?
Hey i cut myself 4 times in my whole life and i did becuase i was stressing oujt becuase i though my parents hated me so please dont do it it will just make get really derpssed at the very end when you do and it will start to burn trust me its not worth it!HELP! advice about cuttin?
don't listen to the guy/girl below. DON'T DO IT!! It's good you stopped. When you are angry write a letter to yourself expressing all those emotions and put it in a box. When you feel angry again take out the letter and read it. Do that for all the different emotions you feel good luck.
You can Email me @ Brooks090904@aol.com if you need/want advice or someone to talk to
i started writing my feelings down, and after i was done writing, i didnt feel the need to cut anymore. hope i helped(: good luck.
You have to learn how to cope with your thought life. This negative circular thinking that you are engaging in is damaging your reasoning.
You should journal your thoughts, get off caffeine especially at night, realize what a miracle you are and your circumstances that are right now presenting themselves will eventually change as will you.
Watch the movie, The Peaceful Warrior.
You should go to counseling, I dont understand all thats going on but I do care and am here for you in thought. Good Luck,
You are a miracle and there is no one else just like you as you are unique in every way.
Take care of yourself.
Your assistant
Try putting a rubber band around your wrist, and whenever you have the need to cut (which you shouldnt!!!) snap the rubber band. It ascociates pain the same way as cutting, only safer.
dont think about it just do it it only going to happen once
Do not cut yourself. I am diagnosed with depression and i used to and it gets you no where and it hurts those around you. You probably wanna be like Big Brother, but no, just dont.
the way i stopped cutting is by writing in a journal poems and such why don't you try that : ) just don't cut believe me when you get older and you look back at it you will think how stupid was i ? and also life has so much to offer why not enjoy it : )
Hey i cut myself 4 times in my whole life and i did becuase i was stressing oujt becuase i though my parents hated me so please dont do it it will just make get really derpssed at the very end when you do and it will start to burn trust me its not worth it!HELP! advice about cuttin?
don't listen to the guy/girl below. DON'T DO IT!! It's good you stopped. When you are angry write a letter to yourself expressing all those emotions and put it in a box. When you feel angry again take out the letter and read it. Do that for all the different emotions you feel good luck.
You can Email me @ Brooks090904@aol.com if you need/want advice or someone to talk to
i started writing my feelings down, and after i was done writing, i didnt feel the need to cut anymore. hope i helped(: good luck.
You have to learn how to cope with your thought life. This negative circular thinking that you are engaging in is damaging your reasoning.
You should journal your thoughts, get off caffeine especially at night, realize what a miracle you are and your circumstances that are right now presenting themselves will eventually change as will you.
Watch the movie, The Peaceful Warrior.
You should go to counseling, I dont understand all thats going on but I do care and am here for you in thought. Good Luck,
You are a miracle and there is no one else just like you as you are unique in every way.
Take care of yourself.
Your assistant
Try putting a rubber band around your wrist, and whenever you have the need to cut (which you shouldnt!!!) snap the rubber band. It ascociates pain the same way as cutting, only safer.
dont think about it just do it it only going to happen once
Do not cut yourself. I am diagnosed with depression and i used to and it gets you no where and it hurts those around you. You probably wanna be like Big Brother, but no, just dont.
the way i stopped cutting is by writing in a journal poems and such why don't you try that : ) just don't cut believe me when you get older and you look back at it you will think how stupid was i ? and also life has so much to offer why not enjoy it : )
Need advice about my bf?
ok my boyfriend like found and this other guy and really wanted us to have sex he wanted to see me with someone else with so we finally did it and it happened now hes acting all weird what should i say or doNeed advice about my bf?
eerNeed advice about my bf?
this always ruins relationships.
ive known alot of couples that have done it and none of them manange to bounce back some how.
is he bi and wanted to be with the guy too or what?
This guy wants to pass you around for his enjoyment? What do I do?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PbQzw7JkG鈥?/a>
Don't you dare let this guy use you.
eerNeed advice about my bf?
this always ruins relationships.
ive known alot of couples that have done it and none of them manange to bounce back some how.
is he bi and wanted to be with the guy too or what?
This guy wants to pass you around for his enjoyment? What do I do?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PbQzw7JkG鈥?/a>
Don't you dare let this guy use you.
Guys advice about a prom date?
ok i kind of like my hairstyler son but he's too old to go to my prom and his mom keeps saying shes gonna ask one of her other sons but i dont know anyof them, so my question is do u think the older son might fill sum type of way if i go with one of his brother that i dont even know really anything about,and never spent anytime with?Guys advice about a prom date?
im not a guy but you should at least try to get to know the guy(s) ok so i mean maybe they are even more cuter than the oldest one and you might even want to be more than friends with them give them a shotGuys advice about a prom date?
I don't understand what your asking. If all else fails, don't go to prom...............
ohhh....yeah.....
the guys is gonna expect something at night.lol. tell him you have something for him. make him think your gonna sleep with him. the give him a kiss. a small one.lol
im not a guy but you should at least try to get to know the guy(s) ok so i mean maybe they are even more cuter than the oldest one and you might even want to be more than friends with them give them a shotGuys advice about a prom date?
I don't understand what your asking. If all else fails, don't go to prom...............
ohhh....yeah.....
the guys is gonna expect something at night.lol. tell him you have something for him. make him think your gonna sleep with him. the give him a kiss. a small one.lol
Need advice about job?
I need advice on what to do here, recently my daughter was working at the same place i was and the owner fired her, he had no real reason she was only 15 when she started and he is never around to help run this place it is up to me and her. well i cant handle the teenagers at night that come in and neither could she so he desided it was her fault and fired her, he also 86ed my son and made fun of him and told me that my son was no longer welcome there because he thought he owned the place and every word was the f word out of this mans mouth as he told me. now i feel violated and angry and i want to quit i dont think i should work for someone who doesnt respect me or my family when we havent done anything wrong. i hope this made scence and thank you.Need advice about job?
Yes, I think I would not work for someone that could not treat me or my children with respect. Hopefully you will find another job soon so that you can quit this one. Good luck.Need advice about job?
Get a new job and then quit.
That is pretty sad. Definately 86 his sorry as$. He sounds like a real lowlife. No one needs that.
I would start looking for another job. Don't quit until you have one but you shouldn't work for someone you can't respect.perfect makeup
Yes, I think I would not work for someone that could not treat me or my children with respect. Hopefully you will find another job soon so that you can quit this one. Good luck.Need advice about job?
Get a new job and then quit.
That is pretty sad. Definately 86 his sorry as$. He sounds like a real lowlife. No one needs that.
I would start looking for another job. Don't quit until you have one but you shouldn't work for someone you can't respect.
Need advice about a man....?
I will try to make this short and sweet... i met a man, hit it off. been seeing him since sept 13thand offically ';dating'; his words, whatever that means, since october 24th. He took me home for thanksgiving and i met his WONDERFUL family, including his mother whom he adores.He has met my 2 children, and i have his, and he talks about my kids to his friends and family. If i am not spending the night at his place, he is at mine. So i got a little typsy one night and asked him how long b4 I was aloud to fall in love with him and he said it was WAY 2 soon for that. I can see he is into me cause we spend a lot of GOOD time together. he has clothes and other personal belongings at my house. N E way what i want to know is am I wrong for feeling like I am falling in love? Is it too soon? I think I fell for him the first night I met him...in a way, and every day i feel more. But i never really tell him. cept that one time, and look how that went. just let me know how this situation soundsNeed advice about a man....?
seems like he isnt ready for a relationship due to the past experiences he had and he doesnt want to make the same mistake again. And there is nothing wrong with falling in love with him and Im sure he loves you as well. Just give him time to forget about his past and sooner or later, he will profess his love to you as much as you do.Need advice about a man....?
I think you need to find out how he feels. If you are feeling like this and he isnt at all... then this is all too one sided.
sounds like everything is fine ....guys get scared off when we tell them we love them sometimes .... just keep it to yourself....play harder to get and he will come around....sounds like he really likes you though, so dont worry about exprssing feelings yet - just have a good time together..
wouldn't say necessailry it's a bad thing to say. maybe just let him know where you stand and it's not a thing for him to say until he feels comfortable. you're just letting him know where you are at in the relationship.
I believe from the way you are explaining this, that he is into you but at the same time don't want to admit it. You need to talk with him to see where things are goin and what he wants out of this thing you guys have. There are a lot of things that could cause him to hold back like this. He may have been hurt before in a relationship. So talk to him. I also believe it is okay for you to let him know how you feel about him. Good Luck
u can know someone forever n no fall for them n fall for some one in an instant .......follow ur heart and let his respond to urs
The first problem....was telling him when you were drinking...That type of thing you shouldn't talk about it while being a little tipsy..I know with my girlfriend I told her one night while we were talking...even though I wanted to tell her when we were out drinking..Your not wrong for falling for him...You can't control your feelings....You put it out there..now see how he responds..Maybe he was hurt in his past, or he doesn't know how to act in a great relationship..because of his past..Just give it time..everybody is different...
Well! It does sound a bit confusing to you I'm sure! It seems that you have both been on the fast track with this relationship as evident by meeting each others children and his family within a couple months of your first date. (Thats really quick! ) You both sound like you don't have much personal time away from each other because you are always spending the night at one house or the other. (Probably not a great idea. You both need some breathing time!) Although professing each others ';love'; to each is a bit premature at 2-1/2 months, you both sound like you are acting like a couple in ';love'; and for the most part living together too. I can appreciate your frustration when he caboshed your question about falling in love because in the sense of time.... it is too soon to say that. However, it is also too soon to be doing all the other things that you are doing as well. I would suggest to back off from so many overnights with each other ( absence makes the heart grow fonder!) and just slow down a bit. After a few months at a slower pace, I think the whole ';falling in love'; thing will then just naturally happen for both of you!! Good luck!
I started an affair with a married woman the week after my birthday and within 6 weeks we were virtually living together and by three months we both admitted that we had fallen in love with each other..certainly not what either of us wanted or had been looking for...we lasted 5 years together and I am still completely and totally in love with her despite her 22 years of marriage to a jet pilot (when they started dating I told her he was just me with a permanent job (Navy))..I was a land surveyor working in private industry...lots of great years with 8 yr recessions in building.one year I worked 19 days kids locked me into town rather than chase work plus who in their right mind leaves San Diego for Montana during Nov or Feb for that matter
Its possible, and very likely that you are falling in love. However, you need to not push it, let nature take its course, and see what happens. He may be feeling the same but feels like you need to take a slower pace.
well it sounds like your really fallin for him!!!but yes i think its way to soon to tell him you love him!!but i truly think your getting there
You can't help who you fall in love with whether it takes you 2 months or 3 years you can't control that feeling. I met my boyfriend in March and 2 weeks later he asked me out officially and and told me he loved me on that same night. I was kinda freaked out about it, but in time I realized I loved him too. I don't think it is too soon for feelings everyone has them some just don't show them. Good luck!
I agree with Angel Eve
seems like he isnt ready for a relationship due to the past experiences he had and he doesnt want to make the same mistake again. And there is nothing wrong with falling in love with him and Im sure he loves you as well. Just give him time to forget about his past and sooner or later, he will profess his love to you as much as you do.Need advice about a man....?
I think you need to find out how he feels. If you are feeling like this and he isnt at all... then this is all too one sided.
sounds like everything is fine ....guys get scared off when we tell them we love them sometimes .... just keep it to yourself....play harder to get and he will come around....sounds like he really likes you though, so dont worry about exprssing feelings yet - just have a good time together..
wouldn't say necessailry it's a bad thing to say. maybe just let him know where you stand and it's not a thing for him to say until he feels comfortable. you're just letting him know where you are at in the relationship.
I believe from the way you are explaining this, that he is into you but at the same time don't want to admit it. You need to talk with him to see where things are goin and what he wants out of this thing you guys have. There are a lot of things that could cause him to hold back like this. He may have been hurt before in a relationship. So talk to him. I also believe it is okay for you to let him know how you feel about him. Good Luck
u can know someone forever n no fall for them n fall for some one in an instant .......follow ur heart and let his respond to urs
The first problem....was telling him when you were drinking...That type of thing you shouldn't talk about it while being a little tipsy..I know with my girlfriend I told her one night while we were talking...even though I wanted to tell her when we were out drinking..Your not wrong for falling for him...You can't control your feelings....You put it out there..now see how he responds..Maybe he was hurt in his past, or he doesn't know how to act in a great relationship..because of his past..Just give it time..everybody is different...
Well! It does sound a bit confusing to you I'm sure! It seems that you have both been on the fast track with this relationship as evident by meeting each others children and his family within a couple months of your first date. (Thats really quick! ) You both sound like you don't have much personal time away from each other because you are always spending the night at one house or the other. (Probably not a great idea. You both need some breathing time!) Although professing each others ';love'; to each is a bit premature at 2-1/2 months, you both sound like you are acting like a couple in ';love'; and for the most part living together too. I can appreciate your frustration when he caboshed your question about falling in love because in the sense of time.... it is too soon to say that. However, it is also too soon to be doing all the other things that you are doing as well. I would suggest to back off from so many overnights with each other ( absence makes the heart grow fonder!) and just slow down a bit. After a few months at a slower pace, I think the whole ';falling in love'; thing will then just naturally happen for both of you!! Good luck!
I started an affair with a married woman the week after my birthday and within 6 weeks we were virtually living together and by three months we both admitted that we had fallen in love with each other..certainly not what either of us wanted or had been looking for...we lasted 5 years together and I am still completely and totally in love with her despite her 22 years of marriage to a jet pilot (when they started dating I told her he was just me with a permanent job (Navy))..I was a land surveyor working in private industry...lots of great years with 8 yr recessions in building.one year I worked 19 days kids locked me into town rather than chase work plus who in their right mind leaves San Diego for Montana during Nov or Feb for that matter
Its possible, and very likely that you are falling in love. However, you need to not push it, let nature take its course, and see what happens. He may be feeling the same but feels like you need to take a slower pace.
well it sounds like your really fallin for him!!!but yes i think its way to soon to tell him you love him!!but i truly think your getting there
You can't help who you fall in love with whether it takes you 2 months or 3 years you can't control that feeling. I met my boyfriend in March and 2 weeks later he asked me out officially and and told me he loved me on that same night. I was kinda freaked out about it, but in time I realized I loved him too. I don't think it is too soon for feelings everyone has them some just don't show them. Good luck!
I agree with Angel Eve
Need Advice about a late period..?
I was suppose to start my period on Friday (Sept. 7) and today I'm a day late...this has only happend to me once back in Jan. when i was TWO days late...I have been having protected sex with my boyfriend, so im not understanding why my period is late. I really need some help... Also if anyone have been through this, please share you stories and advice with me...ThanksNeed Advice about a late period..?
I would think that if your cycle is pretty regular and you are only one day late - and using protection, it is probably just your body being your body.
When I was a teenager I had very predictable periods, but now that I'm older they are way out of wack and come whenever they want to.
I'm sure you will come on soon though.Need Advice about a late period..?
you are only 1 day late, its not time to worry yet. if your about a week late, then you can worry. and if you are that late,just take a test, you can get pregnant using protection.
There are many reason why your period can be late. For example:
Have you been stressed lately?
Sometimes is just your hormones.
Sometimes protection fails (sorry)
For some reason you ovaluated later this month...
Since you didn't mention having any other symptoms in my opinion you are not pregnant but you never know... So why don't you take o pregnancy test it will give you the answer you need.
Good luck!
Dear Friend, It is likely that someone will eventually get pregnant or a disease when unmarried people temp themselves by being alone with one another. You can get support and information at a pregnancy resource center, which you can find by googling optionline, or call 1800afamily. Please take good care of your baby. Sincerely, Runner
A common myth is a woman's body runs like clockwork. Maybe you're just late a day, i mean it happens for no reason. After a week, yeah worry, but one day? Women usually don't have it on the EXACT day. Usually a day or two before or after. I wouldn't worry.
I would think that if your cycle is pretty regular and you are only one day late - and using protection, it is probably just your body being your body.
When I was a teenager I had very predictable periods, but now that I'm older they are way out of wack and come whenever they want to.
I'm sure you will come on soon though.Need Advice about a late period..?
you are only 1 day late, its not time to worry yet. if your about a week late, then you can worry. and if you are that late,just take a test, you can get pregnant using protection.
There are many reason why your period can be late. For example:
Have you been stressed lately?
Sometimes is just your hormones.
Sometimes protection fails (sorry)
For some reason you ovaluated later this month...
Since you didn't mention having any other symptoms in my opinion you are not pregnant but you never know... So why don't you take o pregnancy test it will give you the answer you need.
Good luck!
Dear Friend, It is likely that someone will eventually get pregnant or a disease when unmarried people temp themselves by being alone with one another. You can get support and information at a pregnancy resource center, which you can find by googling optionline, or call 1800afamily. Please take good care of your baby. Sincerely, Runner
A common myth is a woman's body runs like clockwork. Maybe you're just late a day, i mean it happens for no reason. After a week, yeah worry, but one day? Women usually don't have it on the EXACT day. Usually a day or two before or after. I wouldn't worry.
Advice about work stress?
Well I joined the staff of a college to support adult classes as an assistant because I was hoping to get teaching work there. They put me there for a few years, but the last 2 years they put me in 16-19 year olds classes.
I always knew I couldn't do this, I am a sensitive person and not resilient to noise and behaviour issues all day. I am highly stressed and feel meltdown.
The person who initially interviewed me has retired now, so there is nobody the staff can ask to prove I only came to the college to work with the adults.
I have talked to the new senior staff, but I feel like I am always complaining I can't cope and they could get fed up with me.
Any advice? or any legal info about work stress?
p.s. I am looking for a new job, but not very many jobs around at the moment.Advice about work stress?
Why not see what you can learn with this group? I did it in a voluntary capacity and felt it was somewhat of a juggling act, balancing their need to learn with their need to deal with numerous other issues (social, psychological, belongingness). Remember that some may have undiagnosed mental health needs, including personality disorder and autism, and the fact that someone shows interest will benefit them. At any rate all are learning to be adults - not easy. I felt that some of the qualified tutors were not that skilled at dealing with this group, maybe few people are!
How do your colleagues feel? Are you deemed competent? Surely there is always a tutor in charge of the class? I think it's good experience.Advice about work stress?
Well you could try and find a way to contact the original interviewer if you know his name or if the people you are working for know it. This might get him to say you only signed up for adult classes. If not then try taking a day or two off to relax and figure out ways to relax off the stress. Then try and cope with it until you find another job.
Firstly, for a new job upload your CV or whatever to a site like Monster where schools and other companies can find and contact you from.
About the stress just tell them that if no-one helps you you'll quit (once you've found a job). This won't make you sound like a ***** if you let them know what you're going through, and if it does who cares, they didn't care much about you so why care about them?
Anyways if you need anymore help with the stress checkout:
http://psychcentral.com/
Good Luck!!
KJ
If you work in a college you should have a performance management meeting at least yearly..bring it up then. There is always someone that out ranks the head of these places and in most places its the govonours of the school..you could speak to them. If you are not in a union..join one and speak to them. I think however your first port of call should be arranging to have a proper meeting with the heads of your school..dont just keep grabbing five mins with them..actually say i would like to arrange a meeting with you please. If all else fails..go off with stress when you come back you will be given a return to work interview..and if you mention this to them then..they will HAVE to do something about it as they have to document these things..if you dont see them writing in the meeting ask them if they intend to and ask for a copy. Also try and find a copy of your job discription as this may be whee they try and catch you out..if it states it is your roll to deal with behaviour seek advice from a union...if infornmation is not readily available about a union ask college secretary for the numbver of unison..that in itself should give them a nudge in the right direction! good luck
I always knew I couldn't do this, I am a sensitive person and not resilient to noise and behaviour issues all day. I am highly stressed and feel meltdown.
The person who initially interviewed me has retired now, so there is nobody the staff can ask to prove I only came to the college to work with the adults.
I have talked to the new senior staff, but I feel like I am always complaining I can't cope and they could get fed up with me.
Any advice? or any legal info about work stress?
p.s. I am looking for a new job, but not very many jobs around at the moment.Advice about work stress?
Why not see what you can learn with this group? I did it in a voluntary capacity and felt it was somewhat of a juggling act, balancing their need to learn with their need to deal with numerous other issues (social, psychological, belongingness). Remember that some may have undiagnosed mental health needs, including personality disorder and autism, and the fact that someone shows interest will benefit them. At any rate all are learning to be adults - not easy. I felt that some of the qualified tutors were not that skilled at dealing with this group, maybe few people are!
How do your colleagues feel? Are you deemed competent? Surely there is always a tutor in charge of the class? I think it's good experience.Advice about work stress?
Well you could try and find a way to contact the original interviewer if you know his name or if the people you are working for know it. This might get him to say you only signed up for adult classes. If not then try taking a day or two off to relax and figure out ways to relax off the stress. Then try and cope with it until you find another job.
Firstly, for a new job upload your CV or whatever to a site like Monster where schools and other companies can find and contact you from.
About the stress just tell them that if no-one helps you you'll quit (once you've found a job). This won't make you sound like a ***** if you let them know what you're going through, and if it does who cares, they didn't care much about you so why care about them?
Anyways if you need anymore help with the stress checkout:
http://psychcentral.com/
Good Luck!!
KJ
If you work in a college you should have a performance management meeting at least yearly..bring it up then. There is always someone that out ranks the head of these places and in most places its the govonours of the school..you could speak to them. If you are not in a union..join one and speak to them. I think however your first port of call should be arranging to have a proper meeting with the heads of your school..dont just keep grabbing five mins with them..actually say i would like to arrange a meeting with you please. If all else fails..go off with stress when you come back you will be given a return to work interview..and if you mention this to them then..they will HAVE to do something about it as they have to document these things..if you dont see them writing in the meeting ask them if they intend to and ask for a copy. Also try and find a copy of your job discription as this may be whee they try and catch you out..if it states it is your roll to deal with behaviour seek advice from a union...if infornmation is not readily available about a union ask college secretary for the numbver of unison..that in itself should give them a nudge in the right direction! good luck
Advice about this girl situation. choosing best answer?
ok so i started talking to this girl that iv locked off and on for a while. and she really liked me at one point but i had to say that i didnt like her back cuz it was like my first week being with this girl that i was with for like a year and a half. and one of my friends she has been head over heals for fer a while but not so much anymore. but we werent friends for a while but now we really are again. and wev been flirting alot. and we were joking about something and i was like ';ya anything for you'; and she was like from experience when someone said that to me it wasnt true but for some reason theres something about you that makes me feel like you mean it. and i said well theres something about you that made me mean it.. should i ask her out? or tell her i like her or what? i am a teen. i was thinking if i was texting her for a little while then i could ask her like ';hey im going to the movies this friday and i was wondering if you wanna come and if she asked whos going then be like well my brother wanted to but he cant so i dont wanna go alone'; just what should i do?
a girl said i shouldnt make a move at the movies? then what do i do and how do i make her have a good time?
the situation is do i have a chance and what should i doAdvice about this girl situation. choosing best answer?
it sounds like you both geniunely like eachother...the only time i've heard a girl say something like ';from experience when someone said that to me it wasnt true but for some reason theres something about you that makes me feel like you mean it'; is when she really likes the person she' s saying it to (you guys are teens...teenage girls say that to guys if they like em) or if she just likes to lead people on
haha you don't need to make a move on the first date! only if she's comfortable with it then you can....but hell i would wait until after the movie when you take her home (woot) or wait until after the movie outside the movie theatre
or during the movie (boring part perhaps?) just lean over and ask her how much she likes you and you want a straight answer (flirtacious of course...don't be serious lol) this will probably make her smile and you never know what will happen after that!
if you ask her to the movies and she asks who's going....just ask her if she wants anyone else to go....just ask ';is there anyone you'd like to go with us?'; don't make it sound like she was your second choice..make it sound like she was the first person you asked
just keep the ';date'; fun...be funny...if you guys have a good time together outside of a date then you know you'll have a good time at the movies together or anywhere else
take your time with the chase...it's the funnest part ^_^Advice about this girl situation. choosing best answer?
okay you should ask her to the movies then after the move make a move, but you have to be slow about it. if you just plain ask her out then yea she is going to be weirded out. but if you work into it. like ';so this is kinda like a date'; before the movie. then after the movie ask her nicely and she wil most likely say yes if she likes you.
ASK HER OUT!! she totally likes you and you totally like her.
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a girl said i shouldnt make a move at the movies? then what do i do and how do i make her have a good time?
the situation is do i have a chance and what should i doAdvice about this girl situation. choosing best answer?
it sounds like you both geniunely like eachother...the only time i've heard a girl say something like ';from experience when someone said that to me it wasnt true but for some reason theres something about you that makes me feel like you mean it'; is when she really likes the person she' s saying it to (you guys are teens...teenage girls say that to guys if they like em) or if she just likes to lead people on
haha you don't need to make a move on the first date! only if she's comfortable with it then you can....but hell i would wait until after the movie when you take her home (woot) or wait until after the movie outside the movie theatre
or during the movie (boring part perhaps?) just lean over and ask her how much she likes you and you want a straight answer (flirtacious of course...don't be serious lol) this will probably make her smile and you never know what will happen after that!
if you ask her to the movies and she asks who's going....just ask her if she wants anyone else to go....just ask ';is there anyone you'd like to go with us?'; don't make it sound like she was your second choice..make it sound like she was the first person you asked
just keep the ';date'; fun...be funny...if you guys have a good time together outside of a date then you know you'll have a good time at the movies together or anywhere else
take your time with the chase...it's the funnest part ^_^Advice about this girl situation. choosing best answer?
okay you should ask her to the movies then after the move make a move, but you have to be slow about it. if you just plain ask her out then yea she is going to be weirded out. but if you work into it. like ';so this is kinda like a date'; before the movie. then after the movie ask her nicely and she wil most likely say yes if she likes you.
ASK HER OUT!! she totally likes you and you totally like her.
answer mine plz
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Advice about a situation?
hi.. something really sad happened to me today.
a good friend of mine's mother passed away this morning. she took her own life. i am pretty upset and i'm wondering what i can do for my friend?! she is with her best friends right now who are comforting her. we are pretty good friends and have known each other for a while, and we are also debate partners, so i know her well. what would be the islamic thing to do or say? i havent seen her yet. i was going to bring her dinner tonight.. since i'm sure she has other things on her mind. what do you suggest?
thank you for all suggestions and help, and please no mean answers.
ps- she is not muslim.Advice about a situation?
Just let her know you're sorry for her loss and that you are there for her if she needs anything.Advice about a situation?
Salam,
I'm really sorry about your situation, the best thing you can do is just be there for her. She needs someone to let her feelings out, so simply listening to her would do wonders.Find ways to get her mind off it, it will be hard defiantly, but make an attempt to do so anyway.
OMG. Like you said bring her dinner. Tell her you're sorry for what happened, but don't talk to much. Just be there with her. When she cries pat her on the back or something.
I am sorry for you and your friends loss. I can't imagine how horrible she must feel. Like others said talk to Allah(swt) about it. She may just want to be alone but if she does check on her frequently!!. ask her if she needs anything from you.
Talk to Allah SWT about it, then follow the ways of Rasool Allah SWT and all those who followed him
Then ask yourself.
Then ask all those you love unconditionally.
Then ask us last.
When you get the answer, then apply it three ways.
In peace with your mouth
In peace with your hands
In peace with your heart.
Then sit down. If they need anything else, they will surely know who they can trust after that.
Salam Alaikum
im sorry
Salam,
may Allah SWT put rest her soul in peace.
well sounds like they're not muslims, so...
...no matter what religion they have, they always have the doubt if Islam is the right religion even if they're not muslims....
so if you tell her you'll pray for her mum that she would be granted heaven, it would make her feel better...
just be nice to her
be there for her
do NOT leave her side
don't let her be alone
do NOT stop her from crying, let her cry.
it may even make her feel better if you cry with her.
tell her her mum is free from this world now
from all the pains
she doesn't have to worry about the things we worry about.
she's in peace now.
let her know, things could have been worst
like people in Gaza
what has happened to them and all
tell her you'll pray to your God (Allah SWT) for her mum.
always be there for her and be around.
give her some water every 10-20-30 min
see if you can even distract her mind to something else.
make her think about something else
change the topic every now and then, but i don't think it would be a good idea to change the topic into something funny
i'm really sorry about this...
May her soul rest in Peace.
good luck sis.
INNA LILLAHI WA INNA ILAYHI RAJIUN
Salaam
i think you can only feel sorry for her and tell her how sorry you're for the lost. give her your shoulder to cry and hold her hands to show how supportive you are, this really works and it's re-comforting, (my experience) i'm trying to think about anything to tell her but she's not a muslim she wouldn't understand...im blank..ASTAGFURALLAH
Its even harder cause her mum took her own life. Poor girl i can't imagine what she's going through...So sad. I wish her best...
May Allah have mercy on All
well her mother got what she wanted. shes free
a good friend of mine's mother passed away this morning. she took her own life. i am pretty upset and i'm wondering what i can do for my friend?! she is with her best friends right now who are comforting her. we are pretty good friends and have known each other for a while, and we are also debate partners, so i know her well. what would be the islamic thing to do or say? i havent seen her yet. i was going to bring her dinner tonight.. since i'm sure she has other things on her mind. what do you suggest?
thank you for all suggestions and help, and please no mean answers.
ps- she is not muslim.Advice about a situation?
Just let her know you're sorry for her loss and that you are there for her if she needs anything.Advice about a situation?
Salam,
I'm really sorry about your situation, the best thing you can do is just be there for her. She needs someone to let her feelings out, so simply listening to her would do wonders.Find ways to get her mind off it, it will be hard defiantly, but make an attempt to do so anyway.
OMG. Like you said bring her dinner. Tell her you're sorry for what happened, but don't talk to much. Just be there with her. When she cries pat her on the back or something.
I am sorry for you and your friends loss. I can't imagine how horrible she must feel. Like others said talk to Allah(swt) about it. She may just want to be alone but if she does check on her frequently!!. ask her if she needs anything from you.
Talk to Allah SWT about it, then follow the ways of Rasool Allah SWT and all those who followed him
Then ask yourself.
Then ask all those you love unconditionally.
Then ask us last.
When you get the answer, then apply it three ways.
In peace with your mouth
In peace with your hands
In peace with your heart.
Then sit down. If they need anything else, they will surely know who they can trust after that.
Salam Alaikum
im sorry
Salam,
may Allah SWT put rest her soul in peace.
well sounds like they're not muslims, so...
...no matter what religion they have, they always have the doubt if Islam is the right religion even if they're not muslims....
so if you tell her you'll pray for her mum that she would be granted heaven, it would make her feel better...
just be nice to her
be there for her
do NOT leave her side
don't let her be alone
do NOT stop her from crying, let her cry.
it may even make her feel better if you cry with her.
tell her her mum is free from this world now
from all the pains
she doesn't have to worry about the things we worry about.
she's in peace now.
let her know, things could have been worst
like people in Gaza
what has happened to them and all
tell her you'll pray to your God (Allah SWT) for her mum.
always be there for her and be around.
give her some water every 10-20-30 min
see if you can even distract her mind to something else.
make her think about something else
change the topic every now and then, but i don't think it would be a good idea to change the topic into something funny
i'm really sorry about this...
May her soul rest in Peace.
good luck sis.
INNA LILLAHI WA INNA ILAYHI RAJIUN
Salaam
i think you can only feel sorry for her and tell her how sorry you're for the lost. give her your shoulder to cry and hold her hands to show how supportive you are, this really works and it's re-comforting, (my experience) i'm trying to think about anything to tell her but she's not a muslim she wouldn't understand...im blank..ASTAGFURALLAH
Its even harder cause her mum took her own life. Poor girl i can't imagine what she's going through...So sad. I wish her best...
May Allah have mercy on All
well her mother got what she wanted. shes free
Advice about an ex boyfriend?
My bf broke up with me a few months ago. we have remained friends, I didn't want to but he was persistant with contacting me and wanting to hang out. I am really confused about what is going on because he invites me to go to dinner with him and his parents, he hung out with my family and I this past weekend when they came to visit, he invites me to hang out when he goes to his friends' house he invites me to go out of town and takes me shopping. He is out of town right now and I am taking care of his dog. I still have a key to his house and he still has the pic I gave him of us up in his room. I want to ask him if he thinks of me as a friend only or is hoping for something more. the break up was because he was scared.. basically, and there is absolutely no other girl in his life.. I know because I am with him in any free time he has.
Do you think he wants something more and do you think I should ask him if he thinks of me more than a friend?
I know ex's are an ex for a reason, spare me these comments....
Not married...Advice about an ex boyfriend?
You said he was “scared/basically” but that would make me nervous. I’d be waiting for him to get scared and repeat the process only there might be kids involved next time. I think you need to ask your self what you want/need. Sounds like the only thing miss now is the intimacy/sex, can you live like this, do you want to live like this. Advice about an ex boyfriend?
Frankly, I think he is hanging onto you until he is either comfortable having a permanent relationship, or find someone he thinks is better. I doubt he REALLY just wants to be friends. The only way to know, however, is to talk to him about it. Communication is the key to a successful relationship. May as well start practicing now!
Good luck!
Either you are EX bf gf or not. He can't have it both ways. He acts like you never broke up. I would point blank ask him. I would also say if you don't want to be a couple I'm fine with being just friends but I want to make our relationship clear so no one misunderstands or has hurt feelings.
it seems that he really does care for you. like you said, he may be just scared.
be up front and tell him how you feel.
then, you do whatever is easier for you to forget him.
this may mean completely cutting him out of your life.
don't torture yourself.
I guess the big question is...scared of what? If he continues to act as if nothing has changed, what is the difference if he says you are broken up or not? It doesn't sound like you are.
Are you two still having the close relationship that goes with boyfriend girlfriend?If not and he still does these things then it is interesting that no one else who answered this question already feels he is just comfortable having you around and hanging out with you,friends do those things!Are you seeing anyone else?Have you moved on?Do you go along with his requests of you to spend time with him?I think you need to do something,but if you are not looking for more(ex is an ex)then you haven't let go yet either!I think that he is comfortable with you and enjoys being with you,and without the pressure of commitment,whats not to like?My ex and I have an awesome relationship,we are best friends,she is married and I am married and we still talk about all sorts of stuff,we meet for lunch sometimes,and her husband and my wife know this and are secure in their relationships with us,that it is understood we are not in love with each other anymore but we will always have love for each other!You get comfortable with someone and you trust them,they make you feel good,they know you inside and out,you can be yourself around each other and its okay,its nice!This is my opinion and I think that is where he is at with you?If you feel the same way when you are around him then you will understand what I am saying!Yes maybe he is scared of a commitment,but he isn't affraid of you and it seems to me you enjoy what you have together right now too!Or else why are you still there,spending all that time with him?
He's treating you like you're still his girlfriend. Was marriage ever discussed in this relationship? Is that why he got scared? Someone has to take charge of where this is going and I think it needs to be you, otherwise no one is going to move on. I've heard of the old ';let's be friends'; answer when a couple break up but never seen it taken to this extreme. Perhaps for your own sake, it would be good for you to decline his invitations so that he'll realize that this relationship is over. Perhaps, later down the line, he'll come to his senses and take the relationship to the next level. But by then, you may already be saying ';I do'; but with someone else. Good luck!perfect makeup
Do you think he wants something more and do you think I should ask him if he thinks of me more than a friend?
I know ex's are an ex for a reason, spare me these comments....
Not married...Advice about an ex boyfriend?
You said he was “scared/basically” but that would make me nervous. I’d be waiting for him to get scared and repeat the process only there might be kids involved next time. I think you need to ask your self what you want/need. Sounds like the only thing miss now is the intimacy/sex, can you live like this, do you want to live like this. Advice about an ex boyfriend?
Frankly, I think he is hanging onto you until he is either comfortable having a permanent relationship, or find someone he thinks is better. I doubt he REALLY just wants to be friends. The only way to know, however, is to talk to him about it. Communication is the key to a successful relationship. May as well start practicing now!
Good luck!
Either you are EX bf gf or not. He can't have it both ways. He acts like you never broke up. I would point blank ask him. I would also say if you don't want to be a couple I'm fine with being just friends but I want to make our relationship clear so no one misunderstands or has hurt feelings.
it seems that he really does care for you. like you said, he may be just scared.
be up front and tell him how you feel.
then, you do whatever is easier for you to forget him.
this may mean completely cutting him out of your life.
don't torture yourself.
I guess the big question is...scared of what? If he continues to act as if nothing has changed, what is the difference if he says you are broken up or not? It doesn't sound like you are.
Are you two still having the close relationship that goes with boyfriend girlfriend?If not and he still does these things then it is interesting that no one else who answered this question already feels he is just comfortable having you around and hanging out with you,friends do those things!Are you seeing anyone else?Have you moved on?Do you go along with his requests of you to spend time with him?I think you need to do something,but if you are not looking for more(ex is an ex)then you haven't let go yet either!I think that he is comfortable with you and enjoys being with you,and without the pressure of commitment,whats not to like?My ex and I have an awesome relationship,we are best friends,she is married and I am married and we still talk about all sorts of stuff,we meet for lunch sometimes,and her husband and my wife know this and are secure in their relationships with us,that it is understood we are not in love with each other anymore but we will always have love for each other!You get comfortable with someone and you trust them,they make you feel good,they know you inside and out,you can be yourself around each other and its okay,its nice!This is my opinion and I think that is where he is at with you?If you feel the same way when you are around him then you will understand what I am saying!Yes maybe he is scared of a commitment,but he isn't affraid of you and it seems to me you enjoy what you have together right now too!Or else why are you still there,spending all that time with him?
He's treating you like you're still his girlfriend. Was marriage ever discussed in this relationship? Is that why he got scared? Someone has to take charge of where this is going and I think it needs to be you, otherwise no one is going to move on. I've heard of the old ';let's be friends'; answer when a couple break up but never seen it taken to this extreme. Perhaps for your own sake, it would be good for you to decline his invitations so that he'll realize that this relationship is over. Perhaps, later down the line, he'll come to his senses and take the relationship to the next level. But by then, you may already be saying ';I do'; but with someone else. Good luck!
Advice about my ex girl-friend?
ok soi started dating this girl and its my first girlfriend. we were dating for a month and we broke up because she was jelous that i was hanging out with my friend who is also a girl. now i dont like this girl but she thought i did. so she stopped wanting to hang out and she kept blowing me off. so one night i was talking to her and i told her we should take a break. then she told me she just wanted to not date so for the past week i have been thinking we were broken up. but she emailed me and asked what was going on and if we were going to date or what.
now shes my first girlfriend and i dont know if i fell a little hard for her or what but i like her still but i dont want things to be the way they were.Advice about my ex girl-friend?
u need to be sure she's over the jealousy thing first.
sit down and talk to her and make sure she's ok with you having girl FRIENDS.
communication is really important in relationships...even if it's your first relationship.
i think if u both are interested in e/o you should give it another try. i mean nothing all that bad happened for the 2 of you to call it quits. give it another shot! =) have fun! happy thanksgiving!Advice about my ex girl-friend?
Tell her what you want to change about your relationship. But do it in mature way , no yelling or whining. Sit her down somewhere private and have a two way discussion Ask her what she would like to change as well. Good luck.
then she might be controling and if she has any guy friends and your not getting all worked up about it then she should be trusting you also or maybe she has had a bf that was cheeting on her when she trusted him and then now she doesnt want that to happen to you guys
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now shes my first girlfriend and i dont know if i fell a little hard for her or what but i like her still but i dont want things to be the way they were.Advice about my ex girl-friend?
u need to be sure she's over the jealousy thing first.
sit down and talk to her and make sure she's ok with you having girl FRIENDS.
communication is really important in relationships...even if it's your first relationship.
i think if u both are interested in e/o you should give it another try. i mean nothing all that bad happened for the 2 of you to call it quits. give it another shot! =) have fun! happy thanksgiving!Advice about my ex girl-friend?
Tell her what you want to change about your relationship. But do it in mature way , no yelling or whining. Sit her down somewhere private and have a two way discussion Ask her what she would like to change as well. Good luck.
then she might be controling and if she has any guy friends and your not getting all worked up about it then she should be trusting you also or maybe she has had a bf that was cheeting on her when she trusted him and then now she doesnt want that to happen to you guys
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Same questionsssssssssssssssssss:
I'm fed up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!鈥?br>
Leave herrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Advice about my mom and being kicked out at 17?
background:
17 years old.ive had depression for the past 4 years, and ive been seeing doctors since then. me and my mom have always gotten into fights about rules and responcibility but then i moved and everything seemed to get better. Within the past 5 months, my mom broke up with her boyfriend (who we were living with) and we moved to another town. everyone here is rude, and mean, and just the typical people you would not like to hang out with. I have been sticking it out, but it is hard, and i can not focus with everyone down my back and staying dumb things. i know i should just ignore it, but i cant. my grades have been slipping, and i have been talking to my teachers, but they couldnt care less. my mom said that she could transfer me back over to my new school for next year, for when i graduate, but id have to stick out the next 3 months. i didnt mind. but last month my mom got herself a new boyfriend. i didnt mind him, but he is a little strange. last sunday me and my boyfriend got into a debt about how my mom doesnt really care about anything but going to work, going back to school and her new boyfriend. which in a sense is true. we broke up and i got upset and told my mom how i really felt about her new boyfriend. everything was fine until me and my boyfriend got back together and agreed that we'd work things out. my mom got mad at me..i guess she doesnt really like him, but then last night i went to go see one of my doctors. My doctor told me that she had been emailing my guidance counseller and he had told her about my grades, and my mom was in the room. Then in the caar ride back home, my mom started yelling at me telling me how I told the counseller about her boyfriend, and how i knew better than to fail school. and i told her that that was what i was there for. to tell the lady my feelings and thoughts about everything. My mom told me that im ruining her life and i have respect for anyone but myself. i figured that my mom was just blowing off steam..but then she added that if i am to stay with my boyfriend i have to leave the house. she said that she wants me out by the end of june when school lets out.
im not sure what to do because i have no place to go, and no job.
i dont even have my permit because my mom said that i can wait until im 18 :(
im not 18 until december..til then i dont know what to do.
my friend offered to let me stay with him over the summer..but his mom said that i need a job, and a car might be nice..
but i know i can find a job..and a car will be no problem because ive been saving in my bank account.
i hate my mom being mad at me, but i dont understand why.
i thought that telling her i didnt like her boyfriend would maybe open things up and we could talk more, but i guess not. she just swore at me the time and told me that im always gone on the weekends, and im always complaining we dont spend time together..
but truth is:
i have to deal with assholes in school all day, 5 days a week..then go home and watch my little sister from 3 until whever my mom gets home. My mom sometimes doesnt get home until 10 and then has her boyfriend come over. I just want to see my old friends and boyfriend. and rides are always given to me by them, so..i wanna spend time with her, but on the weekends she is with her boyfriend too.
I dont know.
I understand that she is a single parent, and we dont have a lot..
but i dont see why she cant look into my eyes for just a second.
i tried talking to her, but she told me i was wasting her time, and there was no point. im not part of the family? i dont know, thats what she does.
im just scared because i have to wait until summer, and i feel terrible.
does anyone have any thoughts, or anything to maybe claim me down?
i have been feeling really down lately, and i figured, there must be someone like me out there..
thank you!!!! :(Advice about my mom and being kicked out at 17?
It is never easy growing up, especially when you hit your teens. Most want their freedom, to make their own choices and RUSH into adulthood. What troubles me the most is your Negative attitude towards EVERYONE.......you hate your mom's boyfriend, everyone is rude in the new town, your teachers don't care, you resent babysitting your little sister, your mom doesn't care or understand. When someone believes the whole world is against them it usually isn't the fault of the world. First you should talk to your Dr and tell him how you are feeling, he may need to put you on meds or change your medication if you are already on some. You need to find something positive to focus on rather than negativity, get involved with a group or find a hobby that gives you some pleasure. One thing I can guarantee won't work is running off to be with your boyfriend. You will end up being dependent on him and that is a form of control. You are only 17, and you need to grow up. Your #1 Priority is overcoming your ';depression'; and how you view others. Start looking for just 1 positive thing in everyone you meet or know, you might be amazed at what you discover.Advice about my mom and being kicked out at 17?
Sad!!
I'm sorry that you have to deal with this!!
It sucks. No one should have to deal with that. My situation is similar many ways and different in other ways. If you ever need someone to talk to don't hesitate to e-mail me.
By the way I'm 16 so not much younger then you.
I think your mom doesnt understand where your coming from because she doesnt understand her own situation. Shes had alot to deal with from work(trying to provide for you and your sister), to her own relationship problems. If she really wants you to move out, then i would, but i would try to be in contact with her and especially your little sister as much as posssile. Your 17, you need to start thinking about your own wellbeing, providing for you and doing the best that you can do. Just be there for her, she needs you more than you know.
17 years old.ive had depression for the past 4 years, and ive been seeing doctors since then. me and my mom have always gotten into fights about rules and responcibility but then i moved and everything seemed to get better. Within the past 5 months, my mom broke up with her boyfriend (who we were living with) and we moved to another town. everyone here is rude, and mean, and just the typical people you would not like to hang out with. I have been sticking it out, but it is hard, and i can not focus with everyone down my back and staying dumb things. i know i should just ignore it, but i cant. my grades have been slipping, and i have been talking to my teachers, but they couldnt care less. my mom said that she could transfer me back over to my new school for next year, for when i graduate, but id have to stick out the next 3 months. i didnt mind. but last month my mom got herself a new boyfriend. i didnt mind him, but he is a little strange. last sunday me and my boyfriend got into a debt about how my mom doesnt really care about anything but going to work, going back to school and her new boyfriend. which in a sense is true. we broke up and i got upset and told my mom how i really felt about her new boyfriend. everything was fine until me and my boyfriend got back together and agreed that we'd work things out. my mom got mad at me..i guess she doesnt really like him, but then last night i went to go see one of my doctors. My doctor told me that she had been emailing my guidance counseller and he had told her about my grades, and my mom was in the room. Then in the caar ride back home, my mom started yelling at me telling me how I told the counseller about her boyfriend, and how i knew better than to fail school. and i told her that that was what i was there for. to tell the lady my feelings and thoughts about everything. My mom told me that im ruining her life and i have respect for anyone but myself. i figured that my mom was just blowing off steam..but then she added that if i am to stay with my boyfriend i have to leave the house. she said that she wants me out by the end of june when school lets out.
im not sure what to do because i have no place to go, and no job.
i dont even have my permit because my mom said that i can wait until im 18 :(
im not 18 until december..til then i dont know what to do.
my friend offered to let me stay with him over the summer..but his mom said that i need a job, and a car might be nice..
but i know i can find a job..and a car will be no problem because ive been saving in my bank account.
i hate my mom being mad at me, but i dont understand why.
i thought that telling her i didnt like her boyfriend would maybe open things up and we could talk more, but i guess not. she just swore at me the time and told me that im always gone on the weekends, and im always complaining we dont spend time together..
but truth is:
i have to deal with assholes in school all day, 5 days a week..then go home and watch my little sister from 3 until whever my mom gets home. My mom sometimes doesnt get home until 10 and then has her boyfriend come over. I just want to see my old friends and boyfriend. and rides are always given to me by them, so..i wanna spend time with her, but on the weekends she is with her boyfriend too.
I dont know.
I understand that she is a single parent, and we dont have a lot..
but i dont see why she cant look into my eyes for just a second.
i tried talking to her, but she told me i was wasting her time, and there was no point. im not part of the family? i dont know, thats what she does.
im just scared because i have to wait until summer, and i feel terrible.
does anyone have any thoughts, or anything to maybe claim me down?
i have been feeling really down lately, and i figured, there must be someone like me out there..
thank you!!!! :(Advice about my mom and being kicked out at 17?
It is never easy growing up, especially when you hit your teens. Most want their freedom, to make their own choices and RUSH into adulthood. What troubles me the most is your Negative attitude towards EVERYONE.......you hate your mom's boyfriend, everyone is rude in the new town, your teachers don't care, you resent babysitting your little sister, your mom doesn't care or understand. When someone believes the whole world is against them it usually isn't the fault of the world. First you should talk to your Dr and tell him how you are feeling, he may need to put you on meds or change your medication if you are already on some. You need to find something positive to focus on rather than negativity, get involved with a group or find a hobby that gives you some pleasure. One thing I can guarantee won't work is running off to be with your boyfriend. You will end up being dependent on him and that is a form of control. You are only 17, and you need to grow up. Your #1 Priority is overcoming your ';depression'; and how you view others. Start looking for just 1 positive thing in everyone you meet or know, you might be amazed at what you discover.Advice about my mom and being kicked out at 17?
Sad!!
I'm sorry that you have to deal with this!!
It sucks. No one should have to deal with that. My situation is similar many ways and different in other ways. If you ever need someone to talk to don't hesitate to e-mail me.
By the way I'm 16 so not much younger then you.
I think your mom doesnt understand where your coming from because she doesnt understand her own situation. Shes had alot to deal with from work(trying to provide for you and your sister), to her own relationship problems. If she really wants you to move out, then i would, but i would try to be in contact with her and especially your little sister as much as posssile. Your 17, you need to start thinking about your own wellbeing, providing for you and doing the best that you can do. Just be there for her, she needs you more than you know.
Advice about noisy neighbours (uk)?
Hi,
Our next door neighbour plays loud music early in the morning and i wondered if anyone knew what you can do to stop this or who to contact.
The music can start anywhere between 6am and 8am. Its mostly the weekends but now he's started doing it in the week. Basically he's either waking people who need a good nights sleeps before work or waking people trying to have a lie-in at the weekends.
The music is so loud that i can hear every single word to the songs and him singing along to them at full volume (and he doesn't have a good singing voice)
The walls aren't even that thin so he must have it on very loud. Its really getting to me.
If anyone has been through a similar experience any advice is welcome.
Please don't suggest going round and asking/confronting him as for various reasons that can't happen. He is not a nice man and the best that would happen would be a fight.Advice about noisy neighbours (uk)?
I'm a firm believer in the ';anonymous note';. Slip a note under his door or in his mail box letting him know that he's being disruptive to all the neighbors. Politely ask him to keep it down or the police will be notified. If it comes down to you calling the police, tell them that your neighbor is disturbing the peace with his loud music. From my experience living in an apartment building, the police receive calls like this all the time. They won't rush to the scene, but they will show up and confront your neighbor.Advice about noisy neighbours (uk)?
go round there, tie him up and gag him.
then lock him in a safe and push it in the ocean.
it will be really quiet now. although, you probably won't be able to sleep cuz of the guilt of knowing that u just subjected someone to a slow, drowning death.
hmmm, maybe u should just call the police!
if you have a landlord contact him/her,if not,the hours are 6 am to 10pm, after that call the police, but goodluck with that if you live in a small town, and you are a property ownwer,my neighbors do that junk all night, I am thinking of joining them, tthey even build fires outside
CALL THE COPS AND SAYS HES DISTURBING PCE IN NEIGHBORHOOD
Lodge a complaint against him, with landlord and/or police. Landlords or building managers will sometimes act as go-betweens in neighbour disputes like this one. Find out what the ';nuisance noise'; hours are in your municipality (these are the laws prohibiting loud parties at 2 am, chainsaws at 5 am, etc.)
Failing that, try to spoil his music some. I had a more extreme situation than this many years ago -- the noise was outdoors, various neighbours playing their own favourite music with all doors and windows open, and none of the music harmonizing. There were too many ';offenders'; for my husband and I to go around confronting them.
So we moved our own stereo speakers over near the windows, and we ran our tape of the ';1812 Overture'; until we reached the climactic cannon-fire-and-church-bells sections. We then perched the speakers outdoors on the window-sill, and closed the windows on the wires. We played the music at close to top volume for about three minutes.
When we turned off our music and opened the windows again, all the other music had been stopped except for one boom-box down on the street -- and they were just making a point, because that got turned down/off, too, after another five minutes or so. We never had a ';duelling stereos'; problem again, as long as we were living in that flat.
In your case, don't play your music any louder than his, you're *not* trying to drown him out, just make it so he can't enjoy his own music in peace. Decide beforehand what you'll do if he decides to escalate.
Please warn your innocent-bystanding neighbours of your intentions, if you decide to give this tactic a try. And maybe do something nice for them, too, in the spirit of ';Thank you for bearing with me through all this'; -- if this one neighbour tries to persist (homemade baked goods usually go down well :-D ). You definitely would want your neighbours on your side, if possible, and not just sick of the whole lot of you.
Good luck! And you have my sympathies!
You can contact your local council (environmental health) They will come around and do a test , if it's found to be too loud they have steps they can take to make him turn it down.
Our next door neighbour plays loud music early in the morning and i wondered if anyone knew what you can do to stop this or who to contact.
The music can start anywhere between 6am and 8am. Its mostly the weekends but now he's started doing it in the week. Basically he's either waking people who need a good nights sleeps before work or waking people trying to have a lie-in at the weekends.
The music is so loud that i can hear every single word to the songs and him singing along to them at full volume (and he doesn't have a good singing voice)
The walls aren't even that thin so he must have it on very loud. Its really getting to me.
If anyone has been through a similar experience any advice is welcome.
Please don't suggest going round and asking/confronting him as for various reasons that can't happen. He is not a nice man and the best that would happen would be a fight.Advice about noisy neighbours (uk)?
I'm a firm believer in the ';anonymous note';. Slip a note under his door or in his mail box letting him know that he's being disruptive to all the neighbors. Politely ask him to keep it down or the police will be notified. If it comes down to you calling the police, tell them that your neighbor is disturbing the peace with his loud music. From my experience living in an apartment building, the police receive calls like this all the time. They won't rush to the scene, but they will show up and confront your neighbor.Advice about noisy neighbours (uk)?
go round there, tie him up and gag him.
then lock him in a safe and push it in the ocean.
it will be really quiet now. although, you probably won't be able to sleep cuz of the guilt of knowing that u just subjected someone to a slow, drowning death.
hmmm, maybe u should just call the police!
if you have a landlord contact him/her,if not,the hours are 6 am to 10pm, after that call the police, but goodluck with that if you live in a small town, and you are a property ownwer,my neighbors do that junk all night, I am thinking of joining them, tthey even build fires outside
CALL THE COPS AND SAYS HES DISTURBING PCE IN NEIGHBORHOOD
Lodge a complaint against him, with landlord and/or police. Landlords or building managers will sometimes act as go-betweens in neighbour disputes like this one. Find out what the ';nuisance noise'; hours are in your municipality (these are the laws prohibiting loud parties at 2 am, chainsaws at 5 am, etc.)
Failing that, try to spoil his music some. I had a more extreme situation than this many years ago -- the noise was outdoors, various neighbours playing their own favourite music with all doors and windows open, and none of the music harmonizing. There were too many ';offenders'; for my husband and I to go around confronting them.
So we moved our own stereo speakers over near the windows, and we ran our tape of the ';1812 Overture'; until we reached the climactic cannon-fire-and-church-bells sections. We then perched the speakers outdoors on the window-sill, and closed the windows on the wires. We played the music at close to top volume for about three minutes.
When we turned off our music and opened the windows again, all the other music had been stopped except for one boom-box down on the street -- and they were just making a point, because that got turned down/off, too, after another five minutes or so. We never had a ';duelling stereos'; problem again, as long as we were living in that flat.
In your case, don't play your music any louder than his, you're *not* trying to drown him out, just make it so he can't enjoy his own music in peace. Decide beforehand what you'll do if he decides to escalate.
Please warn your innocent-bystanding neighbours of your intentions, if you decide to give this tactic a try. And maybe do something nice for them, too, in the spirit of ';Thank you for bearing with me through all this'; -- if this one neighbour tries to persist (homemade baked goods usually go down well :-D ). You definitely would want your neighbours on your side, if possible, and not just sick of the whole lot of you.
Good luck! And you have my sympathies!
You can contact your local council (environmental health) They will come around and do a test , if it's found to be too loud they have steps they can take to make him turn it down.
Advice about a guy...if possible!! A bit confused?
Ok so first off this is nothing like me and what i am normally like and i have never done this before!! i dont want to be judged just need some advice...
ok so the story is...i recently met this guy and we got on really well...like really really well. started chatting texting non-stop and wanted to meet up again. we discussed having sex and he said he didnt have time for a girlfriend but would like to have sex. for some reason i agreed. so we went on a nice date went shopping etc ended up back at his and almost slept together. he then told me that if he wanted a girlfriend then i would be it. anyway he told me the other day he went to a party recently and ended up having drunken sex with a girl...but since then we have slept together too! complicated i know!! we discussed it all and though he isnt my boyfriend i did get a little annoyed. since i was raped in march i have struggled to trust guys and for some reason trusted him! anyway we sorted it all out and im very glad he was honest with me. anyway he wont talk as much recently has gone quiet and can be moody sometimes. he doesnt want to meet up (but he does have a lot of work at the minute) and says i knew he would be busy and we wouldnt meet much from the start (which i did and is the reason we wont be official as of yet if ever because he feels its unfair with his limited time). anyway if anyone is following this...basically im really confused over whether i like him or not and dont know if i should tell him. if i tel him i reckon he will maybe go a bit mad and wont want to see me. my ex boyfriend left me pregnant and hasnt spoken to me since and i lost the baby though ectopic pregnancy. im pretty shaken up over him still depsite it being 4-5 months ago. i guess i dont really know where my heart and head are so any advice (even if its to tell me to shut up!!) would be useful. i know i over think things a lot and thats when a lot of my problems occur...Advice about a guy...if possible!! A bit confused?
How confusing is this lol!
Im not judging you but you got raped in march and then decided to have sex with a man where you have no emotional attachment?
Men are hard to understand, they can be really really nice and make u feel really special but they are only thinking one thing, if he really liked you he wouldnt have had this drunken sex with someone else. He seems to be only looking for a sexual relationship
You seem to have gone through a lot with being raped and losing a baby. i think you need time out and watch who you sleep with. Try to find a best friend in a guy, someone who respects you and likes you (a potential Boyfriend) in other words move on.
i hope this helps. GoodluckAdvice about a guy...if possible!! A bit confused?
Girl, you already have your answer. He told you from the beginning. He doesn't want a relationship. And he is acting consistently with that. So stay emotionally detached from this guy. If this means not seeing him anymore, then do it. Otherwise, you'll only get deeper and deeper into him, and believe me, he won't one day wake up wanting a relationship with you. This will NEVER changed. So this will end badly for you. Only thing for you to do, is cut your loses now. Stop talking to him and stop seeing him. And hold out for someone who will love you and give you a real relationship. You're worth it. Hold out for it.
ok so the story is...i recently met this guy and we got on really well...like really really well. started chatting texting non-stop and wanted to meet up again. we discussed having sex and he said he didnt have time for a girlfriend but would like to have sex. for some reason i agreed. so we went on a nice date went shopping etc ended up back at his and almost slept together. he then told me that if he wanted a girlfriend then i would be it. anyway he told me the other day he went to a party recently and ended up having drunken sex with a girl...but since then we have slept together too! complicated i know!! we discussed it all and though he isnt my boyfriend i did get a little annoyed. since i was raped in march i have struggled to trust guys and for some reason trusted him! anyway we sorted it all out and im very glad he was honest with me. anyway he wont talk as much recently has gone quiet and can be moody sometimes. he doesnt want to meet up (but he does have a lot of work at the minute) and says i knew he would be busy and we wouldnt meet much from the start (which i did and is the reason we wont be official as of yet if ever because he feels its unfair with his limited time). anyway if anyone is following this...basically im really confused over whether i like him or not and dont know if i should tell him. if i tel him i reckon he will maybe go a bit mad and wont want to see me. my ex boyfriend left me pregnant and hasnt spoken to me since and i lost the baby though ectopic pregnancy. im pretty shaken up over him still depsite it being 4-5 months ago. i guess i dont really know where my heart and head are so any advice (even if its to tell me to shut up!!) would be useful. i know i over think things a lot and thats when a lot of my problems occur...Advice about a guy...if possible!! A bit confused?
How confusing is this lol!
Im not judging you but you got raped in march and then decided to have sex with a man where you have no emotional attachment?
Men are hard to understand, they can be really really nice and make u feel really special but they are only thinking one thing, if he really liked you he wouldnt have had this drunken sex with someone else. He seems to be only looking for a sexual relationship
You seem to have gone through a lot with being raped and losing a baby. i think you need time out and watch who you sleep with. Try to find a best friend in a guy, someone who respects you and likes you (a potential Boyfriend) in other words move on.
i hope this helps. GoodluckAdvice about a guy...if possible!! A bit confused?
Girl, you already have your answer. He told you from the beginning. He doesn't want a relationship. And he is acting consistently with that. So stay emotionally detached from this guy. If this means not seeing him anymore, then do it. Otherwise, you'll only get deeper and deeper into him, and believe me, he won't one day wake up wanting a relationship with you. This will NEVER changed. So this will end badly for you. Only thing for you to do, is cut your loses now. Stop talking to him and stop seeing him. And hold out for someone who will love you and give you a real relationship. You're worth it. Hold out for it.
Advice about a car??
I bought my car in April when I got my license. It's a 1998 Plymouth Neon Expresso. It was a great little car for me until about June, and then all hell broke loose. I took the car in for a routine oil change. They found that it had a cracked condenser that needed to be replaced. 300 dollars later my AC worked again. The very next week, I was with my older brother getting off of a very busy highway, and the car quit running on me. I had to tow it to work (I work at a car dealership) and they found the plug wires were fried and it was running on 2 of its 4 cylinders. Got that fixed
Yesterday, I was at work with a friend checking on some things. Me and my friend went out to the car, started it, backed it out of the parking spot and it quit running. We had the guys push it into the shop. Today they said that the fuel regulator and the fuel filter needed to be replaced, but they swore up and down that nothing else was wrong with it. I drove it home after work today, pulled into my driveway, turned the car off and went to turn it back on just for kicks and giggles. And guess what. The car doesn't start. What a surprise. It needs a new starter.
My problem is, I don't trust this car anymore. It left me stranded on a very busy highway off ramp once. Where's it going to leave me next. Every time I hear a creak, or a noise when I drive, I freak out thinking it's going to crash. I don't feel safe driving it anymore, and I'm not sure I want to put anymore money into it. I've put well over 600 into a car that probably isn't even worth that.
In the mean time, my older sister is buying a new car, even though the car she drives works just fine. She is GIVING her old car to my older brother who, again, his car works just fine. I've put hundreds of dollars into my car, and my parents are offering me no help at all. They won't help me get a car. They won't ask my sister to reconsider giving my brother her car. They won't help me with anything.
Any advice would be great. I'm 16 years old, and I'm WAY to young to be this stressed out. I don't know what to do, and I don't know how to help myself.Advice about a car??
well you could get a job, save some money and buy a new car, or try to get your bros car since he is driving your sisters old oneAdvice about a car??
A starter is not something that can be predicted as to when it will go out, but you have to remember, your car is over 10 years old so starters, batteries, tires etc are going to be going down. I have had many cars a lot older then that which still run but do need to be maintained. These things can and do go wrong on newer cars too.
How many miles are on the car? How many miles are on your bro's car? Which would you rather drive? Which looks best? Which would be worth more?
If you have a job, you can get $3500-$4500 on a trade on your car through the Governments clunker deal they have going on. You may check into that and get a car you like, is new or newer, and will save you big bucks, if you are in the US of course.
PS, to the person who is the slow reader. If that takes you 10 minutes to read, maybe you should limit yourself to shorter questions.
Was there a question in there somewhere?
Or did I just waste 10 min.
You can try saving for a new car or you can become a member with roadside assistance. I recommend checking out http://www.theautotowing.com/ or you can give them a call on 1-800-486-1755. The will be able to help you with roadside assistance membership at an affordable price. Good Luck
Yesterday, I was at work with a friend checking on some things. Me and my friend went out to the car, started it, backed it out of the parking spot and it quit running. We had the guys push it into the shop. Today they said that the fuel regulator and the fuel filter needed to be replaced, but they swore up and down that nothing else was wrong with it. I drove it home after work today, pulled into my driveway, turned the car off and went to turn it back on just for kicks and giggles. And guess what. The car doesn't start. What a surprise. It needs a new starter.
My problem is, I don't trust this car anymore. It left me stranded on a very busy highway off ramp once. Where's it going to leave me next. Every time I hear a creak, or a noise when I drive, I freak out thinking it's going to crash. I don't feel safe driving it anymore, and I'm not sure I want to put anymore money into it. I've put well over 600 into a car that probably isn't even worth that.
In the mean time, my older sister is buying a new car, even though the car she drives works just fine. She is GIVING her old car to my older brother who, again, his car works just fine. I've put hundreds of dollars into my car, and my parents are offering me no help at all. They won't help me get a car. They won't ask my sister to reconsider giving my brother her car. They won't help me with anything.
Any advice would be great. I'm 16 years old, and I'm WAY to young to be this stressed out. I don't know what to do, and I don't know how to help myself.Advice about a car??
well you could get a job, save some money and buy a new car, or try to get your bros car since he is driving your sisters old oneAdvice about a car??
A starter is not something that can be predicted as to when it will go out, but you have to remember, your car is over 10 years old so starters, batteries, tires etc are going to be going down. I have had many cars a lot older then that which still run but do need to be maintained. These things can and do go wrong on newer cars too.
How many miles are on the car? How many miles are on your bro's car? Which would you rather drive? Which looks best? Which would be worth more?
If you have a job, you can get $3500-$4500 on a trade on your car through the Governments clunker deal they have going on. You may check into that and get a car you like, is new or newer, and will save you big bucks, if you are in the US of course.
PS, to the person who is the slow reader. If that takes you 10 minutes to read, maybe you should limit yourself to shorter questions.
Was there a question in there somewhere?
Or did I just waste 10 min.
You can try saving for a new car or you can become a member with roadside assistance. I recommend checking out http://www.theautotowing.com/ or you can give them a call on 1-800-486-1755. The will be able to help you with roadside assistance membership at an affordable price. Good Luck
Advice about old stuff coming back.?
HI I'm having a problem with my partner about what is a lie.
She told me she was flying to sydney to spend a week with a friend who had been in a car crash then she would go to japan before returning. when i offered to take her to the airport she refused and got a lift with someone else that person told me he droped her at the shops and friends picked her up. i rang her and asked what was going on she said nothing just change her plan so i ask why she didn't tell me she was not going to airport but with friends to somewhere else she said again just change plan but she never had air ticket so she new she was not catching plane. so i said that was a lie and she does not think it is. well it's a year later and we have been to japan together and now are trying to get spouse visa for her and in talking about trust and stuff this arguement came up again and i still think she lied and she still thinks it's a culture difference and i shouldn't worry but i do and am i want to just let it go but i just carn't understand how it's not a lie. PLEASE PLEASE HELP.....all and any advice will help us thank you world. I really love her and i'm sure she loves me.Advice about old stuff coming back.?
If she didn't have an airline ticket it was a lie and a pretty elaborate one! I don't care what culture she comes from. She said she was going to Australia, without an airline ticket and she went somewhere mysterious with her friends, therefore she's a liar. Do you actually know where she did go-can you believe what she says anyway? In your heart of hearts you know what's the best thing to do for YOU-whether it's to forget it or dump her. You just need to take your courage in both hands and do it, whichever you decide.perfect makeup
She told me she was flying to sydney to spend a week with a friend who had been in a car crash then she would go to japan before returning. when i offered to take her to the airport she refused and got a lift with someone else that person told me he droped her at the shops and friends picked her up. i rang her and asked what was going on she said nothing just change her plan so i ask why she didn't tell me she was not going to airport but with friends to somewhere else she said again just change plan but she never had air ticket so she new she was not catching plane. so i said that was a lie and she does not think it is. well it's a year later and we have been to japan together and now are trying to get spouse visa for her and in talking about trust and stuff this arguement came up again and i still think she lied and she still thinks it's a culture difference and i shouldn't worry but i do and am i want to just let it go but i just carn't understand how it's not a lie. PLEASE PLEASE HELP.....all and any advice will help us thank you world. I really love her and i'm sure she loves me.Advice about old stuff coming back.?
If she didn't have an airline ticket it was a lie and a pretty elaborate one! I don't care what culture she comes from. She said she was going to Australia, without an airline ticket and she went somewhere mysterious with her friends, therefore she's a liar. Do you actually know where she did go-can you believe what she says anyway? In your heart of hearts you know what's the best thing to do for YOU-whether it's to forget it or dump her. You just need to take your courage in both hands and do it, whichever you decide.
Advice about writing a book.?
I am doing an experimental book.
I've always wanted to write a novel and I would like to start any day now. I've started about 100 or more before and can never get past 5 pages. After that I lose my trail of thought.
My teachers, friends, and family find my writing excellent. That is if I can keep focused on the subject and not lose my readers (or mine) attention.
Does anybody have any nifty ideas to get me started? quick tips on how to start a book? keep going?
School always taught me to make rough drafts, outlines, such and such...BUT my question is...WHICH of those work????
Anyways,
all of your help is widely accepted. I would greatly appreciate it.
By the way,
this is experimental and I am not in any way, shape, or form trying to get the book published. I would like to write a book for my own pleasure and convenience.
Thank you :) !!Advice about writing a book.?
It's cliche, I know, but write what you know....
I'll add on to that! Work with what you know and what you think you would love to know about. Work with something that you know wouldn't bore you after spending months or maybe even years working on.
Take time to develope your characters and get to know them. What do they look like? What are their passions? What are their flaws adn weaknesses?
I have a theory that all good writer's are insane- all their characters are constantly chattering in the back of their mind, never shutting up for a moment.
Whe you get to know your characters well enough, let them tell the story to you. That may or may not make any sense to you, but the more you write, the more the story will come to life.
Invest yourself in the story. And don't worry if the first few stories you write start as a blaze and then die out before it really begins to take off. My first ten attempts at writing a story all petered out before they ever became something of note. It wasn't until I was 17 that I began writing my first genuine novel. It wasn't until I was 21 that I actually finished it for the first time. And now, I am on the 4th extensive edit and preparing what will at least become 600+ pages of a story for publishing. It can be done.
~My advice to you~
- work with something you either know or are curious about.
- be prepared to research information, unless you are an expert already,
- Learn the setting, plot, and characters well.
- Always keep a notebook nearby just incase you are struck with inspiration
- Never give up.Advice about writing a book.?
i am writing a book to it is going great im bursting with ideas
what i do is read to my sister she tells me whats good great bad and ideas to continua it really helps if you read it to somebody because its coming from someones one point of view GOOD LUCK
Well, what I do is write down what I want to happen. I don't plan out every single detail of the plot - I just think about the main significant events and the main characters.
After I have a rough story outline, I start writing. I just let the words flow. I don't focus on subplots, or making sure the characters have realistic flaws - as long as I know what I want to write, as long as I know what I want the personality of my characters to be, the subplots, themes, and little character quirks and flaws will come out by themselves.
When I have a hard time writing, I don't force myself to continue. I stop and relax a bit. Then I go through what I've written so far. I read it out loud so that I know that it sounds right, make edits, write down important details that I might need in later chapters. When I feel inspired enough, I start writing again. The cycle goes on and on until I've finished what I want to accomplish. After that, editing, editing, editing.
Note that this is what works for me. I know someone who plans EVERYTHING before she writes, and that strategy works for her. I don't have the patience for that sort of thing, though. :)
I have written more than a 100 paged book before. It was about the mafia, my family and friends were very proud of me especially cause I'm only 15. What i usually do is i find the key points in how i want my story to be. Find what your story is really about and write around it. It is hard to keep your train of thought when writing, because i sometimes have the same experience. But you just have to keep focused on what your story is about and your writing. Well keeps me motivated and I'm sure it will to you just as well is to think about how much your family and friends will be proud of you and love to read your bool, and who know, it could end up being published ;)
Its a good idea to outline your story so you know where you are going to end up.
Know your characters: create back stories for each one.
Don't use the same word twice in a paragraph if you can find another to use.
Keep your sentences to 10-15 words in length. Long sentences can confuse a reader.
Use a thesaurus - thefreedictionary.com is excellent.Keep a list of some words you want to use as you write - find synonyms to add to your list.
Get a style book to check your punctuation. They are quite inexpensive online and do not need to be brand new.
Watch how many adjectives and adverbs you use. Don't overwrite your sentences.
Use strong verbs to denote action and move your plot forward.
If a sentence does not advance the plot, remove it.
Read as much as you write. Study other authors' styles. Hemingway and Capote are excellent writers to study for concise writing.
I hope these suggestions are helpful to you. Good Luck!
I've always wanted to write a novel and I would like to start any day now. I've started about 100 or more before and can never get past 5 pages. After that I lose my trail of thought.
My teachers, friends, and family find my writing excellent. That is if I can keep focused on the subject and not lose my readers (or mine) attention.
Does anybody have any nifty ideas to get me started? quick tips on how to start a book? keep going?
School always taught me to make rough drafts, outlines, such and such...BUT my question is...WHICH of those work????
Anyways,
all of your help is widely accepted. I would greatly appreciate it.
By the way,
this is experimental and I am not in any way, shape, or form trying to get the book published. I would like to write a book for my own pleasure and convenience.
Thank you :) !!Advice about writing a book.?
It's cliche, I know, but write what you know....
I'll add on to that! Work with what you know and what you think you would love to know about. Work with something that you know wouldn't bore you after spending months or maybe even years working on.
Take time to develope your characters and get to know them. What do they look like? What are their passions? What are their flaws adn weaknesses?
I have a theory that all good writer's are insane- all their characters are constantly chattering in the back of their mind, never shutting up for a moment.
Whe you get to know your characters well enough, let them tell the story to you. That may or may not make any sense to you, but the more you write, the more the story will come to life.
Invest yourself in the story. And don't worry if the first few stories you write start as a blaze and then die out before it really begins to take off. My first ten attempts at writing a story all petered out before they ever became something of note. It wasn't until I was 17 that I began writing my first genuine novel. It wasn't until I was 21 that I actually finished it for the first time. And now, I am on the 4th extensive edit and preparing what will at least become 600+ pages of a story for publishing. It can be done.
~My advice to you~
- work with something you either know or are curious about.
- be prepared to research information, unless you are an expert already,
- Learn the setting, plot, and characters well.
- Always keep a notebook nearby just incase you are struck with inspiration
- Never give up.Advice about writing a book.?
i am writing a book to it is going great im bursting with ideas
what i do is read to my sister she tells me whats good great bad and ideas to continua it really helps if you read it to somebody because its coming from someones one point of view GOOD LUCK
Well, what I do is write down what I want to happen. I don't plan out every single detail of the plot - I just think about the main significant events and the main characters.
After I have a rough story outline, I start writing. I just let the words flow. I don't focus on subplots, or making sure the characters have realistic flaws - as long as I know what I want to write, as long as I know what I want the personality of my characters to be, the subplots, themes, and little character quirks and flaws will come out by themselves.
When I have a hard time writing, I don't force myself to continue. I stop and relax a bit. Then I go through what I've written so far. I read it out loud so that I know that it sounds right, make edits, write down important details that I might need in later chapters. When I feel inspired enough, I start writing again. The cycle goes on and on until I've finished what I want to accomplish. After that, editing, editing, editing.
Note that this is what works for me. I know someone who plans EVERYTHING before she writes, and that strategy works for her. I don't have the patience for that sort of thing, though. :)
I have written more than a 100 paged book before. It was about the mafia, my family and friends were very proud of me especially cause I'm only 15. What i usually do is i find the key points in how i want my story to be. Find what your story is really about and write around it. It is hard to keep your train of thought when writing, because i sometimes have the same experience. But you just have to keep focused on what your story is about and your writing. Well keeps me motivated and I'm sure it will to you just as well is to think about how much your family and friends will be proud of you and love to read your bool, and who know, it could end up being published ;)
Its a good idea to outline your story so you know where you are going to end up.
Know your characters: create back stories for each one.
Don't use the same word twice in a paragraph if you can find another to use.
Keep your sentences to 10-15 words in length. Long sentences can confuse a reader.
Use a thesaurus - thefreedictionary.com is excellent.Keep a list of some words you want to use as you write - find synonyms to add to your list.
Get a style book to check your punctuation. They are quite inexpensive online and do not need to be brand new.
Watch how many adjectives and adverbs you use. Don't overwrite your sentences.
Use strong verbs to denote action and move your plot forward.
If a sentence does not advance the plot, remove it.
Read as much as you write. Study other authors' styles. Hemingway and Capote are excellent writers to study for concise writing.
I hope these suggestions are helpful to you. Good Luck!
Advice about my sister?
Okay, I've had enough. My little sister drives me BONKERS! She steps on me, and my friends, she has a VERY bad attitude toward everyone, and she treats me like a piece of crap! She is a sneaky brat who always ends up getting her way, and speaks like a moron! (';What ev's';? Give me a break!) I am SO sick of her attitude! I can't do anything about it because she is younger than me! How pathetic! My younger sister is a bully to me! Not only that, but she picks on my littelest sister too! She is always trying to get me in trouble by talking loud when I get a coke, or get into the pantry at night! She is a tattletale, and won't mind her own business! Please, give me some good comebacks, and advice on what to do with the brat!!!!!!!! S.O.S.!!!Advice about my sister?
You don't say how much of an age difference there is, which can make a difference. In any case, my little brother and I had this same problem when I was growing up.
This will only work under certain circumstances, but when it works, it REALLY works. Trust me. Tell your sister you want to have a serious conversation with her. Tell her you are not mad, you just want to talk to her. Wait for a time that she can chill out and take you seriously. Tell her that you love her (I know, this is hard, but it works wonders) and that because she is your sister, you really want to be friends. Give an emotional speech about how family is all that matters and some people don't have sisters or even a family, and that you're lucky to have each other. Tell her that from this day forward you want a truce that you will both get along and always have each other's backs. Give her a moment to think about it and if she accepts, it will be a very powerful thing. If she doesn't, then perhaps she is not mature enough and you'll have to wait a few months and try again.
My brother and I were at each other's throats, and then we made a truce and to this day it holds. We are so close and nothing can come between us.
At some point, I can almost guarantee your sister will be mature enough to understand the value of a truce, and she will accept. Until then, you'll have to do your best to just breathe deeply and not react to her. Remember, it doesn't do you any good to react to your younger sister, it only makes you look bad.
Good luck!Advice about my sister?
attention is the big thing
I go through the same thing...
What i do is just ignore her. She does these things because she wants attention. She is not getting any attention at home or school and the only way to do this is to pick on the other siblings.
ooh little sister same way with my brother she probly hangs while your there too first put a lock on your bedroom door also [this may be over the top] but tell you will take her to the park if she is good and let her play for a hour for the comeback tell her she looks like a pile of throw up
the best way to piss her off is to not acknowledge her existence
completely ignore her and pretend like she cannot make you mad at all
ignore her and pretend to not care and she will leave u alone
You don't say how much of an age difference there is, which can make a difference. In any case, my little brother and I had this same problem when I was growing up.
This will only work under certain circumstances, but when it works, it REALLY works. Trust me. Tell your sister you want to have a serious conversation with her. Tell her you are not mad, you just want to talk to her. Wait for a time that she can chill out and take you seriously. Tell her that you love her (I know, this is hard, but it works wonders) and that because she is your sister, you really want to be friends. Give an emotional speech about how family is all that matters and some people don't have sisters or even a family, and that you're lucky to have each other. Tell her that from this day forward you want a truce that you will both get along and always have each other's backs. Give her a moment to think about it and if she accepts, it will be a very powerful thing. If she doesn't, then perhaps she is not mature enough and you'll have to wait a few months and try again.
My brother and I were at each other's throats, and then we made a truce and to this day it holds. We are so close and nothing can come between us.
At some point, I can almost guarantee your sister will be mature enough to understand the value of a truce, and she will accept. Until then, you'll have to do your best to just breathe deeply and not react to her. Remember, it doesn't do you any good to react to your younger sister, it only makes you look bad.
Good luck!Advice about my sister?
attention is the big thing
I go through the same thing...
What i do is just ignore her. She does these things because she wants attention. She is not getting any attention at home or school and the only way to do this is to pick on the other siblings.
ooh little sister same way with my brother she probly hangs while your there too first put a lock on your bedroom door also [this may be over the top] but tell you will take her to the park if she is good and let her play for a hour for the comeback tell her she looks like a pile of throw up
the best way to piss her off is to not acknowledge her existence
completely ignore her and pretend like she cannot make you mad at all
ignore her and pretend to not care and she will leave u alone
Advice about computer stuff... like motherboard, cpu, etc?
Hey,
I want to buy and build a new pc. I found what i want for a video card.. it asks for PCi E 2.0. I want to have a computer that will allow me to play Crysis well. My video card is around $350 and my bugdet is 600. So i want to to if it is possible to get a really good motherboard and cpu and ram that will go with my video card.
The video card i want to get is XFX GeForce 9800 GX2 1GB GDDR3
Should i raise my budget?
can u help me find those??
THANKS A LOT
btw i was thinking about the amd black edition 6400 but i dno much about these things.Advice about computer stuff... like motherboard, cpu, etc?
That card will run crysis well.
get this motherboard or something similar:
XFX nForce 790i
If you wanna play crysis well go for quad core. You don't need an expensive cpu. Get something like the q6600. It can easily be overclock to 3.00ghz on air.
make sure you have at least 2gb of ram. You can overclock this as well.
Advice about computer stuff... like motherboard, cpu, etc?
Hello from the Geek Stop! Hurt me Best Buy ; they sell what you want. It is the Gateway FX for $1100 with a Q9000 Quadcore intel , and 9800GT video card , 2 GB memory , 400watt PSU , XFX 8600 chipset on motherboard; I think so. This is as close to top of the line HP AMD models. They are both good.
I play Crysis on a AMD 4400 plus with Geo Force 9750 GTX SLI, runs smooth as butter
well normally mother board and cpu are sold together (its cheaper that way) after the video card you'll have 250 left so i don't think you'll have enough because crisis requires a 3.0 gigahertz processor and they cost at least 500
I want to buy and build a new pc. I found what i want for a video card.. it asks for PCi E 2.0. I want to have a computer that will allow me to play Crysis well. My video card is around $350 and my bugdet is 600. So i want to to if it is possible to get a really good motherboard and cpu and ram that will go with my video card.
The video card i want to get is XFX GeForce 9800 GX2 1GB GDDR3
Should i raise my budget?
can u help me find those??
THANKS A LOT
btw i was thinking about the amd black edition 6400 but i dno much about these things.Advice about computer stuff... like motherboard, cpu, etc?
That card will run crysis well.
get this motherboard or something similar:
XFX nForce 790i
If you wanna play crysis well go for quad core. You don't need an expensive cpu. Get something like the q6600. It can easily be overclock to 3.00ghz on air.
make sure you have at least 2gb of ram. You can overclock this as well.
Advice about computer stuff... like motherboard, cpu, etc?
Hello from the Geek Stop! Hurt me Best Buy ; they sell what you want. It is the Gateway FX for $1100 with a Q9000 Quadcore intel , and 9800GT video card , 2 GB memory , 400watt PSU , XFX 8600 chipset on motherboard; I think so. This is as close to top of the line HP AMD models. They are both good.
I play Crysis on a AMD 4400 plus with Geo Force 9750 GTX SLI, runs smooth as butter
well normally mother board and cpu are sold together (its cheaper that way) after the video card you'll have 250 left so i don't think you'll have enough because crisis requires a 3.0 gigahertz processor and they cost at least 500
Advice about inheritance and bankruptcy - UK please?
My mum has asked me to help sort out her financial affairs and Will so we have been discussing things and she is concerned about my brother. Basically he is awful with money, spends it on alcohol, has debts mounting up and in particular a tax debt of 拢40,000 and rising. It started off as 拢3,000 but because he ignored the letters interest accrued on a daily basis. He keeps saying he is going to file for bankruptcy and has started the process but my mum and I have heard that if he declares himself bankrupt and mum passes away that any inheritance he receives will still have to pay off his debts. He seems to think once you are bankrupt you don't have to clear your debts. Mum doesn't think its fair all her hard earned money should go on debts. Who is right? UK only please as laws are probably different.Advice about inheritance and bankruptcy - UK please?
Your Mum needs to legally tie up your brother's share of any inheritance she is leaving him. Both because of the potential bankruptcy, and also, if she gives him free access to it, he'll fritter it anyway if money burns a hole in his pocket.
Mum needs legal advice. It will be worth a solicitor's fee. I think to leave any assets in trust would be the best way, with trustees to control what happens to his money. It doesn't matter how old he is. If his tax debt goes on it is likely he will be made bankrupt by HMRC. Even if he was taken to County Court instead, inheritances are public knowledge when Probate is granted, and Court could order debts paid from his legacy once he had received it.Advice about inheritance and bankruptcy - UK please?
he would need to be discharged as a bankrupt before he came into the money. This usually happens 12-24 months after filing for bankruptcy.
Perhaps if it possible, another solution could be found, eg leaving a property to a different relative (a grandchild?) but allowing your brother to live in the house until his death.
See a solicitor, the fee will be nothing compared to the peace of mind you will get, plus any long-term savings
you have heard right, any money received in way of inheritance, lottery winnings etc can be taken by the official receiver to pay off the full amount of your bankruptcy if there is enough, or a reasonable amount of it if there isnt.
the only money they cannot take is compensation from personal injury or medical compensation
If he is an undischarged bankrupt it is likely that any inheritance will be used to repay his creditors. The position is complex %26amp; your mum should really talk to a solicitor about this. You do need professional advice. Hope this helps.
right,
Firstly - Any sums of money given as a gift from your mother, are taxable if she passes away before 7 years of giving the said sums to your brother. So - she can give him money but if she dies before 7 years has passed, the tax man will come knocking on your door, wanting the money even if it has been spent.
Secondly - Regarding Bankruptcy, this is a little trickyier. Bit too much to write. I strongly reccomend you see your accountant. If you dont have one, get one, you need one. It wont cost you an arm and a leg, and the professional advice will clear the air much better than random answers on here. A good account can easily tell you the ins and outs of this as its bread an butter work for them.
Thanks
Im not sure about income tax debts but yes normally when you go bankrupt your debts are cleared. Until you have been discharged from Bankruptcy any money that you earn or inherit of any real value would be used to clear the debt. The receivers are fair, they do allow you a reasonable amount to survive off and are very lenient with first time bankrupts. I believe these days most people are discharged after 1 year of been declared bankrupt.
Your Mum needs to speak with a solicitor before she does anything.
In the US, ans Inheritance can be left in a Trust that is overseen by a Trustee. For someone that is ';awful with money'; it can be left in what is called a Spendthrift Trust and the Trustee pays necessary living and educational expenses from it like rent, utilities, property taxes, etc. Possibly a small cash allowance if that is allowed under the terms of the Trust. Your Mum would designate the terms. But since the beneficiary has no direct control of the estate it may well be that the money in the Trust is not ';attachable'; for taxes owed by the beneficiary. There are probably very similar ways under British Law to accomplish the same thing.
Your Mum needs to legally tie up your brother's share of any inheritance she is leaving him. Both because of the potential bankruptcy, and also, if she gives him free access to it, he'll fritter it anyway if money burns a hole in his pocket.
Mum needs legal advice. It will be worth a solicitor's fee. I think to leave any assets in trust would be the best way, with trustees to control what happens to his money. It doesn't matter how old he is. If his tax debt goes on it is likely he will be made bankrupt by HMRC. Even if he was taken to County Court instead, inheritances are public knowledge when Probate is granted, and Court could order debts paid from his legacy once he had received it.Advice about inheritance and bankruptcy - UK please?
he would need to be discharged as a bankrupt before he came into the money. This usually happens 12-24 months after filing for bankruptcy.
Perhaps if it possible, another solution could be found, eg leaving a property to a different relative (a grandchild?) but allowing your brother to live in the house until his death.
See a solicitor, the fee will be nothing compared to the peace of mind you will get, plus any long-term savings
you have heard right, any money received in way of inheritance, lottery winnings etc can be taken by the official receiver to pay off the full amount of your bankruptcy if there is enough, or a reasonable amount of it if there isnt.
the only money they cannot take is compensation from personal injury or medical compensation
If he is an undischarged bankrupt it is likely that any inheritance will be used to repay his creditors. The position is complex %26amp; your mum should really talk to a solicitor about this. You do need professional advice. Hope this helps.
right,
Firstly - Any sums of money given as a gift from your mother, are taxable if she passes away before 7 years of giving the said sums to your brother. So - she can give him money but if she dies before 7 years has passed, the tax man will come knocking on your door, wanting the money even if it has been spent.
Secondly - Regarding Bankruptcy, this is a little trickyier. Bit too much to write. I strongly reccomend you see your accountant. If you dont have one, get one, you need one. It wont cost you an arm and a leg, and the professional advice will clear the air much better than random answers on here. A good account can easily tell you the ins and outs of this as its bread an butter work for them.
Thanks
Im not sure about income tax debts but yes normally when you go bankrupt your debts are cleared. Until you have been discharged from Bankruptcy any money that you earn or inherit of any real value would be used to clear the debt. The receivers are fair, they do allow you a reasonable amount to survive off and are very lenient with first time bankrupts. I believe these days most people are discharged after 1 year of been declared bankrupt.
Your Mum needs to speak with a solicitor before she does anything.
In the US, ans Inheritance can be left in a Trust that is overseen by a Trustee. For someone that is ';awful with money'; it can be left in what is called a Spendthrift Trust and the Trustee pays necessary living and educational expenses from it like rent, utilities, property taxes, etc. Possibly a small cash allowance if that is allowed under the terms of the Trust. Your Mum would designate the terms. But since the beneficiary has no direct control of the estate it may well be that the money in the Trust is not ';attachable'; for taxes owed by the beneficiary. There are probably very similar ways under British Law to accomplish the same thing.
Advice about this girl?
Alright so I have feelings for my ex still and its been a good amount of time since she broke it off, she shows signs of attraction but then she also sends mixed signals. Anyway i went to the beachwith some friends to meet up with her and a friend, and throughout the day she chaged moods and sent mixed signals at times I felt she was flirting with me and then later i would do the same thing back and she would kinda blow it off or ignore me. I talked to her about and I felt we really saw eye to eye for the first time in months, I want to talk to her about getting back together. She told me in really fun to hang out with when theres no drama, but most of the drama thats caused is stupid non sense that can be dismissed by talking. Do you think I should tell her this and see if she thinks we should reconsile?Advice about this girl?
yes do so, she seems not to be sure , looks insecure too but be sure for one thing , if she did not like you she would not look at you, the things is that what caused you break up can also happen so solve it first, ask for a friendly date (girls freak out when you use the word ';friendly'; deep inside all women want to be adored) and try to see if she cares for you . she seems to like you externally so the problem lies somewhere else..i like your mature thought , be brave and see it as a personality test for you , how to approach what you want , in this way you will never regret living your life to the fullest , also you will help her solve her '; face to face '; discussion issues
bye dearAdvice about this girl?
Yes, You must really care about her too to keep trying. Go for it. Talk it out.
I would talk to her.
i say you guys work it out!
yes do so, she seems not to be sure , looks insecure too but be sure for one thing , if she did not like you she would not look at you, the things is that what caused you break up can also happen so solve it first, ask for a friendly date (girls freak out when you use the word ';friendly'; deep inside all women want to be adored) and try to see if she cares for you . she seems to like you externally so the problem lies somewhere else..i like your mature thought , be brave and see it as a personality test for you , how to approach what you want , in this way you will never regret living your life to the fullest , also you will help her solve her '; face to face '; discussion issues
bye dearAdvice about this girl?
Yes, You must really care about her too to keep trying. Go for it. Talk it out.
I would talk to her.
i say you guys work it out!
Advice about a girl =D?
ok i used to work (for about 6 months) with this girl and usually when we look at each other from our desk she would smile and wave at me. once i saw her on one of those break computers surfing facebook and decided to sit next to her. after about 5 mins she starts laughing at one of her pic and i asked her wot was so funny then she said that the pic was funny (which i though wasn't lol). was she trying to make me talk to her? shes one of those girls that doesn't randomly talk to ppl
every time i go to her desk and try to talk to her to her she usually goes quiet and continues doing her work but if there are few of her friends around her desk she usually has a bit more to talk about.
the last time i saw her was a after works drink thingy with a few ppl and had a pizza in my hand and she asks if i was gonna eat it. i gave her the pizza and she gave me half back. maybe she was just hungry or something
are those signs that she likes me or shes just trying to be friendly?Advice about a girl =D?
lucky she didnt bite your knob off
feed her salami next time!Advice about a girl =D?
hmm soudns fairly friendly but it oculd be the other way youd have to look into it more, also sounds like shes domenating you with confidence....if you want this girl be the man, dont give up your pizza in your hand when youv gone for pizza with everyone...she can get hre own slice! lol thats the best i can do for you:P
haha. the pizza thing is funny.
I think she has a little thing for you.
Could be either, but I'm seeing more signs of friendly than flirting, honestly. None of that hints at more than a good working relationship.
If you like her, though, I see no reason not to ask her out. She clearly likes you in a friendly way at least, which is something.perfect makeup
every time i go to her desk and try to talk to her to her she usually goes quiet and continues doing her work but if there are few of her friends around her desk she usually has a bit more to talk about.
the last time i saw her was a after works drink thingy with a few ppl and had a pizza in my hand and she asks if i was gonna eat it. i gave her the pizza and she gave me half back. maybe she was just hungry or something
are those signs that she likes me or shes just trying to be friendly?Advice about a girl =D?
lucky she didnt bite your knob off
feed her salami next time!Advice about a girl =D?
hmm soudns fairly friendly but it oculd be the other way youd have to look into it more, also sounds like shes domenating you with confidence....if you want this girl be the man, dont give up your pizza in your hand when youv gone for pizza with everyone...she can get hre own slice! lol thats the best i can do for you:P
haha. the pizza thing is funny.
I think she has a little thing for you.
Could be either, but I'm seeing more signs of friendly than flirting, honestly. None of that hints at more than a good working relationship.
If you like her, though, I see no reason not to ask her out. She clearly likes you in a friendly way at least, which is something.
Advice about a guys behaviour please?
Basically I was laying on my best friends bed with him and another female friend when a little drunk, talking etc, and myself and my male friend were playing with each others feet with our own, like a game of footsie i guess, haha.
I know that I like him, quite a bit, so my behaviour was flirting with him. But because my male friend (who i reckon doesn't like me, because he does know i like him but has never said he likes me in that way) was drunk, what does this suggest about how he feels about me? was it likely just to be the alcohol or anything deeper? we spent the whole night cuddling before he fell asleep.Advice about a guys behaviour please?
when im drunk or high i cant control my true feelings
i want to tell this girl what i feel, and just kiss her
so i think it was his true feelingsAdvice about a guys behaviour please?
I hate to break it to you, but it was most likely the alchohol =//
Try asking him how he feels about you (when he's sober)
alcohol, its does amazing things to people. most likely it was the alcohol. but hey, mention it to him and see what his reaction, if its good, maybe he does like you.
That could just be a reaction to the alcohol...most people get pretty cuddly when drunk. I wouldn't think too much of it. Just kinda act normal...no flirting or anything like that. If he already knows you like him and IF he is starting to feel the same way you might want to keep him guessing just for a little while and see how he is acting.
I think it was the alcohol :(
Talk to him about it...
ask him out for coffee instead of drinks, and see how it goes! ;)
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Not alcohol, well, maybe. 2 pts for me.
prob likes you
Sometimes the alcohol brings out your true emotions and feelings towards a person so could be both! Maybe you should ask him about it so you know where you stand!?
if alcohol had to be the thing to get you two togethe, then it's not worth it. wait and see if things happen WITHOUT THE ALCOHOL.
its kind of hard to tell. but alcohol or not cuddling is cudddling!
and maybe the fact that you both were a little drunk is good because they say that when people are drunk their true feelings and attitude come out! =)
i dont know but i need boy advice
I know that I like him, quite a bit, so my behaviour was flirting with him. But because my male friend (who i reckon doesn't like me, because he does know i like him but has never said he likes me in that way) was drunk, what does this suggest about how he feels about me? was it likely just to be the alcohol or anything deeper? we spent the whole night cuddling before he fell asleep.Advice about a guys behaviour please?
when im drunk or high i cant control my true feelings
i want to tell this girl what i feel, and just kiss her
so i think it was his true feelingsAdvice about a guys behaviour please?
I hate to break it to you, but it was most likely the alchohol =//
Try asking him how he feels about you (when he's sober)
alcohol, its does amazing things to people. most likely it was the alcohol. but hey, mention it to him and see what his reaction, if its good, maybe he does like you.
That could just be a reaction to the alcohol...most people get pretty cuddly when drunk. I wouldn't think too much of it. Just kinda act normal...no flirting or anything like that. If he already knows you like him and IF he is starting to feel the same way you might want to keep him guessing just for a little while and see how he is acting.
I think it was the alcohol :(
Talk to him about it...
ask him out for coffee instead of drinks, and see how it goes! ;)
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Not alcohol, well, maybe. 2 pts for me.
prob likes you
Sometimes the alcohol brings out your true emotions and feelings towards a person so could be both! Maybe you should ask him about it so you know where you stand!?
if alcohol had to be the thing to get you two togethe, then it's not worth it. wait and see if things happen WITHOUT THE ALCOHOL.
its kind of hard to tell. but alcohol or not cuddling is cudddling!
and maybe the fact that you both were a little drunk is good because they say that when people are drunk their true feelings and attitude come out! =)
i dont know but i need boy advice
Advice about bankruptcy?
To make a long story short, my husband's parents (without his knowledge) opened several credit cards in his name and ran them up. Yes, we both know this is fraud. No, we are not pressing charges. I know you probably would, but my husband does not want to and while I am disgusted with what my in laws did, I respect his wishes.
My question, my husband now has about 20,000 dollars in credit card debt. We are both officers in the military and my husband declaring bankruptcy is an option. Because of the situation, we don't have any assets (we just finished paying off student loans) and rebuilding his credit won't be an issue- we've got time and I have good credit.
I don't know much about bankruptcy would this be a possibility for him, if so how much does bankruptcy cost/how do you declare it? We're not sure if this is what we want to do, we're just looking at our options.Advice about bankruptcy?
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Bankruptcy was invented after the depression as a way for people to financially 'star-over'. You need to get a lawyer and go to bankruptcy court to declare bankruptcy. You can also just use the lawyer as a source of advice.
My question, my husband now has about 20,000 dollars in credit card debt. We are both officers in the military and my husband declaring bankruptcy is an option. Because of the situation, we don't have any assets (we just finished paying off student loans) and rebuilding his credit won't be an issue- we've got time and I have good credit.
I don't know much about bankruptcy would this be a possibility for him, if so how much does bankruptcy cost/how do you declare it? We're not sure if this is what we want to do, we're just looking at our options.Advice about bankruptcy?
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Try this site: http://lin.cr/bne it can make you good money and it is easy to do. There are no fees and it pays out every Friday. It is one of the few work at home websites that has made me good money consistently. It makes me $2000-$3000 a month.
Find a lawyer forum.
Find a lawyer in the yellow pages.
Bankruptcy was invented after the depression as a way for people to financially 'star-over'. You need to get a lawyer and go to bankruptcy court to declare bankruptcy. You can also just use the lawyer as a source of advice.
Advice about clomid please help?
Hello everyone :)
I just wanted to ask about using Baby Aspirin and Mucinex while taking Clomid. What are the correct dosages and days to take these? I have preseed, instead cups, and Opk's so im covered with that lol. Also if anyone has any other advice about clomid I would love to here it.
I have been TTC for 4 years and I'm at my limit. DH's never home on O day because he works off-shore, but it really looks like he may be home this time :). So I'm really excited this month. It's really hard to be optimistic after four years and two M/C but with all the BFP's going around (especially with Clomid users) its hard not to :) Thank you everyone in advance Advice about clomid please help?
you need to understand that not all women succeed on clomid and there is a lot of side effect taking it.. such as blur vision, dizziness, bloating, bad cramps.. basically it is a hormone drug that cannnot be taken for more than 6 cycles in one LIFETIME. If taken more, it can increase risk of getting ovarian cancer. Women take this drug to help more eggs to mature thus ovulate better, this is why there could be risk of having multiple births while on clomid.
Have both of you been to pre-conception checkup? It is good to do fertility health screening before you ttc to understand what may be wrong. At the same time, you can find out the problem and decide the next step to take.. there is no point taking clomid if it is the male factor.. get what I mean?
I just wanted to ask about using Baby Aspirin and Mucinex while taking Clomid. What are the correct dosages and days to take these? I have preseed, instead cups, and Opk's so im covered with that lol. Also if anyone has any other advice about clomid I would love to here it.
I have been TTC for 4 years and I'm at my limit. DH's never home on O day because he works off-shore, but it really looks like he may be home this time :). So I'm really excited this month. It's really hard to be optimistic after four years and two M/C but with all the BFP's going around (especially with Clomid users) its hard not to :) Thank you everyone in advance Advice about clomid please help?
you need to understand that not all women succeed on clomid and there is a lot of side effect taking it.. such as blur vision, dizziness, bloating, bad cramps.. basically it is a hormone drug that cannnot be taken for more than 6 cycles in one LIFETIME. If taken more, it can increase risk of getting ovarian cancer. Women take this drug to help more eggs to mature thus ovulate better, this is why there could be risk of having multiple births while on clomid.
Have both of you been to pre-conception checkup? It is good to do fertility health screening before you ttc to understand what may be wrong. At the same time, you can find out the problem and decide the next step to take.. there is no point taking clomid if it is the male factor.. get what I mean?
Need advice about guitar?
i can't play a different rythym on the guitar than what i'm singing. this song for example. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kBAgrM_WQ鈥?/a>
any help you could offer on how to sing and play a different rhythym than what your singing? thnx.Need advice about guitar?
Take one thing at a time. I would first learn how to play the guitar part really well so you feel like you could play it in your sleep. Next practice learning and singing the lyrics until you think you never want to hear them again. Once you've got both of those down, put them together. It make take a few tries to get it right, but learning to play and sing at the same time takes patience.Need advice about guitar?
ever see a great musician close his eyes when he really gets into his music?
start with the guitar, close your eyes, really get into it.
Don't listen to yourself singing, just the music.
any help you could offer on how to sing and play a different rhythym than what your singing? thnx.Need advice about guitar?
Take one thing at a time. I would first learn how to play the guitar part really well so you feel like you could play it in your sleep. Next practice learning and singing the lyrics until you think you never want to hear them again. Once you've got both of those down, put them together. It make take a few tries to get it right, but learning to play and sing at the same time takes patience.Need advice about guitar?
ever see a great musician close his eyes when he really gets into his music?
start with the guitar, close your eyes, really get into it.
Don't listen to yourself singing, just the music.
Need advice about a shy virgo man.?
He and i live in separate cities. he doesnt cal or mail. I do. Whenever i cal hell be very friendly and al and i think he likes me too but is unable to express or somehow tries that i dont get to know abt his feelings for me. Earlier when we used to talk person to person he used to get red in face, was unable to even laugh properly. Also hed get very conscious and tense whenever i joined the group. tel me wht to do i really like this guy.Need advice about a shy virgo man.?
you should write/ask something that he got to reply in your mail use some open question [ eg. how to you spend your holiday? or tell me about that movie you have seen ? ]. Send him something or let him has some of your books/cd so that he has to return to you later, or try getting the same items from him then you can prolong your meeting with him n enhance the chances of you two meet-up !
if you both still have the chance to meet, try getting some friends together, be it from his or your side, this should make him feel more comfortable when facing you. If possible to visit him, tag along friends of you, tell him you wanted to meet him n his group of friends as well !
As you get to know him better, zoom down to just the two of you eventually ! You dont have to tell him in words that you like him but show it with your genuine concern n kindness ! eg. if he is looking for certain books, try getting it for him n hand it to him personally if possible ! that sure would 'move' him !
all the best !perfect makeup
you should write/ask something that he got to reply in your mail use some open question [ eg. how to you spend your holiday? or tell me about that movie you have seen ? ]. Send him something or let him has some of your books/cd so that he has to return to you later, or try getting the same items from him then you can prolong your meeting with him n enhance the chances of you two meet-up !
if you both still have the chance to meet, try getting some friends together, be it from his or your side, this should make him feel more comfortable when facing you. If possible to visit him, tag along friends of you, tell him you wanted to meet him n his group of friends as well !
As you get to know him better, zoom down to just the two of you eventually ! You dont have to tell him in words that you like him but show it with your genuine concern n kindness ! eg. if he is looking for certain books, try getting it for him n hand it to him personally if possible ! that sure would 'move' him !
all the best !
Need advice about losing weight....?
I'm 17 years old and I want to lose some weight. I want to lose half, if not all, by mid-march, but I want to lose it all by late June. Is it possible and how can I do it?Need advice about losing weight....?
1. Forget blame and guilt: It is important for you to make sure that you don't blame anyone -- either yourself or your parents -- for where you are right now. Feeling guilty about your appearance is a negative feeling that won't help.
2. Take the long term approach: Look at what you are about to undertake not as a short term, quick, weight loss, but rather a change in lifestyle to last a lifetime. You will begin to make more nutritious food choices, add exercise, and cut back somewhat on your eating. If you falter along the way, you don't need to look at it as a failure because you know that you have a long time to make the changes. For example, if you go with your friends to eat at a fast food restaurant, and you indulge in a large order of fries, there is no need to feel guilty because you know that eating them is not a regular habit, and that at the next meal you will eat more sensibly.
3. Set reasonable goals: Losing one-half to one pound per week is very realistic. Don't drop your calorie intake to below 1,300 calories because it would be hard to get all the important nutrition that you need in less than that, plus, you probably won't feel satisfied.
4. Add daily exercise: I suspect that you may be caught in a vicious cycle of not exercising, eating and not having energy. Exercising actually makes you feel more energetic once you have made a habit of it. If you don't feel like you have energy to exercise now, start out with some physical activity that will get you moving, but won't require a lot energy. How about taking the dog for a walk? Or, if you don't have a dog, take the neighbor's dog for a walk. Once you have done some walking, every day for a couple of weeks, try running for a short distance. Get out on your bicycle, or roller blades, or shoot some baskets in the driveway. If you are at a loss for exercise ideas, speak to your gym teacher. I'll bet they would love to help you out. Most teachers are thrilled with kids that are self-motivated to improve.
5. Enlist the support of your family: Have a serious talk with your parents and ask them to help. They should be able to help you find materials on nutritious eating, and can help purchase the foods that will help, such as fresh fruits for snacks and whole grain cereals for breakfast. And they can avoid purchasing foods that will tempt you with poor choices, such as sodas, chips, candy, donuts or cookies.
6. Find measures of success besides weight loss: This isn't just about losing weight, it's about getting healthier for good. So, don't measure your success merely on how much weight you lose. Other things you can look at (for example) may be the amount of time you spent being physically active and not watching television, an increase in endurance (for example, biking for a longer distance or jogging for a longer period of time), or a week of making nutritious snack choices (for example, after school you picked a yogurt fruit smoothie instead of cookies and a soda).
7. Block out cultural messages that emphasize being thin: Decide not to focus on the television shows with actresses or actors that are too thin, as well as fashion magazines with overly thin models. In the real world, most people don't look like that. In fact, it is hard to look like a model and still get the appropriate nutrition from an adequate amount of food. Instead, take a look at high school and college athletes. Most of them are muscular, full bodied and brimming over with good health! You don't have to be a full fledged athlete to look or feel that way, but once you have developed an active lifestyle and good eating habits, you will.
8. Schedule a visit with your health-care provider: If you think your energy level is unusually low, have your mom or dad call the doctor. It may be that some health problem is contributing to how you feel.
9. Find your motivation from within: Weight loss won't happen unless the desire comes from inside you. No amount of outside pressure will do the job.
Good luck to you and have fun developing a happy and healthy lifestyleNeed advice about losing weight....?
it helps to stay active... like running or even walking helps... if your not active right now, start slow cause you dont want to hurt youself then increase how much you walk/run weekly... working out can help tone you up and will make you feel really good. Fruit also helps you lose weight and eating healthy, not snaking either.... theres a nother way, if you switch up what you eat and when... like when you normally eat breakfast, eat dinner or lunch, when you eat lunch, eat dinner or breakfast, when you eat dinner, eat breakfast or lunch.... idk how but it works!
Its simple. No pills, no cheating, no excuses.
EAT LESS MOVE AROUND MORE.
Push yourself in your workouts and eat around 1,200 calories a day (at the most). I have lost 10 pounds in a week and a half by simply doing that. I jog and hour a day, meet with a personal trainer two times a week, and eat 1,000 calories a day. If you really look at foods and compare calories you can find some filling low calories options that allow you to eat all day.
Here are a few tips:
1. You MUST exercise if you want to lose weight and keep it off, so do something every day, even if it’s just a 15-minute walk around the neighborhood. Don’t say you don’t have time for exercise; you have to MAKE time. Yes, it takes time and effort, but you’re worth it, right?
2. Walk as much as you want, but don’t do cardio for more than 40 minutes at a time. If you do, you risk burning muscle instead of fat.
3. If you do strength training, use light weights and do lots of repetitions. That’ll really help you “tone up.”
4. Your diet will make you or break you. You have probably learned bad eating habits over time (most people do). That’s not your fault, but now you have to deal with it. Make a commitment to yourself to unlearn those bad habits and re-learn better habits.
5. Eat breakfast every day within an hour of getting up. People who don’t are 450% more likely to be overweight.
6. Eat six small meals or snacks per day instead of three squares per day or one big meal per day. Your body expends energy digesting your food, so eating smaller portions more often keeps your metabolism running high because you’re constantly digesting food.
7. Avoid these as much as possible:
-- Trans fat (any type of partially or fully hydrogenated oil)
-- High fructose corn syrup (soft drinks are LOADED with it)
-- Fast food
-- Junk food
-- White sugar, white flour, white rice, white potatoes
-- The deadly C’s (cookies, cakes, candy, chips, cola)
8. Build your diet around these trim-body-friendly foods:
-- Nuts, any kind (almonds are best)
-- Beans/Legumes
-- Fresh vegetables (green is GREAT!!!)
-- Dairy products (as long as they’re low-fat or non-fat)
-- Eggs
-- Lean meats (fish and poultry top the list)
-- Olive oil
-- Whole grain breads/cereals/pasta
-- Fresh fruits (anything that ends in “berry” is a winner)
-- Tea (green tea or black pekoe tea)
-- Cold water or ice water (your body has to expend extra calories to heat it up)
9. Desserts and treats are the exception, not the rule. Having said that, however, (1) you can have a couple of pieces of chocolate every day – just don’t overdo, and (2) Allow yourself one “cheat meal” every week where you eat and drink whatever you want as long as you don’t gorge yourself. That’ll help keep you from feeling deprived and it’ll make it easier to stick with your new healthy eating plan.
Good luck!
1. Forget blame and guilt: It is important for you to make sure that you don't blame anyone -- either yourself or your parents -- for where you are right now. Feeling guilty about your appearance is a negative feeling that won't help.
2. Take the long term approach: Look at what you are about to undertake not as a short term, quick, weight loss, but rather a change in lifestyle to last a lifetime. You will begin to make more nutritious food choices, add exercise, and cut back somewhat on your eating. If you falter along the way, you don't need to look at it as a failure because you know that you have a long time to make the changes. For example, if you go with your friends to eat at a fast food restaurant, and you indulge in a large order of fries, there is no need to feel guilty because you know that eating them is not a regular habit, and that at the next meal you will eat more sensibly.
3. Set reasonable goals: Losing one-half to one pound per week is very realistic. Don't drop your calorie intake to below 1,300 calories because it would be hard to get all the important nutrition that you need in less than that, plus, you probably won't feel satisfied.
4. Add daily exercise: I suspect that you may be caught in a vicious cycle of not exercising, eating and not having energy. Exercising actually makes you feel more energetic once you have made a habit of it. If you don't feel like you have energy to exercise now, start out with some physical activity that will get you moving, but won't require a lot energy. How about taking the dog for a walk? Or, if you don't have a dog, take the neighbor's dog for a walk. Once you have done some walking, every day for a couple of weeks, try running for a short distance. Get out on your bicycle, or roller blades, or shoot some baskets in the driveway. If you are at a loss for exercise ideas, speak to your gym teacher. I'll bet they would love to help you out. Most teachers are thrilled with kids that are self-motivated to improve.
5. Enlist the support of your family: Have a serious talk with your parents and ask them to help. They should be able to help you find materials on nutritious eating, and can help purchase the foods that will help, such as fresh fruits for snacks and whole grain cereals for breakfast. And they can avoid purchasing foods that will tempt you with poor choices, such as sodas, chips, candy, donuts or cookies.
6. Find measures of success besides weight loss: This isn't just about losing weight, it's about getting healthier for good. So, don't measure your success merely on how much weight you lose. Other things you can look at (for example) may be the amount of time you spent being physically active and not watching television, an increase in endurance (for example, biking for a longer distance or jogging for a longer period of time), or a week of making nutritious snack choices (for example, after school you picked a yogurt fruit smoothie instead of cookies and a soda).
7. Block out cultural messages that emphasize being thin: Decide not to focus on the television shows with actresses or actors that are too thin, as well as fashion magazines with overly thin models. In the real world, most people don't look like that. In fact, it is hard to look like a model and still get the appropriate nutrition from an adequate amount of food. Instead, take a look at high school and college athletes. Most of them are muscular, full bodied and brimming over with good health! You don't have to be a full fledged athlete to look or feel that way, but once you have developed an active lifestyle and good eating habits, you will.
8. Schedule a visit with your health-care provider: If you think your energy level is unusually low, have your mom or dad call the doctor. It may be that some health problem is contributing to how you feel.
9. Find your motivation from within: Weight loss won't happen unless the desire comes from inside you. No amount of outside pressure will do the job.
Good luck to you and have fun developing a happy and healthy lifestyleNeed advice about losing weight....?
it helps to stay active... like running or even walking helps... if your not active right now, start slow cause you dont want to hurt youself then increase how much you walk/run weekly... working out can help tone you up and will make you feel really good. Fruit also helps you lose weight and eating healthy, not snaking either.... theres a nother way, if you switch up what you eat and when... like when you normally eat breakfast, eat dinner or lunch, when you eat lunch, eat dinner or breakfast, when you eat dinner, eat breakfast or lunch.... idk how but it works!
Its simple. No pills, no cheating, no excuses.
EAT LESS MOVE AROUND MORE.
Push yourself in your workouts and eat around 1,200 calories a day (at the most). I have lost 10 pounds in a week and a half by simply doing that. I jog and hour a day, meet with a personal trainer two times a week, and eat 1,000 calories a day. If you really look at foods and compare calories you can find some filling low calories options that allow you to eat all day.
Here are a few tips:
1. You MUST exercise if you want to lose weight and keep it off, so do something every day, even if it’s just a 15-minute walk around the neighborhood. Don’t say you don’t have time for exercise; you have to MAKE time. Yes, it takes time and effort, but you’re worth it, right?
2. Walk as much as you want, but don’t do cardio for more than 40 minutes at a time. If you do, you risk burning muscle instead of fat.
3. If you do strength training, use light weights and do lots of repetitions. That’ll really help you “tone up.”
4. Your diet will make you or break you. You have probably learned bad eating habits over time (most people do). That’s not your fault, but now you have to deal with it. Make a commitment to yourself to unlearn those bad habits and re-learn better habits.
5. Eat breakfast every day within an hour of getting up. People who don’t are 450% more likely to be overweight.
6. Eat six small meals or snacks per day instead of three squares per day or one big meal per day. Your body expends energy digesting your food, so eating smaller portions more often keeps your metabolism running high because you’re constantly digesting food.
7. Avoid these as much as possible:
-- Trans fat (any type of partially or fully hydrogenated oil)
-- High fructose corn syrup (soft drinks are LOADED with it)
-- Fast food
-- Junk food
-- White sugar, white flour, white rice, white potatoes
-- The deadly C’s (cookies, cakes, candy, chips, cola)
8. Build your diet around these trim-body-friendly foods:
-- Nuts, any kind (almonds are best)
-- Beans/Legumes
-- Fresh vegetables (green is GREAT!!!)
-- Dairy products (as long as they’re low-fat or non-fat)
-- Eggs
-- Lean meats (fish and poultry top the list)
-- Olive oil
-- Whole grain breads/cereals/pasta
-- Fresh fruits (anything that ends in “berry” is a winner)
-- Tea (green tea or black pekoe tea)
-- Cold water or ice water (your body has to expend extra calories to heat it up)
9. Desserts and treats are the exception, not the rule. Having said that, however, (1) you can have a couple of pieces of chocolate every day – just don’t overdo, and (2) Allow yourself one “cheat meal” every week where you eat and drink whatever you want as long as you don’t gorge yourself. That’ll help keep you from feeling deprived and it’ll make it easier to stick with your new healthy eating plan.
Good luck!
Need advice about running.?
By August 17th i need to be able to run a mile in under 8 minutes.
I can do it in 10 flat now.
i know its a horrible time and thats why i need the help!
Please answer, thanks(:Need advice about running.?
Keep running! Every day go out and run at least a mile. If you can, do 2 or 3 miles. If you can't do that yet, then gradually add a little distance every few days to your run until you get up to a longer distance. Do this for a few weeks and you will have built up your endurance a lot. After that, try timing your mile to see how close you are to your goal. If you still have farther to go, do some speed work.
A good speed drill is to try to sprint about a quarter mile. Go as fast as you can for a quarter mile, then rest for 5 or more minutes. Then sprint another quarter mile. And so on.
If you do long runs 3-4 days a week and sprint drills 2 days a week you will definitely see your mile time improve!Need advice about running.?
run 2 miles everyday, getting faster each time. then the week before, run the mile faster each time! it'll be easy!! don't worry
Look into local running stores. Most offer a once a week training group that is free and open to the public.
I can do it in 10 flat now.
i know its a horrible time and thats why i need the help!
Please answer, thanks(:Need advice about running.?
Keep running! Every day go out and run at least a mile. If you can, do 2 or 3 miles. If you can't do that yet, then gradually add a little distance every few days to your run until you get up to a longer distance. Do this for a few weeks and you will have built up your endurance a lot. After that, try timing your mile to see how close you are to your goal. If you still have farther to go, do some speed work.
A good speed drill is to try to sprint about a quarter mile. Go as fast as you can for a quarter mile, then rest for 5 or more minutes. Then sprint another quarter mile. And so on.
If you do long runs 3-4 days a week and sprint drills 2 days a week you will definitely see your mile time improve!Need advice about running.?
run 2 miles everyday, getting faster each time. then the week before, run the mile faster each time! it'll be easy!! don't worry
Look into local running stores. Most offer a once a week training group that is free and open to the public.
Need advice about a girl I like...?
So I like this girl that works at a video game store...
anyone have any advice?
I've been in there a couple times, she talked to me, she's cute and seems really friendly and likes video games.
I just remembered she said she plays world of warcraft.. so should I be like what server are you on? and then talk to her on there?Need advice about a girl I like...?
I agree with Bad Kitty. Definitely do it in person. Take a chance and just pretend like you're talking w/ other friends. That'll make it easier. Also starting with other topics (like asking for help) helps too.Need advice about a girl I like...?
Just ask her what faction and what type of character she plays...Then say maybe you'll create a character on that server and play with her... =)
what is warcraft? if you want to get her attention rent a love story and ask her out.
Just be yourself. Yeah start talking about World of Warcraft and suggest that maybe it'll be fun to play online together or something. Then maybe you can move on to other topics that you guys both like and then somehow find out about her and tell a little bit about yourself so she can get to know you.
you could ask what server she is on. you can set up a LAN party and ask if she would like to come. try to find a way interact with her outside of the store and just become friends and go from there
no. you man up and talk to her whenever you see her at the store. as long as she doesnt look too intimidating you'll be alright.
Why not? The best way to start a relationship with a girl is to talk to her. You're never gonna get anywhere just looking at her from across the room. Talk to her about World of Warcraft, then ask her if you could play together (I don't know a lick about the game), and play her. Make additional reasons for you to talk in the future.
Yeah great! At least you know what she's into, and that you have something in common.
Why not chat to her for a bit, then ask her out to something you think you'd both enjoy? Something more like ';friends'; than a ';date';, because it's more fun and a good way to get to know each other properly.
if u had that line thought out...then y dont u just go for it.
what i have found out is that you don't know if you don't ask. Just ask her and don't torture yourself.
just go in there when she working , ask her about video games like your looking for something and then get kinda flirty and joke around, then ask her if she would like to go out to a movie or something. be a man girls love when a guy steps up ,dont do it over server, do it in person.
tell hur haw you feall it wurks whith me!!!!
um no stupied dont do that why dont you ask her out instead of ask her what server are you.
thats nothing to get advice on
anyone have any advice?
I've been in there a couple times, she talked to me, she's cute and seems really friendly and likes video games.
I just remembered she said she plays world of warcraft.. so should I be like what server are you on? and then talk to her on there?Need advice about a girl I like...?
I agree with Bad Kitty. Definitely do it in person. Take a chance and just pretend like you're talking w/ other friends. That'll make it easier. Also starting with other topics (like asking for help) helps too.Need advice about a girl I like...?
Just ask her what faction and what type of character she plays...Then say maybe you'll create a character on that server and play with her... =)
what is warcraft? if you want to get her attention rent a love story and ask her out.
Just be yourself. Yeah start talking about World of Warcraft and suggest that maybe it'll be fun to play online together or something. Then maybe you can move on to other topics that you guys both like and then somehow find out about her and tell a little bit about yourself so she can get to know you.
you could ask what server she is on. you can set up a LAN party and ask if she would like to come. try to find a way interact with her outside of the store and just become friends and go from there
no. you man up and talk to her whenever you see her at the store. as long as she doesnt look too intimidating you'll be alright.
Why not? The best way to start a relationship with a girl is to talk to her. You're never gonna get anywhere just looking at her from across the room. Talk to her about World of Warcraft, then ask her if you could play together (I don't know a lick about the game), and play her. Make additional reasons for you to talk in the future.
Yeah great! At least you know what she's into, and that you have something in common.
Why not chat to her for a bit, then ask her out to something you think you'd both enjoy? Something more like ';friends'; than a ';date';, because it's more fun and a good way to get to know each other properly.
if u had that line thought out...then y dont u just go for it.
what i have found out is that you don't know if you don't ask. Just ask her and don't torture yourself.
just go in there when she working , ask her about video games like your looking for something and then get kinda flirty and joke around, then ask her if she would like to go out to a movie or something. be a man girls love when a guy steps up ,dont do it over server, do it in person.
tell hur haw you feall it wurks whith me!!!!
um no stupied dont do that why dont you ask her out instead of ask her what server are you.
thats nothing to get advice on
Need advice about Dad? ASAP!!! Need as many answer's as possibe!?
Ok so my parents are divorced and my dad lies to my face and twists words around so he acts like the good guy in any situation. He blames me for stuff. He has even told me i cost to much money. I have a really hard time trusting guy's now. I think he has completley screwd up my life. Nobody ever listens to me or understands how hard it is. I am falling apart and i think i am going to lose my mind if i have to see him or talk to him again.
Do you think that i should have the parenting time suspended forever? Do you think that he diserves to be a parent(i don't)?
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How about you refuse to go see him anymore? If you can explain to your mother why you don't want to see him any longer on his weekend visits, go for it. Explain to her what you have posted here. Once you get older you can try and build a relationship with him again, with YOU setting the ground rules.
Sounds like dad is trying to put you in the middle of the divorce. Too bad he can't be an adult. Probably explains why your folks are split.
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since your dad is toxic it's time for you to cut him from your life. just because he is your parent or because he is family doesn't mean that he can treat you like crap and it doesn't mean that he has to be friends. it seems to me like your dad is way insecure and because of that he is acting outwardly by trying to make himself seem bigger than everyone else is.
http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Parents-Susa鈥?/a>
try getting the above book. althogh your dad may not be toxic by the books definition...he is in some way. this book may help you to deal with his toxicity effectively.
How old are you? If you're still a minor (under 18), and your dad has even partial custody, you're going to have to get your mother to prove that he's an unfit parent. So talk to your mom about this, and see what she says. You might need some counseling as well, especially if you have a hard time trusting men. Your dad isn't all men, he's 1 man. You just sound like a teenager here to me. And the way you feel is completely normal, because all teens think that their parents don't understand them.
And no, I don't think he needs his parental rights severed, unless he's being abusive.
why don't you try to talk to your mom about what your dad is saying to you see if she can advise you
He's probably pissed because he has to pay lots in child support. It's NOT your fault that the marriage didn't last. That's the main point here. He is takings things out on you and no one deserves that kind of treatment. I would look into the Department of Children and Family Services. Let them know what is going on. Maybe they can help you with your problem. They take things seriously if no one else is listening to you. Let them know exactly what he is saying and doing. They might help you find a counselor. Don't lose faith in all guys. He is messing with your mind. Just try to ignore it and try to not spend time with him. What does your mom have to say about it?
You need to stay away from your dad if it is at all possible.
stay away from him!! he has no right saying those things to you and he doesn't deserve to be a dad. please don't see him anymore until he decides to clean up his act!!
I have a father just like that...
Just know that some fathers just don't know how to be a father their darn selves! They are frightened that you may end up like them so they just make up things and excuses why they did or didn't do curtain things to make life better. I accept that b/c I now understand. Right now, I just call my dad to say hi and try to see him but he always makes up excuses. I just give him phone calls every now and then just to say hi, just to let him know that I still think of him but I keep our conversations at a limit b/c I don't want to be hurt from broken promises and etc. My advice to you is to do the same. Just focus on yourself and hopefully in the future, you will carefully pick someone who will not be like that to your children. Then again men do change so, I think he'll come around. Mine came for 15 mins to my apt for Thanksgiving. I thought it was going to snow. Plus, he called me for my birthday- I was floored! He didn't do that for my other sibilings. Just don't ask him why he does or don't do whatever. My brother died last year in a car accident and he showed no sadness, but I knew he was dying inside b/c my brother just left from talking to him the day he died. My brother went to him and wrote his number down and put it in my dad's shirt pocket and said call me(b/c he don't). I know he regrets that! I just let him be and he seems to come around (not often) but at least once in a blue moon. We are all humans and relate to things in life differently. Just don't give up!
dad cares about one thing and that is dad,he is looking out for number one,stay clear of him until he realizes he is making a big mistake
What your dad is doing borders on emotional abuse. Tell your mom and the social worker who handles your case that you don't want to see your dad anymore, or if you must, that your time together be supervised. If you deliver your messge firmly and calmly, they will be more likely to listen to you.
Ask your mom to enroll you with a therapist so that you can talk through and overcome your distrust of men.
you sound like you need space. maybe a couple months... maybe years... maybe a life time. if or when you allow him in your life, it should only be under the conition that he is respectful. that is emtional abuse hon... not all guys are like that
I wish my girls could see there fathers faults. He uses them just like he used me. He has lived with two of the daughters for free. He can't watch the grandkids because of his health(which he plays to his own advantage.) He is able to ride his motorcycle all of the country in all kinds of weather. He drinks, smokes and does all kind of work for his girlfriend, mows her lawn, paints, builds her a shed , etc. this list is too long. He is too tight to send flowers to his only uncle funeral , but buys his girlfriend diamonds. Tells, his grandchildren he can't afford much so he gives them savings bonds. that cost him $12.50 each. He lies so much he does not even know what the truth is. He makes sure he goes back to his own place each night so he can tell the girls he and his girlfriend are just friends. He is such a work or art. He has messed up the girls for all his lies. His one daughter is now following in his footsteps, she has been cheating on her husband and calling it friendship. They have learned to lie from the expert. If you come back to your apartment each night they do not call it and affair. Yet, she is not sure if the last grandson is her husbands. Thank goodness you see the light. tell me how my girls will finally see the light of day. He is such a charmer and has lied so much even he doesn't know the truth. But it does not make a good parent and screws everyones life up. I think you dad needs to be shown the door to your life until he can get his head on straight. Good for you for seeing thur the man. I know you love him and he is your dad, but you deserve only the best life can offer and he sure is not it.
Your Dad sounds like a jerk. You don't mention your age, but keep in mind before you know it, you'll be an adult. Time flies - trust me. Speak with a school councillor or a teacher - they are adults that WON'T think your Dad looks like a good guy. There are ALOT of people out there that shouldn't be parents - just promise to be a good one when your time comes. I know that it seems like the end of the world when you have problems at home - it really isn't. My father was strict and I contemplated suicide when I was a teen. Thank God - I didn't do it. Now, I'm 40, have 2 great teens of my own, and my Dad has passed away. I laugh now at how much drama I felt when I was a teen. It WILL pass. Good Luck!
Well how old r you??
My ex husband does the same thing to my boys. He is verbally abusing you and if he truly loved you he would not lie to you and talk to you that way. I think that you should do what makes YOU happy, am not sure how old you are but you do not deserve to spend time with someone who treats you that way-relative or no relative-can you talk to your mom about this or maybe a counselor or close relative? It sounds like your dad is taking his anger and frustrations out on you simply because you're convenient. You don't deserve that or need that in your life.
Tell him to shove it!! And then remind him that when he's older and in a old folk's home and wants to see you, he'll only have himself to blame that you won't visit.
tell him that u love him cause he is ur father but u can longer be around him because he is to hurtfull and u need only things in ur life to enrich ur life and if he can chang his ways then u will let him back in
how old are you? where is your mom? see if you can move to your moms. or stay out of his way until you can move out and promise yourself to never treat your children this way. my dad was the same way, now he wants a relationship and its hard for me to do that. my children are my life, i live to guide and help them in there life. good luck.
I don't think that you 'can' have his 'parenting time suspended forever' ... that is something that only a 'court of law' may do, and you may be too 'young' to have your 'opinions' respected in a court of law. You should talk to your mother first, and ask for her 'help' ... because it may be that only she can actually 'sue' for 'no visitation' ... but you should also be aware that getting the court involved means that if you 'change your mind' and want to see your father again for any reason, you may not 'be allowed to' by the court. You write 'well' even though you have 'misspelled' some words, so I'm guessing that you are a 'teenager' so your 'best bet' might be simply to 'visit your dad' when his 'visit time' is scheduled, and just 'live with his lies and hatred'... which can be 'extremely easy' for you if you can just remember that what your dad 'thinks and/or says' don't have to 'influence you' in ANY WAY. All you 'must do' is 'put up with him' because that is what the court has 'ordered.' I know that it is 'hard' for you and that you think that 'nobody ever listens or understands how hard it is' ... but I think that you are 'putting onto someone else' the responsibility for a 'fix' for you that may not even be possible. No one should 'deserve' to be a parent, because EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES and unfortunately many of those mistakes 'hurt' our children. As 'a child' your job is simply to 'try to grow up to be the BEST I can be' and if that means that you must 'endure' your dad and try to 'ignore his ravings' then maybe 'just doing it' will actually HELP YOU TO UNDERSTAND what it means to be 'the BEST you can be.' So ... go 'talk with' your mom, but if you don't get the answer you 'want' I have at least given you the best 'advice' on how to 'deal with your dad' when you must visit him. Remember, all you are doing is 'visiting' and you don't have to 'listen to and take in' anything he says ... and that also should mean that you may be 'wary' of men after this, but that you should also be able to 'give them room' to be who THEY ARE and not 'see all men as your father is' because you should know that all men are not 'bad' ... you simply must 'look for a good man' to be your husband, lover, and you have a WONDERFUL EXAMPLE of the 'BAD' to help you make the 'right choice' for yourself.
Speaking as someone who lost there dad to cancer at a very young age I'd say.... No you shouldn't stop seeing your dad. I promise you later in life you will regret it. Why not go to counsiling to find out how to better deal with him? Or better yet see if he'll go to counsiling WITH you? That way you can both talk about issues and perhaps get some help on how to relate to one another better. I know parents are a hard thing to deal with... but just giving up on your dad isn't the right thing to do. Give it a try if it fails then cut your losses but if it works you'lll have a dad and friend for the rest of your life. And that is SO important.
I think go with ur mother
Talk to mom or another family member give yourself distance from dad my dad was the same way but as far as your too much money that's tough for him he has to support you until your 18 and if not did you know you can sue him for back child support -if he does not -YOU can .Find a job un the mean time and do good in school. I know it's hard but you can do it good luck! :)
Do you think that i should have the parenting time suspended forever? Do you think that he diserves to be a parent(i don't)?
Need opinions here?Need advice about Dad? ASAP!!! Need as many answer's as possibe!?
How about you refuse to go see him anymore? If you can explain to your mother why you don't want to see him any longer on his weekend visits, go for it. Explain to her what you have posted here. Once you get older you can try and build a relationship with him again, with YOU setting the ground rules.
Sounds like dad is trying to put you in the middle of the divorce. Too bad he can't be an adult. Probably explains why your folks are split.
Good Luck!Need advice about Dad? ASAP!!! Need as many answer's as possibe!?
since your dad is toxic it's time for you to cut him from your life. just because he is your parent or because he is family doesn't mean that he can treat you like crap and it doesn't mean that he has to be friends. it seems to me like your dad is way insecure and because of that he is acting outwardly by trying to make himself seem bigger than everyone else is.
http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Parents-Susa鈥?/a>
try getting the above book. althogh your dad may not be toxic by the books definition...he is in some way. this book may help you to deal with his toxicity effectively.
How old are you? If you're still a minor (under 18), and your dad has even partial custody, you're going to have to get your mother to prove that he's an unfit parent. So talk to your mom about this, and see what she says. You might need some counseling as well, especially if you have a hard time trusting men. Your dad isn't all men, he's 1 man. You just sound like a teenager here to me. And the way you feel is completely normal, because all teens think that their parents don't understand them.
And no, I don't think he needs his parental rights severed, unless he's being abusive.
why don't you try to talk to your mom about what your dad is saying to you see if she can advise you
He's probably pissed because he has to pay lots in child support. It's NOT your fault that the marriage didn't last. That's the main point here. He is takings things out on you and no one deserves that kind of treatment. I would look into the Department of Children and Family Services. Let them know what is going on. Maybe they can help you with your problem. They take things seriously if no one else is listening to you. Let them know exactly what he is saying and doing. They might help you find a counselor. Don't lose faith in all guys. He is messing with your mind. Just try to ignore it and try to not spend time with him. What does your mom have to say about it?
You need to stay away from your dad if it is at all possible.
stay away from him!! he has no right saying those things to you and he doesn't deserve to be a dad. please don't see him anymore until he decides to clean up his act!!
I have a father just like that...
Just know that some fathers just don't know how to be a father their darn selves! They are frightened that you may end up like them so they just make up things and excuses why they did or didn't do curtain things to make life better. I accept that b/c I now understand. Right now, I just call my dad to say hi and try to see him but he always makes up excuses. I just give him phone calls every now and then just to say hi, just to let him know that I still think of him but I keep our conversations at a limit b/c I don't want to be hurt from broken promises and etc. My advice to you is to do the same. Just focus on yourself and hopefully in the future, you will carefully pick someone who will not be like that to your children. Then again men do change so, I think he'll come around. Mine came for 15 mins to my apt for Thanksgiving. I thought it was going to snow. Plus, he called me for my birthday- I was floored! He didn't do that for my other sibilings. Just don't ask him why he does or don't do whatever. My brother died last year in a car accident and he showed no sadness, but I knew he was dying inside b/c my brother just left from talking to him the day he died. My brother went to him and wrote his number down and put it in my dad's shirt pocket and said call me(b/c he don't). I know he regrets that! I just let him be and he seems to come around (not often) but at least once in a blue moon. We are all humans and relate to things in life differently. Just don't give up!
dad cares about one thing and that is dad,he is looking out for number one,stay clear of him until he realizes he is making a big mistake
What your dad is doing borders on emotional abuse. Tell your mom and the social worker who handles your case that you don't want to see your dad anymore, or if you must, that your time together be supervised. If you deliver your messge firmly and calmly, they will be more likely to listen to you.
Ask your mom to enroll you with a therapist so that you can talk through and overcome your distrust of men.
you sound like you need space. maybe a couple months... maybe years... maybe a life time. if or when you allow him in your life, it should only be under the conition that he is respectful. that is emtional abuse hon... not all guys are like that
I wish my girls could see there fathers faults. He uses them just like he used me. He has lived with two of the daughters for free. He can't watch the grandkids because of his health(which he plays to his own advantage.) He is able to ride his motorcycle all of the country in all kinds of weather. He drinks, smokes and does all kind of work for his girlfriend, mows her lawn, paints, builds her a shed , etc. this list is too long. He is too tight to send flowers to his only uncle funeral , but buys his girlfriend diamonds. Tells, his grandchildren he can't afford much so he gives them savings bonds. that cost him $12.50 each. He lies so much he does not even know what the truth is. He makes sure he goes back to his own place each night so he can tell the girls he and his girlfriend are just friends. He is such a work or art. He has messed up the girls for all his lies. His one daughter is now following in his footsteps, she has been cheating on her husband and calling it friendship. They have learned to lie from the expert. If you come back to your apartment each night they do not call it and affair. Yet, she is not sure if the last grandson is her husbands. Thank goodness you see the light. tell me how my girls will finally see the light of day. He is such a charmer and has lied so much even he doesn't know the truth. But it does not make a good parent and screws everyones life up. I think you dad needs to be shown the door to your life until he can get his head on straight. Good for you for seeing thur the man. I know you love him and he is your dad, but you deserve only the best life can offer and he sure is not it.
Your Dad sounds like a jerk. You don't mention your age, but keep in mind before you know it, you'll be an adult. Time flies - trust me. Speak with a school councillor or a teacher - they are adults that WON'T think your Dad looks like a good guy. There are ALOT of people out there that shouldn't be parents - just promise to be a good one when your time comes. I know that it seems like the end of the world when you have problems at home - it really isn't. My father was strict and I contemplated suicide when I was a teen. Thank God - I didn't do it. Now, I'm 40, have 2 great teens of my own, and my Dad has passed away. I laugh now at how much drama I felt when I was a teen. It WILL pass. Good Luck!
Well how old r you??
My ex husband does the same thing to my boys. He is verbally abusing you and if he truly loved you he would not lie to you and talk to you that way. I think that you should do what makes YOU happy, am not sure how old you are but you do not deserve to spend time with someone who treats you that way-relative or no relative-can you talk to your mom about this or maybe a counselor or close relative? It sounds like your dad is taking his anger and frustrations out on you simply because you're convenient. You don't deserve that or need that in your life.
Tell him to shove it!! And then remind him that when he's older and in a old folk's home and wants to see you, he'll only have himself to blame that you won't visit.
tell him that u love him cause he is ur father but u can longer be around him because he is to hurtfull and u need only things in ur life to enrich ur life and if he can chang his ways then u will let him back in
how old are you? where is your mom? see if you can move to your moms. or stay out of his way until you can move out and promise yourself to never treat your children this way. my dad was the same way, now he wants a relationship and its hard for me to do that. my children are my life, i live to guide and help them in there life. good luck.
I don't think that you 'can' have his 'parenting time suspended forever' ... that is something that only a 'court of law' may do, and you may be too 'young' to have your 'opinions' respected in a court of law. You should talk to your mother first, and ask for her 'help' ... because it may be that only she can actually 'sue' for 'no visitation' ... but you should also be aware that getting the court involved means that if you 'change your mind' and want to see your father again for any reason, you may not 'be allowed to' by the court. You write 'well' even though you have 'misspelled' some words, so I'm guessing that you are a 'teenager' so your 'best bet' might be simply to 'visit your dad' when his 'visit time' is scheduled, and just 'live with his lies and hatred'... which can be 'extremely easy' for you if you can just remember that what your dad 'thinks and/or says' don't have to 'influence you' in ANY WAY. All you 'must do' is 'put up with him' because that is what the court has 'ordered.' I know that it is 'hard' for you and that you think that 'nobody ever listens or understands how hard it is' ... but I think that you are 'putting onto someone else' the responsibility for a 'fix' for you that may not even be possible. No one should 'deserve' to be a parent, because EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES and unfortunately many of those mistakes 'hurt' our children. As 'a child' your job is simply to 'try to grow up to be the BEST I can be' and if that means that you must 'endure' your dad and try to 'ignore his ravings' then maybe 'just doing it' will actually HELP YOU TO UNDERSTAND what it means to be 'the BEST you can be.' So ... go 'talk with' your mom, but if you don't get the answer you 'want' I have at least given you the best 'advice' on how to 'deal with your dad' when you must visit him. Remember, all you are doing is 'visiting' and you don't have to 'listen to and take in' anything he says ... and that also should mean that you may be 'wary' of men after this, but that you should also be able to 'give them room' to be who THEY ARE and not 'see all men as your father is' because you should know that all men are not 'bad' ... you simply must 'look for a good man' to be your husband, lover, and you have a WONDERFUL EXAMPLE of the 'BAD' to help you make the 'right choice' for yourself.
Speaking as someone who lost there dad to cancer at a very young age I'd say.... No you shouldn't stop seeing your dad. I promise you later in life you will regret it. Why not go to counsiling to find out how to better deal with him? Or better yet see if he'll go to counsiling WITH you? That way you can both talk about issues and perhaps get some help on how to relate to one another better. I know parents are a hard thing to deal with... but just giving up on your dad isn't the right thing to do. Give it a try if it fails then cut your losses but if it works you'lll have a dad and friend for the rest of your life. And that is SO important.
I think go with ur mother
Talk to mom or another family member give yourself distance from dad my dad was the same way but as far as your too much money that's tough for him he has to support you until your 18 and if not did you know you can sue him for back child support -if he does not -YOU can .Find a job un the mean time and do good in school. I know it's hard but you can do it good luck! :)
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