Okay, for this question I really need someone who knows what they are talking about. Well, a friend of mine has a website that makes hacks for a computer game. The publishers of the game are threatening to sue him if he doesn't stop. The hacks that he makes are all client sided, absolutely nothing he has is server sided. So what grounds can they sue him on?Legal advice about computer game hacking?
They can sue if any of the hacks actually modify the client.
but game publishers are full of ****, every game publisher threatens to sue but they very rarely carry it out, in fact they send out thousands of legal threats per day just hoping to strike fear and hopefully cause some websites to shut down. If they actually do file a claim then you can shut it down......Legal advice about computer game hacking?
Your right, what can they sue him on? There's nothing they can get him on I think, he's not impersonating anyone or anything. Unfortunately I'm not so great in legal/illegal advice giving. oh and the game is warrock, he didn't even have to pay for it... I never heard of anyone get sued for creating or using hacks even for games you have to pay for. Warrock just needs the money so they could keep their little business running. And yes, H is right!
You need to be more specific. What game? What does the hack do? What does the EULA say? You cant expect a precise answer when your information is so ambiguous.
If the hack disadvantages other paying players, it does not matter if it is client or server side, all that matters is that you are altering the game experience for other players.
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Need advice about a job and my daughters?
Ok My 9 daughters ages 3 -14. There mom died 3 years ago in a car accident. The past 400 days we moved like 5-7 times. We just moved again. We were 1300 miles from my parents. now we are 1700 miles.
The one state we lived in has this church that we went to. Has there own Private schools. They asked me if i wanted a job i said no, They asked me after i was being transfer again. I am not a teacher. But there school you just need to want to teach. You don't need a teaching degree. I am a manager. I have taking lots of math classes.
Today i got an email asking me again if I am interested in teaching there. If I take this job i will be teaching k-12 math. This is there smaller school. They have 7 big schools through out the state.
The positives with this jobs is
My daughters can go to the school for free.
We will only be about 300 miles away from my parents aka there grandparents.
Have more time for my girls
Negatives
Less pay
have to move in 2 weeks. We just moved last week.
I believe you should have degrees to be able to teach
Any advice????????Need advice about a job and my daughters?
follow your heart only you can make the decision good luckNeed advice about a job and my daughters?
well if you work there u will probale not have to move for a wieland you kids get free education i think this should be a good thing mabey you wont have to move
-whatever your decition is good luuk
you might want to work on your communication skills before you try teaching a subject like math. That job requires that you can communicate clearly.
if it guarantees that you won't have to move so much then i would take the job, depending on how much less you get for pay
Wat
will b bes for you
talk to the older kids about it they might be able to help you
The one state we lived in has this church that we went to. Has there own Private schools. They asked me if i wanted a job i said no, They asked me after i was being transfer again. I am not a teacher. But there school you just need to want to teach. You don't need a teaching degree. I am a manager. I have taking lots of math classes.
Today i got an email asking me again if I am interested in teaching there. If I take this job i will be teaching k-12 math. This is there smaller school. They have 7 big schools through out the state.
The positives with this jobs is
My daughters can go to the school for free.
We will only be about 300 miles away from my parents aka there grandparents.
Have more time for my girls
Negatives
Less pay
have to move in 2 weeks. We just moved last week.
I believe you should have degrees to be able to teach
Any advice????????Need advice about a job and my daughters?
follow your heart only you can make the decision good luckNeed advice about a job and my daughters?
well if you work there u will probale not have to move for a wieland you kids get free education i think this should be a good thing mabey you wont have to move
-whatever your decition is good luuk
you might want to work on your communication skills before you try teaching a subject like math. That job requires that you can communicate clearly.
if it guarantees that you won't have to move so much then i would take the job, depending on how much less you get for pay
Wat
will b bes for you
talk to the older kids about it they might be able to help you
Need advice about my break up?
hi - i was in a relationship for 1 yr and 4 months. he asked me to move in after 6 months and then moved again with him nov 08. we are SO compatible(you know when just find that one that you cant believe how much you have in common with them - he agrees with this to), we had so much fun together, i loved his friends, he loved my friends, i treated him like gold, i did everything for him , i gave him so much, we were good sexually - he was able to get it whenever he wanted basically ( i think that is important in a relationship), i treated his son like gold, i accepted him as he was (he has a son who needs all of his attention, so i basically had 50/50 attention from him but i understood that and accepted that bec i love with his son as well, i love him like he is my own and also he has an ex who left him for someone else after for 15 yrs and i also accepted her to as everyone is civil with each other for his son, so i had to deal with alot of that as well). Now we got together after 4 months of his split with his ex, which i think he rushed into it too fast but he said he wasnt looking for anything and when he met me it just was ';right and felt right'; so thats why he went with me for so long. he said that he asked me to move in bec he felt we were moving in the right direction to a future together (he also knew everything i always wanted, marriage kids, ect..) i had a preg scare in december and ever since then he said he just wanted to run away. we just broke up this week, he has been trying to make this decision since then. he said that his feelings were fading for me and he was pushing himself away from me and he just doenst feel like i am the one for him, he cant give me 100% of his love and doesnt know if he wants to have kids again or if i am even the one for him to marry again (keep in mind he always wanted to have another kid, a little girl). he said he made the decsion to break up bec he doesnt want me to hurt anymore or keep me in limbo, as i am in mad love with him and he is definitely the';one'; for me, but he cant give me that same love back anymore (he did before the preg scare). he is a good guy and only has good intentions. i said all of my friends tell me u will realize what you lost and will start to miss her and i refuse to believe it. i told him this and he said i dont want to tell you anything to lead you on, he said i guess we will have to see where fate takes us, he said he is not over me and still loves me but he doesnt feel the strong love like i do, like i am the ';one';. he said he doesnt know if he will ever feel that way about anyone. he says he is damaged goods. he is just confused as to what he wants in life. he is the type of guy who wwhen he decided to get amrraige it was for life no matter what, but she is the one who ended it. i am moved out already and am getting the rest of my things this weekend. i am just going to leave him alone and let him be and live his own life. i am just going to plan to live my life without him.. and realize that he doesnt want me... does anyone have any thoughts on any of this? what you think is going on in his mind? do you think he will realize what he lost with me or will he realize it but then still feel like he cant give me his all? or do you think he even cares? thanks for any responsesNeed advice about my break up?
too long......
too long......
Need Advice about Nietendo DS - Wii?
I'm thinking about selling my cobalt blue ds $100 and my games (Gutair Hero on Tour $30, Mario Party $20, Chronicles of Narnia 1 $5, Zoo Tycoon $5, and classic Board Games (game boy advance) $3) and a case $5. for a total of $168
with this cash i was hoping to use it to buy either a new or used wii
all i'm asking is do you think i should make this change (is it worth it?)? are my prices to high or to low? New or used?
Thanks
BethNeed Advice about Nietendo DS - Wii?
If you can find someone to sell them to at these prices I would sell them. The prices you are selling them for are fair. As far as getting a Wii I depends on what type of gaming you like. I have a Nintendo Wii and a couple of DS's and I play my DS more. I played Wii Sports a lot when I first bought the Wii, but after a while I stopped and couldn't find a game like it. So I stopped playing the Wii. I think that if you are able to download what's available on the WiiWare channel you might like what the Wii has to offer otherwise I would stay with the DS. Need Advice about Nietendo DS - Wii?
the wii is about 250 new used is probably around 190 cheapest.
the wii is fun to play but there are not many great games out there but a few that will be worth wile for you depending on your current games so i say if you have the extra money get it but if you don't have the money don't get it.
also go to a used game store to find the right price for all your games and raise some of the cheaper things prices and sell it at a garage sale.
I think some of your game prices are a little low, but the rest is a fair price. I bought my wii a few months ago for a little over 200 so you can probably get a used one for less.
I would definitly buy used because it's the same system just at a cheaper price
u dont have enough money to buy a nietendo wii
but if u do have enough money
then it is really worth it
i have one and it was awesome
its great!!!!!
A Wii is 250$ new, You can probably get a used one for 220$ I dont think its worth what you're about to decide. However, I have a good idea... ask for a Wii for X-mas!
i think your game prices are too low, i would charge at least 15 dollars for them
To Low!
with this cash i was hoping to use it to buy either a new or used wii
all i'm asking is do you think i should make this change (is it worth it?)? are my prices to high or to low? New or used?
Thanks
BethNeed Advice about Nietendo DS - Wii?
If you can find someone to sell them to at these prices I would sell them. The prices you are selling them for are fair. As far as getting a Wii I depends on what type of gaming you like. I have a Nintendo Wii and a couple of DS's and I play my DS more. I played Wii Sports a lot when I first bought the Wii, but after a while I stopped and couldn't find a game like it. So I stopped playing the Wii. I think that if you are able to download what's available on the WiiWare channel you might like what the Wii has to offer otherwise I would stay with the DS. Need Advice about Nietendo DS - Wii?
the wii is about 250 new used is probably around 190 cheapest.
the wii is fun to play but there are not many great games out there but a few that will be worth wile for you depending on your current games so i say if you have the extra money get it but if you don't have the money don't get it.
also go to a used game store to find the right price for all your games and raise some of the cheaper things prices and sell it at a garage sale.
I think some of your game prices are a little low, but the rest is a fair price. I bought my wii a few months ago for a little over 200 so you can probably get a used one for less.
I would definitly buy used because it's the same system just at a cheaper price
u dont have enough money to buy a nietendo wii
but if u do have enough money
then it is really worth it
i have one and it was awesome
its great!!!!!
A Wii is 250$ new, You can probably get a used one for 220$ I dont think its worth what you're about to decide. However, I have a good idea... ask for a Wii for X-mas!
i think your game prices are too low, i would charge at least 15 dollars for them
To Low!
I really need advice about what to do about this girl?
There's this girl I'm in love with but she rejected me because she likes another guy. But he doesn't seem to like her ( or he's just playing some sort of game). Well I stopped hanging around her for 2 months after she rejected me and only started again when I thought she was over him (she also started paying more attention to me). But I was wrong. Last night we went out to a club ( I asked her if he was coming and she seemed unsure) and everything was fine until he showed up. After that she spent the rest of the night throwing herself at him. And at one point I asked her to dance and she said yes but then asked 2 other guys to dance with us and wondered why I no longer wanted to dance ( I told her that I only wanted to dance with her and she apologized but still). I can't seem to let this girl go (I thought the time apart would lessen my feeling but they haven't gone away). What do I do? I can't stand seeing her obsessed with a guy who doesn't like her. Thanks.I really need advice about what to do about this girl?
let her go, she doesnt seem like she is interested in you. she seems more interested in this other guy as sad as it is, its true. there are so many other girls out there, why waste your time with someone who doesnt even like you. you just need to be more confident and approach other girls because not all girls are like that.I really need advice about what to do about this girl?
I would advise not hanging around this girl any more, at least until you get over your obsession with her. You are feeding into your obsession every time you see her, and it will not pass if you keep seeing her. Take time away from her, as it seems she is taking advantage of you and if she really cared about you she would not act this way! Good luck!
There are better girls that will like you more. Just forget about her.make up
let her go, she doesnt seem like she is interested in you. she seems more interested in this other guy as sad as it is, its true. there are so many other girls out there, why waste your time with someone who doesnt even like you. you just need to be more confident and approach other girls because not all girls are like that.I really need advice about what to do about this girl?
I would advise not hanging around this girl any more, at least until you get over your obsession with her. You are feeding into your obsession every time you see her, and it will not pass if you keep seeing her. Take time away from her, as it seems she is taking advantage of you and if she really cared about you she would not act this way! Good luck!
There are better girls that will like you more. Just forget about her.
Some advice about 'morning sickness' please..?
I rarley get my period, but I heard it's still possible to have children, and my husband and I have been trying for a few months now..
Anyway, I was hoping anyone could give me advice about morning sickness..
For the last two nights, Saturday and Sunday night, I've had fish for supper. I love fish, and I puked it up.. Now I heard morning sickness can start anytime, and I know everyone is different, but I found it really wierd... I got sick around midnight for about 2 hours.. I noticed it was my fish that I puked up.. (sorry for being so gross..)
So, anyway I found it weird how I first of all was sick both nights around midnight AND second of all, how I puked up fish.. I mean, I heard you can suddenly 'hate' the foods you love, but for it to take a couple of hours AFTER I ate the fish for me to puke up..? - Don't you get sick right after you eat something you loved but can't stand anymore?Some advice about 'morning sickness' please..?
The main symptoms are feeling of nausea, retching, vomiting and an intolerance of some foods, eg. protein-rich ones such as meat. The main remedy is to prevent low blood sugar by eating small snacks, avoid fatty foods and coffee. Drinking extra fluids helps prevent dehydration if vomiting is occuring. In severe cases, see your family doctor.
Anyway, I was hoping anyone could give me advice about morning sickness..
For the last two nights, Saturday and Sunday night, I've had fish for supper. I love fish, and I puked it up.. Now I heard morning sickness can start anytime, and I know everyone is different, but I found it really wierd... I got sick around midnight for about 2 hours.. I noticed it was my fish that I puked up.. (sorry for being so gross..)
So, anyway I found it weird how I first of all was sick both nights around midnight AND second of all, how I puked up fish.. I mean, I heard you can suddenly 'hate' the foods you love, but for it to take a couple of hours AFTER I ate the fish for me to puke up..? - Don't you get sick right after you eat something you loved but can't stand anymore?Some advice about 'morning sickness' please..?
The main symptoms are feeling of nausea, retching, vomiting and an intolerance of some foods, eg. protein-rich ones such as meat. The main remedy is to prevent low blood sugar by eating small snacks, avoid fatty foods and coffee. Drinking extra fluids helps prevent dehydration if vomiting is occuring. In severe cases, see your family doctor.
Any advice about baby-sitting?
My moms best friend asked me to baby-sit her 15 month old son.Here is the problem ..I baby-sit my 6 yr old sister every day after school.Now my moms friend wants me to baby-sit her son at the same time.Last time we went over to my moms friends house..the baby bit my little sister.I told the mom and showed the bite mark to her also.But she did not believe me.She said my little bit her ownself...Now..this lady is offering $75 an hour.......but I dont know what to tell her...She always thinks I am lying about her son...Please help me!Any advice about baby-sitting?
tell her you would love to baby-sit
for that kind of money wow!
Make sure,before you start baby-sitting to tell the lady how you feel and tell that you will have to bring your little sister along too.
Make sure to tell your little sister just to stay away rom the baby...just to avoid another biting incidentAny advice about baby-sitting?
the money is a little tempting.. but this woman seems a little dillusional. $75?? a 6 year old biting herself?? that doesnt seem right to me. if u dont think u can handle it... then i wouldnt risk it. little kids are stressful and it sounds like this mother isnt big on disipline either. then again u might as well try it and see if it works out.
$75 an hour can't be right. If she's serious, there must be some sort of desperation on her part going on. For $75 an hour, she could have a French nanny in her home!!
Give it a try once to see how it goes if you are tempted by the money, otherwise tell her you're not available. Simple as that.
tell her you would love to baby-sit
for that kind of money wow!
Make sure,before you start baby-sitting to tell the lady how you feel and tell that you will have to bring your little sister along too.
Make sure to tell your little sister just to stay away rom the baby...just to avoid another biting incidentAny advice about baby-sitting?
the money is a little tempting.. but this woman seems a little dillusional. $75?? a 6 year old biting herself?? that doesnt seem right to me. if u dont think u can handle it... then i wouldnt risk it. little kids are stressful and it sounds like this mother isnt big on disipline either. then again u might as well try it and see if it works out.
$75 an hour can't be right. If she's serious, there must be some sort of desperation on her part going on. For $75 an hour, she could have a French nanny in her home!!
Give it a try once to see how it goes if you are tempted by the money, otherwise tell her you're not available. Simple as that.
Need advice about being a new grannie!?
My daughter has just had a beautiful wee girl. of course i am over the moon. My concern is :My daughters husband already has a wee boy who is five and lives part of the week with them. The rest of the time he spends with his mum and grandma.
This child has every toy and designer clothes imaginable and i am unsure what to do when buying for the new baby.
I want to treat them the same but generally i wouldnt buy my step grand son as much as he already has two sets of grandparetns who buy lots for him.
How should i manage this? It puts me off buying my grand daughter things. For example i saw a lovely wee dress today but was wary of buying it.
At Xmas and birthdays should i buy them the same? even though my grandson is getting from his mum and grandparents on her side?
I so dont want to upset my son in law either.
Help - how do you manage these things?
Many thanksNeed advice about being a new grannie!?
Congratulations ! If this is YOUR first then go all out for this new grand daughter, you are not doing any harm, but when it happened to me I bought the other ones a little gift not to make then feel left out of it. After that I spent the same amount of money on them all. After all its not the kiddies fault they are in this situation. Enjoy being a Grandma. Another thing is that this baby is also his little sister and you don't want him to be jealous and cause any problems, do you, and Grannies are supposed to be the BEST arent they.Need advice about being a new grannie!?
Its your first grand baby! Spoil her to your hearts content! As you said he already has two sets of grandparents tat spoil him so you do not need to feel guilty for anything. I just gave my Mom her first grand baby last year and I have a 13 year old step son. She still gets him Christmas and b-day gifts but spoils my daughter rotten and loves every minute of it. Enjoy your new love and congratulations.
I am in a similar situation except my step grandson lives full time with my son %26amp; daughter in law. I spend exactly the same amount of money on them for birthdays and christmas but if I see something for my granddaughter I buy it and buy a gift for my step grandson but not always of the same value.
Well, honestly, it doesn't sound like you are a new grandmother. You have been a grandmother for as long as your daughter and son in law have been married!!! The little boy is your grandson too. Treat them both the same. Just come out and ask your son-in-law what the little boy needs/wants for birthdays, christmas, etc.... Spending time can be just as special as gifts.
Be fair and communicate. It should be fun and happy, Gifts should not be a Competition if you don't make is one you should be fine.
Just tell your daughter how you feel about it and see if she has anything to say tyhat might you in your situation. If not, you could talk to your son-in-law ???
I think it's ok to treat the kids differently IF you clear it with the parents, first. Some people flip out about this (there's a woman on Y!A who's completely crazy about it) so you have to feel out the parents. When the kids are little, they should both get a gift, even if the older one only gets a candy bar. Just talk it out.
Congrats on becoming a granny , Its great isn't it.
Anyways if I were you I would just keep things equal between the 2 kids , I know in your heart of hearts there will be a very special part for your wee grand daughter but you have to make sure they always feel the same anything different will only cause sibling rivalry. I don't think you have to go and spend tons to make them happy let everyone else do that if that's what they like to do, kids don`t know any better at this age and should be tought to appreciate even the smallest of gestures and good intent right? The best advice is to keep an equal balance between both children. So if you see a dress you want for your wee girl then by all means give it but make sure you have something in the other hand for the wee boy as well. That way everyones happy including parents.
This child has every toy and designer clothes imaginable and i am unsure what to do when buying for the new baby.
I want to treat them the same but generally i wouldnt buy my step grand son as much as he already has two sets of grandparetns who buy lots for him.
How should i manage this? It puts me off buying my grand daughter things. For example i saw a lovely wee dress today but was wary of buying it.
At Xmas and birthdays should i buy them the same? even though my grandson is getting from his mum and grandparents on her side?
I so dont want to upset my son in law either.
Help - how do you manage these things?
Many thanksNeed advice about being a new grannie!?
Congratulations ! If this is YOUR first then go all out for this new grand daughter, you are not doing any harm, but when it happened to me I bought the other ones a little gift not to make then feel left out of it. After that I spent the same amount of money on them all. After all its not the kiddies fault they are in this situation. Enjoy being a Grandma. Another thing is that this baby is also his little sister and you don't want him to be jealous and cause any problems, do you, and Grannies are supposed to be the BEST arent they.Need advice about being a new grannie!?
Its your first grand baby! Spoil her to your hearts content! As you said he already has two sets of grandparents tat spoil him so you do not need to feel guilty for anything. I just gave my Mom her first grand baby last year and I have a 13 year old step son. She still gets him Christmas and b-day gifts but spoils my daughter rotten and loves every minute of it. Enjoy your new love and congratulations.
I am in a similar situation except my step grandson lives full time with my son %26amp; daughter in law. I spend exactly the same amount of money on them for birthdays and christmas but if I see something for my granddaughter I buy it and buy a gift for my step grandson but not always of the same value.
Well, honestly, it doesn't sound like you are a new grandmother. You have been a grandmother for as long as your daughter and son in law have been married!!! The little boy is your grandson too. Treat them both the same. Just come out and ask your son-in-law what the little boy needs/wants for birthdays, christmas, etc.... Spending time can be just as special as gifts.
Be fair and communicate. It should be fun and happy, Gifts should not be a Competition if you don't make is one you should be fine.
Just tell your daughter how you feel about it and see if she has anything to say tyhat might you in your situation. If not, you could talk to your son-in-law ???
I think it's ok to treat the kids differently IF you clear it with the parents, first. Some people flip out about this (there's a woman on Y!A who's completely crazy about it) so you have to feel out the parents. When the kids are little, they should both get a gift, even if the older one only gets a candy bar. Just talk it out.
Congrats on becoming a granny , Its great isn't it.
Anyways if I were you I would just keep things equal between the 2 kids , I know in your heart of hearts there will be a very special part for your wee grand daughter but you have to make sure they always feel the same anything different will only cause sibling rivalry. I don't think you have to go and spend tons to make them happy let everyone else do that if that's what they like to do, kids don`t know any better at this age and should be tought to appreciate even the smallest of gestures and good intent right? The best advice is to keep an equal balance between both children. So if you see a dress you want for your wee girl then by all means give it but make sure you have something in the other hand for the wee boy as well. That way everyones happy including parents.
Need advice about boyfriend?
well, we've been together for 7 months now, and he can be really sweet to me, but sometimes he's not. tonight, before he left on a trip where he'd be gone for 10 days i told him i'd miss him, and all he said was he'd miss me for the most part. also, he tells me that sometimes he's uncomfortable around me, but he has no idea why. when we talked about it more, he said that on one side he's feeling restless, but on the other side he's thinking ';i hope i don't screw this up, please don't let me screw this up.'; so what's he saying with all this? what should i do when i talk to him next?Need advice about boyfriend?
There is no problem with you two. He is restless like an old fasioned sailor. After a while he has to go somewhere alone, or with mates. But then, he is happy to arrive home to you. He is right: you should not let him screw up your relationship. The best is that if you can also find some activities out of your common life.Need advice about boyfriend?
be yourself and make sure that you are relaxed and calm when talking to him.
While he's gone, go and read ';Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.'; Feeling restless means he needs cave time, but he's not taking it because he knows that'll screw things up. All guys need cave time, and they need permission from their women to take it. The way to make things work is for you to tell him that it's perfectly ok for him to have cave time, that you'll be happy to see him when he comes out, but you need him to tell you that's what he's doing so you don't worry. ';Cave time'; can be 10 day trips like the one he's on now, or it can be playing computer games in the next room. Don't punish him for it. To punish a guy for needing and taking cave time is like punishing a girl for talking. Though there was that time when my hubby was so stressed at work that all he did was work and sit in his cave. I threatened to buy it and only rent it to him on short term leases! He laughed and went back to his role playing game books :) The better quality permission you give (meaning the less grudgingly you give it) the shorter he will need to be in there.
wha the........i dont know.....ask him if he really wants to be with u
There is no problem with you two. He is restless like an old fasioned sailor. After a while he has to go somewhere alone, or with mates. But then, he is happy to arrive home to you. He is right: you should not let him screw up your relationship. The best is that if you can also find some activities out of your common life.Need advice about boyfriend?
be yourself and make sure that you are relaxed and calm when talking to him.
While he's gone, go and read ';Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.'; Feeling restless means he needs cave time, but he's not taking it because he knows that'll screw things up. All guys need cave time, and they need permission from their women to take it. The way to make things work is for you to tell him that it's perfectly ok for him to have cave time, that you'll be happy to see him when he comes out, but you need him to tell you that's what he's doing so you don't worry. ';Cave time'; can be 10 day trips like the one he's on now, or it can be playing computer games in the next room. Don't punish him for it. To punish a guy for needing and taking cave time is like punishing a girl for talking. Though there was that time when my hubby was so stressed at work that all he did was work and sit in his cave. I threatened to buy it and only rent it to him on short term leases! He laughed and went back to his role playing game books :) The better quality permission you give (meaning the less grudgingly you give it) the shorter he will need to be in there.
wha the........i dont know.....ask him if he really wants to be with u
Need advice about a mark on my criminal background when it comes to getting a job?
I am a 38 year old male with a bachelor of Science in Business Administration from Towson University in Maryland. I have never had to worry about getting a job working for another company because I started my own Pressure Washing Business and ran it successfully for 14 years. I sold it do to burn out and then got a job as a sales rep for a book binder in town. The job was great. I got a company car, gas card, paid car and health insurance and got occasional bonuses. I did make about half as much as my own business but the work was fun. The problem happened when I got dependent on pain pills from a back injury and eventually got fired. I was ignoring customers and just not doing what was asked of me. I year later I got arrested for prescription forgery. I pleaded guilty, got probation before judgment and 3 years supervised probation. This cant be expunged off my record cause its a felony. Every time I get to the part of a job application it asks so many different questions about criminal past such as, have you ever been convicted of a felony in the past 3, 5, 7, or 10 years. Some ask if you have ever pleaded to a felony at all or even a misdemeanor. Then, they want to know what is was for and the circumstances. Then they say it doesn't necessarily mean you will be turned down for the job, yeah ok. Maybe not at McDonald's but at any professional job paying a wage needed to live on such as 35 to 50k would make me seem a liability. Has anyone had any such problems and how did you deal with it. I tried to lie a few times but I got caught and that was that. I guess honesty is my only choice,or is there anything anyone out there can recommend which has been in my shoes or is an HR person or hiring manager who sees this occasionally. Thank you for your time and sorry for rambling. Need advice about a mark on my criminal background when it comes to getting a job?
Common situation you met like many other people,be patient,and check the resource here http://www.HealthInsuranceIdeas.info/free-online-health-insurance.htm i found useful.
Need advice about a mark on my criminal background when it comes to getting a job?
All you can do is continue telling the truth. Although don't volunteer it. Most of the time, your gonna have several interviews before they make a job offer. in your situation I would assume you arent' filling out an application until after they've offered you the job and you've accepted. In that situation, I would just not answer the question on the application. and answer it if someone notices it. and then just apologize and fill it out.
Common situation you met like many other people,be patient,and check the resource here http://www.HealthInsuranceIdeas.info/free-online-health-insurance.htm i found useful.
Need advice about a mark on my criminal background when it comes to getting a job?
All you can do is continue telling the truth. Although don't volunteer it. Most of the time, your gonna have several interviews before they make a job offer. in your situation I would assume you arent' filling out an application until after they've offered you the job and you've accepted. In that situation, I would just not answer the question on the application. and answer it if someone notices it. and then just apologize and fill it out.
I need some advice about my boyfriend...?
My boyfreind and I have been dating for about a year. We moved in together about three months ago. He is elevin years older then me. I am 24. I love him, and love being with him. We get along great, untill this past week or two. We have never realy faught, we talk out our problems. These past two weeks he has been distant, and not wanting to spend time with me. Last Sunday I asked him if he wanted to be with me. He said that he didn't know. I asked him what he ment. He said that things had to change. I agreed. I promised him that I would get a job, and start being more serious about my future. This week I have kept my promise I have looked into a few jobs, and I found one that I liked. Tonight he broke a date with me to go out to dinner. Once again I asked him if he wanted to be with me. I gave him an easy out. I told him that I don't want to be strung along, and if he doesn't want to be with me that he sould just tell me. He said that he doesn't know. Should I just lay low and wate?I need some advice about my boyfriend...?
See dear, mind is very delicate.You have to handle the problem very earnestly.If he is not talking. if he is not dinning with you immediately you should not ask that whether he wants to be with you or not. Why are you going to such an extreme end.Don't split the relationship.If you ask such a question, invariably the answer is negative.Find out what is his problem and try to help him.Take the oath that you are going to be together forever in good times and also in bad times then handle every problem coming on in life.This is what is family. This is what is marriage.If you are not strongly tied up, any relation will not last for long.No two people can be together unless they compromise and adjust each other well.Love is different and lust is different.Understand it.Even if occasionally he has sex with some other female also it doesn't mean he is not loving you.he may still be loving you.I need some advice about my boyfriend...?
He's either GAY or he's CHEATING with another women. You don't know that he's not cheating on you. If he's been cheated on then it should be obvious that he would cheat.
If he doesn't ';know'; if he wants to be with you then you doesn't really love you. Unless he says that he needs you more then his own life then its probably over between you too.
they call it arm candy.
sounds like hes tired of arm candy.
So....you just now got a job. Were you in school or something? Were you just expecting him to pay all the bills on his own?
Sounds like he's bitter. When there's a big age difference, the older one always feels like their babysitting.
His distance could mean that he's having second thoughts about living together. Has he lived with someone before? It usually takes a period of adjustment.
When I first moved in with my husband things were great, then he also got distant and wanted to spend more time with his friends. He was frustrated because I had to move to a new town and get a new job and I knew nobody there, so I occupied all of his time, and he had to carry the household for a while.
Give your guy some space and get serious about your job. Hopefully things will warm up around there. If not, then it sounds like he has commitment issues, and he's bitten off more then he can chew.
Good Luck!make up
See dear, mind is very delicate.You have to handle the problem very earnestly.If he is not talking. if he is not dinning with you immediately you should not ask that whether he wants to be with you or not. Why are you going to such an extreme end.Don't split the relationship.If you ask such a question, invariably the answer is negative.Find out what is his problem and try to help him.Take the oath that you are going to be together forever in good times and also in bad times then handle every problem coming on in life.This is what is family. This is what is marriage.If you are not strongly tied up, any relation will not last for long.No two people can be together unless they compromise and adjust each other well.Love is different and lust is different.Understand it.Even if occasionally he has sex with some other female also it doesn't mean he is not loving you.he may still be loving you.I need some advice about my boyfriend...?
He's either GAY or he's CHEATING with another women. You don't know that he's not cheating on you. If he's been cheated on then it should be obvious that he would cheat.
If he doesn't ';know'; if he wants to be with you then you doesn't really love you. Unless he says that he needs you more then his own life then its probably over between you too.
they call it arm candy.
sounds like hes tired of arm candy.
So....you just now got a job. Were you in school or something? Were you just expecting him to pay all the bills on his own?
Sounds like he's bitter. When there's a big age difference, the older one always feels like their babysitting.
His distance could mean that he's having second thoughts about living together. Has he lived with someone before? It usually takes a period of adjustment.
When I first moved in with my husband things were great, then he also got distant and wanted to spend more time with his friends. He was frustrated because I had to move to a new town and get a new job and I knew nobody there, so I occupied all of his time, and he had to carry the household for a while.
Give your guy some space and get serious about your job. Hopefully things will warm up around there. If not, then it sounds like he has commitment issues, and he's bitten off more then he can chew.
Good Luck!
I need some advice about my friend...?
I have been friends with ';Joanie'; since HS.We have always been close and still talked and hung out even when she was at college 2 hrs away.Shes back in town, and is dating one of my husbands friends ';Jim';. They have been together 6 months and have lived togetherfrom the beginning. Now Joanie never does anything but hang out with Jim. When my husband and I were dating, I still talked to her all the time, and we even included her in things we did as a couple. Even now that we are married, we still always did things together, til her and Jim got together. Now she just seems really self-centered, like she doesnt need or want anyone else now. This is her 1st serious relationship. She wouldnt come out with me on my bday unless Jim was going to. She came over at the last minute and said ';sorry, i couldnt afford to get you anythin, btw, check out my new outfit.';Not that i care, but still. Should I confront her, leave it be and accept that shes not a tru friend, or what? i feel used.I need some advice about my friend...?
My best friend was like this all the time. Whenever he got into a new relationship he would always disappear for months and not do anything with me. Then, like clockwork, when the first major fights started between him and his gf, my phone would ring. The last time this happened I totally called him out on it. When he broke up with the latest girl I told him never to treat me like this again, that it is rude and not ';best friend.'; Sure enough, he met another girl. The phone stopped ringing. I stopped calling. it's been over a year since we've spoke and I don't miss him anymore.I need some advice about my friend...?
Life's life. It's not always easy.
People change. Maybe she'll change back, but don't make any long range plans with her.
It might be a phase she's going through, because of the new change in her life of having a first serious relationship. Maybe she feels she was an imposition on you and your guy now that she knows what it's like to be with her guy. This might be causing her to feel guilty and so she distances herself from you to avoid reconciling her guilt. There may be more there, ask your husband if ';Jim'; has said anything about it.
well, part of the problem is you bought her something you couldn't afford for her birthday.
how can she keep up with someone so desperate to be a friend?
a simple, thoughtful, and inexpensive gift would have been appropriate.
if you give the gift of friendship to someone how does that entitle you to require a particular response? she is the way she is.
My best friend was like this all the time. Whenever he got into a new relationship he would always disappear for months and not do anything with me. Then, like clockwork, when the first major fights started between him and his gf, my phone would ring. The last time this happened I totally called him out on it. When he broke up with the latest girl I told him never to treat me like this again, that it is rude and not ';best friend.'; Sure enough, he met another girl. The phone stopped ringing. I stopped calling. it's been over a year since we've spoke and I don't miss him anymore.I need some advice about my friend...?
Life's life. It's not always easy.
People change. Maybe she'll change back, but don't make any long range plans with her.
It might be a phase she's going through, because of the new change in her life of having a first serious relationship. Maybe she feels she was an imposition on you and your guy now that she knows what it's like to be with her guy. This might be causing her to feel guilty and so she distances herself from you to avoid reconciling her guilt. There may be more there, ask your husband if ';Jim'; has said anything about it.
well, part of the problem is you bought her something you couldn't afford for her birthday.
how can she keep up with someone so desperate to be a friend?
a simple, thoughtful, and inexpensive gift would have been appropriate.
if you give the gift of friendship to someone how does that entitle you to require a particular response? she is the way she is.
I need of advice about this girl!?
Ive known this girl for the past year and recently since I've been away on vacation and shes been emailing me, telling me how she misses me, and that she would consider dating me
Well I finally came home yesterday to talk to her for 40mins on the phone about everything. I told her that I like her, %26amp; I wanna be that guy who doesn't care if shes in sweats and a tee or whipe her tears whenevr shes sad, %26amp; whenever I said somethin nice she kept sayin brb on the phone %26amp; came bak after 10seconds or so...weird. So basically she said that she wouldnt go back go back 2 her ex ';plus her ex b/f is a player lemme add';. Anyhow, she reiterated that she doesnt wanna be ina relationship %26amp; guys aren't worth it, but I can tell shes hiding her true feelings becuz she always has lovey-dovey pix on her msn display. So is this girl serious, she told me not to call her and she'll email me back in a few days to think bout things. I will give her space, but i feel that i should have fun and not think bout herI need of advice about this girl!?
You are describing a girl who doesn't know what she wants. We have all been there. I would say to back off and go find something to preoccupy yourself with. Go out, read a book, talk to your other friends. And if she does get back with you in a few days to say that yes she wants to be with you, remember how fickle she was when you two talked. If you decide to give it a shot, take it slow.I need of advice about this girl!?
Yeah don't worry about her. She will e-mail you back and until then just do what you'd normally do. If she really likes you according to what she said then I think you'll be alright. But even if for some reason it doesn't work out then she's probably not worth it anyways because I don't even say that nice of things to girls haha. So just sit back, relax, and don't worry about her a bit. If its mean't to be it's gonna all work out right.
You answered your own question. Have fun and when the time is right she'll let you know.
first of all ask her how she feels about you ask her on a date or movie or going to the malls invite her to places that way she'll get the idea and then comes the hard part it takes courage and guts tell her how you feel about her if you dont someone else will get her do it before its too late prove it to her how you feel be there for her when she needs you ok.
id move on,she has a chance but if she ruines it its her problem,give her a day or so,if she still says i dont know,then that tells you that isnt ready to be in a relationship,and theres no point in hanging around
This girl really sounds like she doesnt know what she wants right now. big red flag if a girl says she doesnt want to be in a relationship right now. she may put pics up on the web ect but i would listen to what she is saying. if she is telling u that she would consider dating u but turns around and says she doesnt want a relationship then she is definatly confused and that is a HUGE reason to back off from her. good luck to u but i wouldnt move forward with her.
Well if you like the girl then don give her too much space cause she might slip out of ur hand. She's just heartbroken, you gotta let her know that those days are over and that she gotta move on to someone who can appreciate her for the lady she is (like you lol) if she still don't want a man then give her that space and let her get over it on her own. If ya'll do wind- up getting together its gonna take alot of patience because she might talk about her ex so you will have to bear thru-it but after all of it you'll see what its worth because patience is life's big payoff. Whatever you do personally i'll respect it cuz its ur life and the only one that changes it is YOU
GOOD LUCK N LYFE
Well it sounds to me like she was leading you on. She probably was saying that she missed you and wanted to be with you because you were gone. But once you came back it wasn't really a chase for her anymore, like when you told her that you liked her. She probably figured that she already has you. And now she is just playing games with you. I would leave it alone, and if she truly likes you like she says then she will E-mail. But in the mean time try and have fun with your friends so you don't think about her as much. Good Luck!
Well I finally came home yesterday to talk to her for 40mins on the phone about everything. I told her that I like her, %26amp; I wanna be that guy who doesn't care if shes in sweats and a tee or whipe her tears whenevr shes sad, %26amp; whenever I said somethin nice she kept sayin brb on the phone %26amp; came bak after 10seconds or so...weird. So basically she said that she wouldnt go back go back 2 her ex ';plus her ex b/f is a player lemme add';. Anyhow, she reiterated that she doesnt wanna be ina relationship %26amp; guys aren't worth it, but I can tell shes hiding her true feelings becuz she always has lovey-dovey pix on her msn display. So is this girl serious, she told me not to call her and she'll email me back in a few days to think bout things. I will give her space, but i feel that i should have fun and not think bout herI need of advice about this girl!?
You are describing a girl who doesn't know what she wants. We have all been there. I would say to back off and go find something to preoccupy yourself with. Go out, read a book, talk to your other friends. And if she does get back with you in a few days to say that yes she wants to be with you, remember how fickle she was when you two talked. If you decide to give it a shot, take it slow.I need of advice about this girl!?
Yeah don't worry about her. She will e-mail you back and until then just do what you'd normally do. If she really likes you according to what she said then I think you'll be alright. But even if for some reason it doesn't work out then she's probably not worth it anyways because I don't even say that nice of things to girls haha. So just sit back, relax, and don't worry about her a bit. If its mean't to be it's gonna all work out right.
You answered your own question. Have fun and when the time is right she'll let you know.
first of all ask her how she feels about you ask her on a date or movie or going to the malls invite her to places that way she'll get the idea and then comes the hard part it takes courage and guts tell her how you feel about her if you dont someone else will get her do it before its too late prove it to her how you feel be there for her when she needs you ok.
id move on,she has a chance but if she ruines it its her problem,give her a day or so,if she still says i dont know,then that tells you that isnt ready to be in a relationship,and theres no point in hanging around
This girl really sounds like she doesnt know what she wants right now. big red flag if a girl says she doesnt want to be in a relationship right now. she may put pics up on the web ect but i would listen to what she is saying. if she is telling u that she would consider dating u but turns around and says she doesnt want a relationship then she is definatly confused and that is a HUGE reason to back off from her. good luck to u but i wouldnt move forward with her.
Well if you like the girl then don give her too much space cause she might slip out of ur hand. She's just heartbroken, you gotta let her know that those days are over and that she gotta move on to someone who can appreciate her for the lady she is (like you lol) if she still don't want a man then give her that space and let her get over it on her own. If ya'll do wind- up getting together its gonna take alot of patience because she might talk about her ex so you will have to bear thru-it but after all of it you'll see what its worth because patience is life's big payoff. Whatever you do personally i'll respect it cuz its ur life and the only one that changes it is YOU
GOOD LUCK N LYFE
Well it sounds to me like she was leading you on. She probably was saying that she missed you and wanted to be with you because you were gone. But once you came back it wasn't really a chase for her anymore, like when you told her that you liked her. She probably figured that she already has you. And now she is just playing games with you. I would leave it alone, and if she truly likes you like she says then she will E-mail. But in the mean time try and have fun with your friends so you don't think about her as much. Good Luck!
Advice :] i need some advice about boys. :] it would be really helpful if some dudes could answer?
Ok. so. the deal is. i like this guy. hes absolutely adorable. seriously. hes not the popular type. very reserved, to himself. he has friends, and they're not the popular type either, but they seem very sweet.
I dont know him. but he knows i like him. well, im pretty sure he does. enough has happened where it would make plenty of sense for him to know i like him.
ok. so i was wondering.... should I say hi to him on myspace? even if he doesnt like me, or possibly is annoyed by me, would he still reply back.... if i opened with something like ';hey :] whats up?';
idk. you tell me.
nothing rude please. lol. i just want honest answers.
thanks so much :]]
oh and ps. we are out of school now, so theres no way i can talk to him personally :] and he lives right down the road... ^_^
now seriously, if a guy for example is annoyed by you, would they still respond to your email?Advice :] i need some advice about boys. :] it would be really helpful if some dudes could answer?
well since u say he is sweet he should reply and trust me im a guy,
i always try to be nice to people and there is this girl on myspace that talks to me alot but i dont care i still talk to her, but she knows i dont like her cuz i have a gf already.
so ya he would reply.Advice :] i need some advice about boys. :] it would be really helpful if some dudes could answer?
Hey.
Dont worry about it I would say to him on myspace (Hey wanna hang out?)
I dont know him. but he knows i like him. well, im pretty sure he does. enough has happened where it would make plenty of sense for him to know i like him.
ok. so i was wondering.... should I say hi to him on myspace? even if he doesnt like me, or possibly is annoyed by me, would he still reply back.... if i opened with something like ';hey :] whats up?';
idk. you tell me.
nothing rude please. lol. i just want honest answers.
thanks so much :]]
oh and ps. we are out of school now, so theres no way i can talk to him personally :] and he lives right down the road... ^_^
now seriously, if a guy for example is annoyed by you, would they still respond to your email?Advice :] i need some advice about boys. :] it would be really helpful if some dudes could answer?
well since u say he is sweet he should reply and trust me im a guy,
i always try to be nice to people and there is this girl on myspace that talks to me alot but i dont care i still talk to her, but she knows i dont like her cuz i have a gf already.
so ya he would reply.Advice :] i need some advice about boys. :] it would be really helpful if some dudes could answer?
Hey.
Dont worry about it I would say to him on myspace (Hey wanna hang out?)
I need some advice about this guy....please help...?
Me and this guy started e-mailing eachother a couple months ago (we have one class together and that's how we met) ever since then he's been flirting A LOT and everybody thought we were going out and a lot of people kept on coming up to me and asking if I liked him...and so b/c of all the things he did and how many people he made believe that we liked eachother/were going out I assumed he liked me...at first I didn't like him and thought of him only as a friend but later I convinced myself that I should like him b/c he was really nice and was the only person I felt I could be myself with and not feel like I was showing too much...but a couple days ago he told me about how he told this other girl who he liked and that he regreted it and when I asked him who it was that he liked he described someone that wasn't me but never gave the name...so now I feel horrible that I like him but he doesn't like me...even after all he's done...I don't know what to...any advice is appreciated : )I need some advice about this guy....please help...?
I don't think you ';really'; liked him because you said you ';convinced'; yourself to like him so you didn't exactly liked him. Maybe you should tell him that you like him, he might be waiting for you to make the first move. He probably just wanted you to be jealous in the first place.I need some advice about this guy....please help...?
np hope i helped!
Maybe you should tell him how YOU feel or ask a friend to tell him how you feel and see if he likes you back but if he doesnt it will be fine and you guys could just be friends
hes trying to make you jealous because he likes you.
you should definetly tell him how you feel in person, or in an e-mail first of all.
he also might have just been saying that to try and make you jelous..
because maybe online he was giving you all the hints that he liked you and was almost screaming it out, and you just continued to be cute and flirty..
tell him how you feel, if it turns out that he likes you..
great =D.
if he actaully likes that other girl then just move on and be friends.
hope i helped .
Can him...He's trying to be a player!
I don't think you ';really'; liked him because you said you ';convinced'; yourself to like him so you didn't exactly liked him. Maybe you should tell him that you like him, he might be waiting for you to make the first move. He probably just wanted you to be jealous in the first place.I need some advice about this guy....please help...?
np hope i helped!
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Maybe you should tell him how YOU feel or ask a friend to tell him how you feel and see if he likes you back but if he doesnt it will be fine and you guys could just be friends
hes trying to make you jealous because he likes you.
you should definetly tell him how you feel in person, or in an e-mail first of all.
he also might have just been saying that to try and make you jelous..
because maybe online he was giving you all the hints that he liked you and was almost screaming it out, and you just continued to be cute and flirty..
tell him how you feel, if it turns out that he likes you..
great =D.
if he actaully likes that other girl then just move on and be friends.
hope i helped .
Can him...He's trying to be a player!
I desperately need advice about this guy I like!!! Hurry!!! Please!!!?
Ok, the guy I like is an old friend of mine but i moved to the town over so i stopped talking to him for 2 years. The other morning(4 am) he came to my house and he drove me and a friend around in his kick *** car. I sat in the front with him. He doesnt have a licence so he looked so hot while breaking the law lol. He drove home then called me and we talked for like two hours. The next night i talked to him for 5 hours and yesterday i talked to him for 3 hours. We talked about everything and he seems like the perfect guy for me. From what he says i think he might like me a little. So the question is how do i find out if he likes me for sure and how do i make him my boyfriend.....i am a really shy person so i probably wont ask him.....i think he is so hot and he is the sweetest guy i have ever met......can anybody tell me what to do.....please hurry....thanx to everyone who helps!!!!!I desperately need advice about this guy I like!!! Hurry!!! Please!!!?
Dump him, he is a criminal!I desperately need advice about this guy I like!!! Hurry!!! Please!!!?
JUST ASK HIM!!!
Lol, yes u can tell he definatley likes you and obviously wants to get to know you better.. So keep doing what your doing, dont be afraid to express how you feel, just cuz he is a bad*** doesnt mean he wont open up to you.... lol another thing no body just talks for 5 hours and not like them.... he likes you TRUST me so knock him dead =)
Yeah, I can tell you what to do....I used to be that guy.....Don't get involved with him ,,,he is headed for disaster and will change his ways after alot of pain...if he is lucky
Stay in school and go to college...marry a cool educated man and laugh a lot
First off you should just breathe, It's hard letting some one know just how you feel I have been in that position before. But the only thing to do is be open and honest with him and yourself. If you like him and you are sure he may like you the best thing to do is tell him how you feel and chances are if he feels the same he will admit his feelings as well.
Sorry 2 say, but u can't make this man ur boyfriend. All I can say is that ur interested in someone who breaks the law? That's already leading down a bad road, but u like who u like. Just tell him how u feel and u only get two response back. I want to be with u or I just want to be ur friend. So u have to prepare urself for either answer. Please, stop being so into him, let him be into u just as much or u'll be hurt.
My advice to you is to slow down and think about what you want out of life. Be the star of your own life and find someone who is worthy of you. Stop loving dumb.
Dump him, he is a criminal!I desperately need advice about this guy I like!!! Hurry!!! Please!!!?
JUST ASK HIM!!!
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Lol, yes u can tell he definatley likes you and obviously wants to get to know you better.. So keep doing what your doing, dont be afraid to express how you feel, just cuz he is a bad*** doesnt mean he wont open up to you.... lol another thing no body just talks for 5 hours and not like them.... he likes you TRUST me so knock him dead =)
Yeah, I can tell you what to do....I used to be that guy.....Don't get involved with him ,,,he is headed for disaster and will change his ways after alot of pain...if he is lucky
Stay in school and go to college...marry a cool educated man and laugh a lot
First off you should just breathe, It's hard letting some one know just how you feel I have been in that position before. But the only thing to do is be open and honest with him and yourself. If you like him and you are sure he may like you the best thing to do is tell him how you feel and chances are if he feels the same he will admit his feelings as well.
Sorry 2 say, but u can't make this man ur boyfriend. All I can say is that ur interested in someone who breaks the law? That's already leading down a bad road, but u like who u like. Just tell him how u feel and u only get two response back. I want to be with u or I just want to be ur friend. So u have to prepare urself for either answer. Please, stop being so into him, let him be into u just as much or u'll be hurt.
My advice to you is to slow down and think about what you want out of life. Be the star of your own life and find someone who is worthy of you. Stop loving dumb.
When people give advice about love why is the advice almost always selfish advice?
I mean why do people always have this twisted idea of love that if you're not happy that you should get out and get out quick? Love is not a feeling. Love is a conscious decision to deny yourself, its a sacrifice, and to instead please that other person. People think that if you're in a relationship and you're not feeling loved that you should get out. No thats a selfish misconception, if you truly love that person you will talk with them about it, you will do your very best to make it work(this matters whether you're married or unmarried), but if after that it doesn't work then part ways gently(this is if you're unmarried). I'm not saying that you should never do anything if you're not feeling loved, clearly you should, but whatever you do should be to try and make the relationship work, not just end it, unless its very clear that there's destructive behavior by one or something like that. Anywho, i'll get off my soapbox now and let you folks answer my question please. Thank youWhen people give advice about love why is the advice almost always selfish advice?
Love is not a sacrifice!!!! Though it does take work and I agree with you on making it work and talking through issues. But love is an important part in any relationship between husband and wife (or any successful couple for that matter) and if there is no love there it seems there isn't much to work for or fix because to some people if the love is gone it's no longer worth it to work on the issues - and I agree with that. Life is too short to be unhappy or spend it with someone who does not make you happy and with someone you do not love.
Not feeling loved is different from not being loved. I almost think that falls along the lines of not feeling appreciated. If someone doesn't feel loved but is loved by their spouse a little constructive communication, counseling and changing their view on the relationship will definitely help the whole situation.
And it seems selfish because in short - life is too short to spend it with someone who doesn't love you or make you happy. Usually when someone describes an issue on here they aren't telling you the other factors contributing to their feeling of not being in love (like they suspect cheating, they had doubts before the marriage...ect) so on here you can't base your judgments on people's questions and answers because you are never truly getting the full picture or whole story! Remember that.make up
Love is not a sacrifice!!!! Though it does take work and I agree with you on making it work and talking through issues. But love is an important part in any relationship between husband and wife (or any successful couple for that matter) and if there is no love there it seems there isn't much to work for or fix because to some people if the love is gone it's no longer worth it to work on the issues - and I agree with that. Life is too short to be unhappy or spend it with someone who does not make you happy and with someone you do not love.
Not feeling loved is different from not being loved. I almost think that falls along the lines of not feeling appreciated. If someone doesn't feel loved but is loved by their spouse a little constructive communication, counseling and changing their view on the relationship will definitely help the whole situation.
And it seems selfish because in short - life is too short to spend it with someone who doesn't love you or make you happy. Usually when someone describes an issue on here they aren't telling you the other factors contributing to their feeling of not being in love (like they suspect cheating, they had doubts before the marriage...ect) so on here you can't base your judgments on people's questions and answers because you are never truly getting the full picture or whole story! Remember that.
I need some advice about a guy....?
We went out on two dates in total.
After the first date everything seemed fine and he called me for a 2nd date
During our second date, he acted like he didn't want to be on a date!
Since the 2nd date he rarely calls anymore. Whereas before we started dating (we were friends) he called me alllll the time - which I liked alot.
I talked to him about this and he said he is depressed about some stuff in his life and that is why he is acting so differently.
Then I find out that he emailed a *old* friend of mine after she emailed him and was talking trsh about me. and he never stood up for me and went along with her in psychoanalyzing my relationship with my father, ect, ect....and coming up with conclussions about why I am so hard to get along with (which is so not the case).
After i found out about the emails, I called him last night to express how upset I am...and how I don't understand what I did to him, ect.
His response after I let it all out? ';Ok';. ';Bye';.I need some advice about a guy....?
Sounds like a jerk. Don't sweat it.I need some advice about a guy....?
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he's not interested and isn't mature enough to say so. leave it alone and forget both of these ';friends';
lmao, thats what you get!
This guy is a jerk. The thing is that you let him know too much about you too soon. In terms of talking to him (in depth) about your relationship with family members etc. I suggest you hold back when someone asks you - just respond casually. The reason why I say this is because you probably scared him away - some men don't want to be with a woman because of her ';baggage'; and head for the hills when they sense that you've got too much drama in your life. Yes it hurt, and yes you want an apology from him - but honestly; at this point what good would it do for you? (other than vindicate you).
He doesn't care about you, and could care less about what's going on in your life (outside of him). He's selfish, immature and does not understand that other people have problems too - not just him. He wasn't ready for a relationship and isn't ready to provide comfort to anyone other than himself at this point. Good Luck and God Bless.
What an a$$....forget him%26gt;%26gt;!
it sounds to me like he is an a**hole. to put it nicely. if it would make you feel better go and punch your *old* friend in the face. and don't bother with him, he's not worth your time anyway.
Hey Girl don't feel so down and sad.**** him and her.If you are beautiful and know it then hell you can go out and get another man you don't them jackasses.
Guys can be such d**** and you should tell him to grow some damn balls and he should of stood up for you.
Id dump his ***.
Good luck%26lt;33
I realize you're pretty hurt by this guy. Getting hurt always sucks. Right now is the time to lean on your circle of friends and family and ditch this terd altogether. Anyone who could be that insensitive never had good intentions in the first place. You probably have a lot of questions that you want answered from him, and unfortunately you'll never get those answers. Some guys just suck. I'm really sorry that this guy is a punk, but delete his number, email address, any pics you have, etc. It's the best way to recover. Oh and go out with some girlfriends for some fun to take your mind off things. One of my girlfriends says, ';You have to get under a guy in order to get over a guy.'; Take Care.
Please let him go, save your self from the heart break.
Kick that piece of trach to the curb and get yourself a finer, respectable more sucessful man! You'll be happier, good thing you found out now, so now all you have to do is let him know...
THE PAIN TRAIN IS COMIN BABY!
Drop that loser. He obviously prefers the other girl better and will pay when she starts analyzing him.
After the first date everything seemed fine and he called me for a 2nd date
During our second date, he acted like he didn't want to be on a date!
Since the 2nd date he rarely calls anymore. Whereas before we started dating (we were friends) he called me alllll the time - which I liked alot.
I talked to him about this and he said he is depressed about some stuff in his life and that is why he is acting so differently.
Then I find out that he emailed a *old* friend of mine after she emailed him and was talking trsh about me. and he never stood up for me and went along with her in psychoanalyzing my relationship with my father, ect, ect....and coming up with conclussions about why I am so hard to get along with (which is so not the case).
After i found out about the emails, I called him last night to express how upset I am...and how I don't understand what I did to him, ect.
His response after I let it all out? ';Ok';. ';Bye';.I need some advice about a guy....?
Sounds like a jerk. Don't sweat it.I need some advice about a guy....?
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he's not interested and isn't mature enough to say so. leave it alone and forget both of these ';friends';
lmao, thats what you get!
This guy is a jerk. The thing is that you let him know too much about you too soon. In terms of talking to him (in depth) about your relationship with family members etc. I suggest you hold back when someone asks you - just respond casually. The reason why I say this is because you probably scared him away - some men don't want to be with a woman because of her ';baggage'; and head for the hills when they sense that you've got too much drama in your life. Yes it hurt, and yes you want an apology from him - but honestly; at this point what good would it do for you? (other than vindicate you).
He doesn't care about you, and could care less about what's going on in your life (outside of him). He's selfish, immature and does not understand that other people have problems too - not just him. He wasn't ready for a relationship and isn't ready to provide comfort to anyone other than himself at this point. Good Luck and God Bless.
What an a$$....forget him%26gt;%26gt;!
it sounds to me like he is an a**hole. to put it nicely. if it would make you feel better go and punch your *old* friend in the face. and don't bother with him, he's not worth your time anyway.
Hey Girl don't feel so down and sad.**** him and her.If you are beautiful and know it then hell you can go out and get another man you don't them jackasses.
Guys can be such d**** and you should tell him to grow some damn balls and he should of stood up for you.
Id dump his ***.
Good luck%26lt;33
I realize you're pretty hurt by this guy. Getting hurt always sucks. Right now is the time to lean on your circle of friends and family and ditch this terd altogether. Anyone who could be that insensitive never had good intentions in the first place. You probably have a lot of questions that you want answered from him, and unfortunately you'll never get those answers. Some guys just suck. I'm really sorry that this guy is a punk, but delete his number, email address, any pics you have, etc. It's the best way to recover. Oh and go out with some girlfriends for some fun to take your mind off things. One of my girlfriends says, ';You have to get under a guy in order to get over a guy.'; Take Care.
Please let him go, save your self from the heart break.
Kick that piece of trach to the curb and get yourself a finer, respectable more sucessful man! You'll be happier, good thing you found out now, so now all you have to do is let him know...
THE PAIN TRAIN IS COMIN BABY!
Drop that loser. He obviously prefers the other girl better and will pay when she starts analyzing him.
I need some advice about a very special girl. only girl i have really truly liked?
Her boyfriend was sent off to utah in october of 2006 to a boarding school for behavior/legal problems. Of course she really missed him when he was gone. He is back now and hes in upstate new york living with his parents who decided to move while he was gone. we stopped talking for a little while, and now i just talked to her two days ago. we hanged out tonight and she explained to me she was taking a break and she said her boyfriend is an *** and that i should delete his picture off of my phone. she said hes a bum and a loser. i was the one who she hanged out ALL THE TIME when her boyfriend was gone and we became best friends. she even asked me what would happen if we went out. she considered it but wasnt open. should i tell her how i feel? we already have the chemistry built up. she even said that its ended and ';we're not together'; he is banned from the high school.should i ask her if we should start going out? should i take the risk? i just need some help please. thank-you.I need some advice about a very special girl. only girl i have really truly liked?
Grow some nads dude.......tell her how you feel.You might be surprised that she feel the same 50/50 chanceI need some advice about a very special girl. only girl i have really truly liked?
Yes yes ask away what do you have to lose?
This lady needs some time to get over. At the moment you should be a good friend to her and give her some breathing space. Anyway try to use your sixth sense in such matters. Go with the flow and never decide about anything. Just flow .........................
yes you should but say something like remember when we talked about dating a while ago then if she answers yes kinda happy then continue with saying well i think we should gie it a try but if she is like oh yea i think iremember then you should still continue but just be like well it was an ok idea
yeah go ahead and ask her
u sound like good enough friends that if she isnt that interested in u then u can still b buddies
u just need to b ready for either answer, but hope for yes!
I feel just like you - if you have the courage - GO FOR GOLD! I wish I did! btw im 12.
Yes, I think you should take the risk. Don't ask her out immediately. Try dropping subtle hints and see how she responds.
nah...leave it alone sounds like drama
tell her that u like her, and that u will always b there 4 her. take the risk.
just keep on hanging out with her...good luck
IT sounds like you do really love this girl.. I think You should ask her out sometime and see what happens Maybe sparks will fly ? What have you go to lose. But if you never ask wont you wonder for the rest of your life?? I would
ASK HER shes probably waiting for you to . Why else would she put her ex down so badly with you right there ??
I think u should give her just a little more time to get over him, but then YES. Go for her before she finds someone else.
I think you should go for it if you really like her! But make sure that it's not going to ruin your friendship if you do end up going out!
take the risk man, It seems to me she really means something to ya! If i was in her shoes I would want you to!
p.s. girls like mind games!
Grow some nads dude.......tell her how you feel.You might be surprised that she feel the same 50/50 chanceI need some advice about a very special girl. only girl i have really truly liked?
Yes yes ask away what do you have to lose?
This lady needs some time to get over. At the moment you should be a good friend to her and give her some breathing space. Anyway try to use your sixth sense in such matters. Go with the flow and never decide about anything. Just flow .........................
yes you should but say something like remember when we talked about dating a while ago then if she answers yes kinda happy then continue with saying well i think we should gie it a try but if she is like oh yea i think iremember then you should still continue but just be like well it was an ok idea
yeah go ahead and ask her
u sound like good enough friends that if she isnt that interested in u then u can still b buddies
u just need to b ready for either answer, but hope for yes!
I feel just like you - if you have the courage - GO FOR GOLD! I wish I did! btw im 12.
Yes, I think you should take the risk. Don't ask her out immediately. Try dropping subtle hints and see how she responds.
nah...leave it alone sounds like drama
tell her that u like her, and that u will always b there 4 her. take the risk.
just keep on hanging out with her...good luck
IT sounds like you do really love this girl.. I think You should ask her out sometime and see what happens Maybe sparks will fly ? What have you go to lose. But if you never ask wont you wonder for the rest of your life?? I would
ASK HER shes probably waiting for you to . Why else would she put her ex down so badly with you right there ??
I think u should give her just a little more time to get over him, but then YES. Go for her before she finds someone else.
I think you should go for it if you really like her! But make sure that it's not going to ruin your friendship if you do end up going out!
take the risk man, It seems to me she really means something to ya! If i was in her shoes I would want you to!
p.s. girls like mind games!
I NEED SOME ADViCE... [ ABOUT GUYz ]?
WELL HERE iT iS i LOVE 2 GUYz. %26amp;%26amp; WiTH BOTH.
i TALK **** ABOUT ONE OF THEM BUT WHEN iM
WiTH HiM iM SO iN LOVE WiTH HiM BUT WHEN iM NOT
THE OTHER GUY iS ALWAYz ON MY MiND i NEVER SAY
ANYTHiNG BAD ABOUT HiM..=]
BUT i NEED TO CHOSE ONE %26amp;%26amp; i DON'T KNOW WHO
2 PiCK...1 TREATz ME RiGHT...%26amp;%26amp; 1 DOSN'T
1 LiSTENz TO ME %26amp;%26amp; 1 DOSN'T BUT EVERYTiME i
TRY TO BREAK UP WiT THE 1 THATz DOSN'T TREAT ME
RiGHT i CAN'T CUZ i LUV HiM SO MUCH...PLZ
TELL ME WHAT i SHOULD DO...=[I NEED SOME ADViCE... [ ABOUT GUYz ]?
you must treat both of them well.when the time comes u will know who to pick.my advice is that you should pick the guy which is..............
handsome-50%
cares about u-76%
the guy u always think about-60%I NEED SOME ADViCE... [ ABOUT GUYz ]?
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get the one that makes you feel good,listens to you,and most importantly,love you for who you are.
you need to pick the guy that treats you right because if you pick the guy that treats you like crap it could get ugly and it wont end up good and you guys could stop being friends! from what you said if sounds like you have already chosen the guy you want but haven't talked to the other guy that you don't really wan.. you need to make your decision quick before you crush both of them
i TALK **** ABOUT ONE OF THEM BUT WHEN iM
WiTH HiM iM SO iN LOVE WiTH HiM BUT WHEN iM NOT
THE OTHER GUY iS ALWAYz ON MY MiND i NEVER SAY
ANYTHiNG BAD ABOUT HiM..=]
BUT i NEED TO CHOSE ONE %26amp;%26amp; i DON'T KNOW WHO
2 PiCK...1 TREATz ME RiGHT...%26amp;%26amp; 1 DOSN'T
1 LiSTENz TO ME %26amp;%26amp; 1 DOSN'T BUT EVERYTiME i
TRY TO BREAK UP WiT THE 1 THATz DOSN'T TREAT ME
RiGHT i CAN'T CUZ i LUV HiM SO MUCH...PLZ
TELL ME WHAT i SHOULD DO...=[I NEED SOME ADViCE... [ ABOUT GUYz ]?
you must treat both of them well.when the time comes u will know who to pick.my advice is that you should pick the guy which is..............
handsome-50%
cares about u-76%
the guy u always think about-60%I NEED SOME ADViCE... [ ABOUT GUYz ]?
.......................
get the one that makes you feel good,listens to you,and most importantly,love you for who you are.
you need to pick the guy that treats you right because if you pick the guy that treats you like crap it could get ugly and it wont end up good and you guys could stop being friends! from what you said if sounds like you have already chosen the guy you want but haven't talked to the other guy that you don't really wan.. you need to make your decision quick before you crush both of them
Need some advice about a guy i've known about 2 years?
okay we met at work. i always thought he was a really funny , nice guy but i was in a horrible situation with an ex that treated me really badly. when that ended we started talking more and more and i started to realize i liked him. whenevr we worked together we basically got nothing done. so a month or so goes by and he decides to put in his 2 weeks notice because heneeds more money to go back to school.. i was scared that that would kill the chance of anything but we exchanged phone numbers and sn's and actually started talking daily,sometimes til 4am. we got extremely close and hung out a few times but then lost touch for a month or 2 over the summer. i went to college in september about 2 hours away and then we started talking daily again and it got serious. i feel like ive known him forever and we hook up but we havent talked about making anything offical.. im afraid to bring it up and be out of line.. i just want to know if he really loves me or is in it strictly for the a**?Need some advice about a guy i've known about 2 years?
tell him how you feel and if it blows up in your face...its his loss..
go for it!! if you don't you may regret not speaking up.. for all you know he may be asking and wondering the same thing as you.
Life is too short so live every day like its your last! ASk himNeed some advice about a guy i've known about 2 years?
I would jsut ask him what his views are on relationships. tell him you are not insinuating anything, just get to know him conversation and ask him what he feels about relationships at this time in his life and ask him about his goals in life. just make it sound like you ae jsut asking to ask. Then he should give you a hint.
Dating a guy who has just broken up is troublesome. A guy takes time to recover from a relationship which is about half the length of the relationship. You have to find out if he is mentally and emotionally ready for committing in to a new relationship or not.
He would have loved you as a friend when he was in difficulty and now he likes you due to hook ups.
This is how you can check if he is realy into you or not. If he is then open the discussion, otherwise cut your losses and move on :
Check yourself, is he really what you are looking for in a relationship.
Does he have goals and is pursuing them in education and carreer
Does he treat you well, does he treat others well
What is his past dating history, has it been stable or serial
Is he a player or do his friends have stable relationships
Does he keep the things that you like in his apartment
Is he dating you exclusively
tell him how you feel and if it blows up in your face...its his loss..
go for it!! if you don't you may regret not speaking up.. for all you know he may be asking and wondering the same thing as you.
Life is too short so live every day like its your last! ASk himNeed some advice about a guy i've known about 2 years?
I would jsut ask him what his views are on relationships. tell him you are not insinuating anything, just get to know him conversation and ask him what he feels about relationships at this time in his life and ask him about his goals in life. just make it sound like you ae jsut asking to ask. Then he should give you a hint.
Dating a guy who has just broken up is troublesome. A guy takes time to recover from a relationship which is about half the length of the relationship. You have to find out if he is mentally and emotionally ready for committing in to a new relationship or not.
He would have loved you as a friend when he was in difficulty and now he likes you due to hook ups.
This is how you can check if he is realy into you or not. If he is then open the discussion, otherwise cut your losses and move on :
Check yourself, is he really what you are looking for in a relationship.
Does he have goals and is pursuing them in education and carreer
Does he treat you well, does he treat others well
What is his past dating history, has it been stable or serial
Is he a player or do his friends have stable relationships
Does he keep the things that you like in his apartment
Is he dating you exclusively
Advice about my bf please!?
i wanna tell my bf that he upset me by talking about another girl, he said that he wasn't gonna do anything with her, but she wanted his number and if he wasn't with me he would have gone for it. he has been away even though we are on the phone ALL night. now he's back he wants to make love and stuff. but i feel like he was talking about being physical with this girl so i dont feel like being physical with him. i forgive him but i dont feel like having him touch me.Advice about my bf please!?
i don't blame you about you not wanting him to touch you. But after a while i think that you should move on after he realizes that what he had done was wrong.
Just ignore his bad behavior and
reward his good behavior i swear it will work.Advice about my bf please!?
Just tell him how you and if he really loves you he will understand and stop. But you cant get up set if he talks to her or she asks him for her number but if he always talks about her though then that's not fair on you is it.
i guess he likes dirty talking with some other girl-which makes him to get aroused and when he feels like doing IT, he seeks for you. which is so annoying of him to even think such like! if he loves you dearly, he will never treat you like some kinda sex doll. tell him cleary on how this makes you feel. he may say that your too complex or being insecure.Let him.Stand up for yourself. Your not cheap for this guy to treat you such way.If not this girl, he would find another one.So, get up and get it right!
that sounds like a jerk to me
so just break up with him
thats the best i could say
cause if he really did want to do it with her
what kind of guy is he?
Just calmly sit him down and tell him what you told us here.
If he laughs it off or sounds fishy, then say goodbye. You don't need someone who is a player.
get another boyfriend if you don't want to get your heart broken!!!!! My ex was just like that!!!!
When you give him a blojob bite his cok real hard then tell him...
that's how my girlfriend did...
wow thats gotta suck. Have you ever thought that maybe he wants to get you jealous thats why he told you? Maybe he wants to see your reaction. you know like how much you care and love him and all that jazz. If I were you I would tell him exactly how you feel without an arguement.In the first place if he really loves you he shouldn't be talking about another chica. If he said he wasn't gonna do anything with her that means he did give his phone # to her and maybe even more. It doesn't matter that you talk to him all night long.You didn't know what he was doing 24/7. I know you don't want to hear this but I doubt that you can trust him.
dont do whatever u dont want to do.
He's imature move on !
If he is telling you that he wants to be physical with her or even contemplating it I would let him go. Do not sleep with him if you do you might regret it.
make a decision to either be with him and trust him or just get over it! it is up to you! That is the best advice I can give you, I don't know you or him .. so whatever is in your heart!
his choices are bad, and if he loved only you he would not encourage this other girl. he is using you for what he can get, and hurting you at the same time. time to end it, cause once a cheater always a cheater. i learned that when i was very young and with my first love, he cheated on me, i forgave, we married and the cheating and heartache continued until i divorced him. best to get out now before you invest more time and love in him.he is way to immature to treat you the way you deserve to be treated.physical love is nothing but lust, not true love, true love means you can trust him, that his intentions are honorable, and he puts you first.i would say he disrespected you, and if you decide to keep him get use to this kind of treatment.
well first of all since hes your bf then you must feel comfortable with him right so it musnt be too hard to talk to him...just bring that girl up in your conversation and tell him what is on your mind..
first of take him by the hand,and keep eye contact.Whatever he says do not get upset.Cause men r so stupid i am one.i know on my part if i find a lady i would quite looking at butts,and flirting the love factor would take over.I feel he just wants to get laid.Should it not be u then it would be someone else.
Depends on how he is. I'd say be forward about it. But, if you think he would get mad quickly then take a more smoother approach. If he gets pissy say, '; Be in my shoes, how would you feel if I told you that IF you werent my boyfriend, I would've gone for him?'; Should work.
you need to lose the loser he is already cheating!
That was totally incoherrent. Maybe I need to be a teenage girl.
If you're going to explain it, make sure you're more clear than that.
tell him to stop if it's bothering you. if you don't want him to touch you tell him not to he'll understand if he loves you
Tell him you don't want a player for a boyfriend.
I don't think there is anything wrong with having friends -- just not cross the line friends -- meaning ones he cheats on you with.
Ask him what his intentions are with this other girl -- is there anything you need to be concerned about with this relationship. He needs to be straight with you.
Go with your gut instincts -- they are usually right.
But it is better to ask than to continue assuming.
If you need to know he is committed to an exclusive relationship BEFORE you feel comfortable having intimate relations, then be honest and stick to your boundaries. Trust your instincts, your conscience. If you don't feel comfortable, then do not compromise -- or you will surely regret it later. If he is serious about you he will drop that other girl and any thought of that. If he is not serious, you are right -- you do not need him touching you.
I'm glad you have good sense not to put yourself in a dangerous position to get hurt. Be up front and honest with him about your emotional needs. If he can meet them, then your relationship is right for you. If he cannot, that will tell you where you stand instead of playing games. Stay true to yourself no matter what. Do not compromise what you truly need and feel, as you have nothing to gain by selling yourself short and everything to lose.
Drop it. Like a hot potatoe..
If you feel like that around your boyfriend, then you probably feel betrayed by him. It sounds like he is trying to see how far you will go with him. If you don't have sex with him, then chances are he will do it with someone else behind your back. Don't let him pressure you into anything. Do what you feel, but if I were in your situation, I would probably dump him.
i don't blame you about you not wanting him to touch you. But after a while i think that you should move on after he realizes that what he had done was wrong.
Just ignore his bad behavior and
reward his good behavior i swear it will work.Advice about my bf please!?
Just tell him how you and if he really loves you he will understand and stop. But you cant get up set if he talks to her or she asks him for her number but if he always talks about her though then that's not fair on you is it.
i guess he likes dirty talking with some other girl-which makes him to get aroused and when he feels like doing IT, he seeks for you. which is so annoying of him to even think such like! if he loves you dearly, he will never treat you like some kinda sex doll. tell him cleary on how this makes you feel. he may say that your too complex or being insecure.Let him.Stand up for yourself. Your not cheap for this guy to treat you such way.If not this girl, he would find another one.So, get up and get it right!
that sounds like a jerk to me
so just break up with him
thats the best i could say
cause if he really did want to do it with her
what kind of guy is he?
Just calmly sit him down and tell him what you told us here.
If he laughs it off or sounds fishy, then say goodbye. You don't need someone who is a player.
get another boyfriend if you don't want to get your heart broken!!!!! My ex was just like that!!!!
When you give him a blojob bite his cok real hard then tell him...
that's how my girlfriend did...
wow thats gotta suck. Have you ever thought that maybe he wants to get you jealous thats why he told you? Maybe he wants to see your reaction. you know like how much you care and love him and all that jazz. If I were you I would tell him exactly how you feel without an arguement.In the first place if he really loves you he shouldn't be talking about another chica. If he said he wasn't gonna do anything with her that means he did give his phone # to her and maybe even more. It doesn't matter that you talk to him all night long.You didn't know what he was doing 24/7. I know you don't want to hear this but I doubt that you can trust him.
dont do whatever u dont want to do.
He's imature move on !
If he is telling you that he wants to be physical with her or even contemplating it I would let him go. Do not sleep with him if you do you might regret it.
make a decision to either be with him and trust him or just get over it! it is up to you! That is the best advice I can give you, I don't know you or him .. so whatever is in your heart!
his choices are bad, and if he loved only you he would not encourage this other girl. he is using you for what he can get, and hurting you at the same time. time to end it, cause once a cheater always a cheater. i learned that when i was very young and with my first love, he cheated on me, i forgave, we married and the cheating and heartache continued until i divorced him. best to get out now before you invest more time and love in him.he is way to immature to treat you the way you deserve to be treated.physical love is nothing but lust, not true love, true love means you can trust him, that his intentions are honorable, and he puts you first.i would say he disrespected you, and if you decide to keep him get use to this kind of treatment.
well first of all since hes your bf then you must feel comfortable with him right so it musnt be too hard to talk to him...just bring that girl up in your conversation and tell him what is on your mind..
first of take him by the hand,and keep eye contact.Whatever he says do not get upset.Cause men r so stupid i am one.i know on my part if i find a lady i would quite looking at butts,and flirting the love factor would take over.I feel he just wants to get laid.Should it not be u then it would be someone else.
Depends on how he is. I'd say be forward about it. But, if you think he would get mad quickly then take a more smoother approach. If he gets pissy say, '; Be in my shoes, how would you feel if I told you that IF you werent my boyfriend, I would've gone for him?'; Should work.
you need to lose the loser he is already cheating!
That was totally incoherrent. Maybe I need to be a teenage girl.
If you're going to explain it, make sure you're more clear than that.
tell him to stop if it's bothering you. if you don't want him to touch you tell him not to he'll understand if he loves you
Tell him you don't want a player for a boyfriend.
I don't think there is anything wrong with having friends -- just not cross the line friends -- meaning ones he cheats on you with.
Ask him what his intentions are with this other girl -- is there anything you need to be concerned about with this relationship. He needs to be straight with you.
Go with your gut instincts -- they are usually right.
But it is better to ask than to continue assuming.
If you need to know he is committed to an exclusive relationship BEFORE you feel comfortable having intimate relations, then be honest and stick to your boundaries. Trust your instincts, your conscience. If you don't feel comfortable, then do not compromise -- or you will surely regret it later. If he is serious about you he will drop that other girl and any thought of that. If he is not serious, you are right -- you do not need him touching you.
I'm glad you have good sense not to put yourself in a dangerous position to get hurt. Be up front and honest with him about your emotional needs. If he can meet them, then your relationship is right for you. If he cannot, that will tell you where you stand instead of playing games. Stay true to yourself no matter what. Do not compromise what you truly need and feel, as you have nothing to gain by selling yourself short and everything to lose.
Drop it. Like a hot potatoe..
If you feel like that around your boyfriend, then you probably feel betrayed by him. It sounds like he is trying to see how far you will go with him. If you don't have sex with him, then chances are he will do it with someone else behind your back. Don't let him pressure you into anything. Do what you feel, but if I were in your situation, I would probably dump him.
Advice about My attitude??
I am a caregiver for an assisted living facility... One of my residents has been telling me that i dont smile any more and that i always have a scowl on my face.. .I havent really noticed it but maybe i have... My boyfriend toldme the other night that im always in a bad mood, i yell at the dogs and whatever else comes my way... i never really noticed that i was being so negative... I really dont know why i am or have been either... Got any Advice????Advice about My attitude??
Are you feeling overburdened at work? Do you enjoy your job? Is there anything besides your job that could be bothering you.
It's a good thing that you are listening to the imput of those around you. Start paying attention to how you feel, and what you are thinking at work (don't over analyze, just be aware), and talk to someone you trust about this as well- your boyfriend, other friends, a counselor if necessary.
I work as a caregiver, and I know it can be frustrating and difficult.Advice about My attitude??
If we are doing the job that we really like, have aptitude for and it touches our true self in the sense of feeling that it is a job for which I am cut out /designed for, then, we enjoy the job and it reflects in our behavior as lively and cheerful.Please examine yourself on this and suit yourself accordingly either by readjusting to the aspect of the present job that suits you most or by reconsidering the choice of job, if need be. To be in what we truly are is the best way to happiness!
You need to see a counsellor mate. The work is starting to get to you. Maybe a change of career?make up
Are you feeling overburdened at work? Do you enjoy your job? Is there anything besides your job that could be bothering you.
It's a good thing that you are listening to the imput of those around you. Start paying attention to how you feel, and what you are thinking at work (don't over analyze, just be aware), and talk to someone you trust about this as well- your boyfriend, other friends, a counselor if necessary.
I work as a caregiver, and I know it can be frustrating and difficult.Advice about My attitude??
If we are doing the job that we really like, have aptitude for and it touches our true self in the sense of feeling that it is a job for which I am cut out /designed for, then, we enjoy the job and it reflects in our behavior as lively and cheerful.Please examine yourself on this and suit yourself accordingly either by readjusting to the aspect of the present job that suits you most or by reconsidering the choice of job, if need be. To be in what we truly are is the best way to happiness!
You need to see a counsellor mate. The work is starting to get to you. Maybe a change of career?
Advice About Guys, Girls, Dating, Relationships and other things that involve love.?
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Advice About Jealous Family and friends......?
For 23 years of my life, i experenced struggling. My parents did the best they could in raising 3 girls %26amp; 1 boy. We all went though hardship, with bills and food. My daddy is a GOOD dad. He would work so hard, but most times he would borrow money so that the family could eat. My relatives were always the ones to live a suburban lifestyle. As of now, I'm 24 years old. Thinking of the bad struggle that i went through as a child, i'm able to persevere a better lifestyle. I trusted in GOD for everything i have, and believed the impossible. Soon i will be moving into a $4.7 million estate. Sits on 2.66 acres and my BEST friend (a guy) will move in with me. Its a BIG home. I hve a nice car (2006 Toyota Solara coupe) But my dream car is a Bentley Contenintal CTG, I have to get it. I'm looking for land to build A fashion boutique, and a coffee house, that i hope becomes a chain. I'm not bragging, by far...but here's the problem....Advice About Jealous Family and friends......?
Stick to helping your immediate family, especially your dad who struggled so hard. As for anyone else it is ok to say no to people. If you dont the vultures will be all over you thinking you have an endless supply of money. You dont owe anyone an explanation of why you say no but if you feel you have to explain tell them your money is tied up and you dont have the cash flow to help everyone who asks you.Advice About Jealous Family and friends......?
It all comes down to your attitude. If you show up with a stuck up attitude and rub it in their face, yes they will react with jealousy. If you show up with a humble spirit of gratitude you will get admiration and warmth from your family. It's all up to you.
Well just give a little and tell them that you have many plans for the money you have on you, that you plan to invest in other things, and you need it.
Can I ask you, how did you do all of this? Please share...=)
Just be yourself, why are you worried about them getting jealous.
Why are you not focusing on yourself ?
how will it affect you if they will jealous when they will ?
Be thankful for your blessings,but that doesn't mean you can't say no not at this time i cannot help you or trust in god if you do,do something for someone make sure if you can help you take that person and make sure this is where your money is going.Because you are going to find out people will use you as long as you let them.You will also find kind folks you never heard of,also get a promissory note signed by you and that person so the courts will help you get your money back.Good luck.
Okay, first of all don't go into it thinking people will be jealous. They may just be proud of you, that is the problem with people, they think that because they reach a certain point, it's them against the world.
Don't play into the stereotype of crabs in a jar, just because you reached the top, you cannot help anyone else, because you think you will be used. if you had a good relationship with your family in the past, don't let it get sour because you have a little money.
I grew up okay, but now i have moved out of state, i am 26 years old, a pharmacy tech, and I drive an es 300, the first thing I did when I bought my car, was go to my home town, get as many family members that could fit and go for a ride.
if ever my family needs anything that I can give, it is thiers, my relationship with them has not changed one bit, my husband builds houses, he does not think like '; oh I know somebody is gonna want me to build them a house for little or nothing';, no, he welcomes it, you help out your family, and you will get further.
What's the problem?
Stick to helping your immediate family, especially your dad who struggled so hard. As for anyone else it is ok to say no to people. If you dont the vultures will be all over you thinking you have an endless supply of money. You dont owe anyone an explanation of why you say no but if you feel you have to explain tell them your money is tied up and you dont have the cash flow to help everyone who asks you.Advice About Jealous Family and friends......?
It all comes down to your attitude. If you show up with a stuck up attitude and rub it in their face, yes they will react with jealousy. If you show up with a humble spirit of gratitude you will get admiration and warmth from your family. It's all up to you.
Well just give a little and tell them that you have many plans for the money you have on you, that you plan to invest in other things, and you need it.
Can I ask you, how did you do all of this? Please share...=)
Just be yourself, why are you worried about them getting jealous.
Why are you not focusing on yourself ?
how will it affect you if they will jealous when they will ?
Be thankful for your blessings,but that doesn't mean you can't say no not at this time i cannot help you or trust in god if you do,do something for someone make sure if you can help you take that person and make sure this is where your money is going.Because you are going to find out people will use you as long as you let them.You will also find kind folks you never heard of,also get a promissory note signed by you and that person so the courts will help you get your money back.Good luck.
Okay, first of all don't go into it thinking people will be jealous. They may just be proud of you, that is the problem with people, they think that because they reach a certain point, it's them against the world.
Don't play into the stereotype of crabs in a jar, just because you reached the top, you cannot help anyone else, because you think you will be used. if you had a good relationship with your family in the past, don't let it get sour because you have a little money.
I grew up okay, but now i have moved out of state, i am 26 years old, a pharmacy tech, and I drive an es 300, the first thing I did when I bought my car, was go to my home town, get as many family members that could fit and go for a ride.
if ever my family needs anything that I can give, it is thiers, my relationship with them has not changed one bit, my husband builds houses, he does not think like '; oh I know somebody is gonna want me to build them a house for little or nothing';, no, he welcomes it, you help out your family, and you will get further.
What's the problem?
Advice about my girlfriend............?
My girlfriend and i have been together for 6 months now, and things are great, However, i am a bit confused because she tells me she sees us together in the future and me as the father of her kids, however, she says she doesnt feel the love.... What can i / should i do to prove to her that she is the one for me, and that i would do anything in the world for her, and i am sincere when i say anything Any Advice PleaseAdvice about my girlfriend............?
tell her how you feel about not being the one for her. Ask her why she isn't feeling the same way you are.Advice about my girlfriend............?
Well first off i would have to say that after only 6 nmonths you dont know if there ';the one'; for you or not. thats way to early.... and i mean at 6 months kids shouldnt really be an issue, i mean you don't even know eachother very well yet. but if you realy think shes ';the one'; (i think you should wait a few more months) but i guess tell her. if shes not sencing the love then you need to tell her that she is the one for you and that you love her.
but dude remember its only 6 months
-kels
she still confuse give her time to think....
tell her how you feel about not being the one for her. Ask her why she isn't feeling the same way you are.Advice about my girlfriend............?
Well first off i would have to say that after only 6 nmonths you dont know if there ';the one'; for you or not. thats way to early.... and i mean at 6 months kids shouldnt really be an issue, i mean you don't even know eachother very well yet. but if you realy think shes ';the one'; (i think you should wait a few more months) but i guess tell her. if shes not sencing the love then you need to tell her that she is the one for you and that you love her.
but dude remember its only 6 months
-kels
she still confuse give her time to think....
Advice about pull-ups?
do I put a diaper on him when he is sleeping? do pull-ups work well? any advice would be great!!Advice about pull-ups?
My Husband and I actively started to potty train our son around 2.5 years of age. We transitioned him from diapers to pull-ups because they were easier to him to pull up and down for potty time. The pull-ups worked just as good, if not better, then diapers for him.
When he really started to get the hang of potty training we switched to regular underware. We let him choose his favorite charactors and which undies he preferred. We had lots of accidents, but it is all about consistancy with our son.
At nighttime we used the Huggies Overnights, they work really really well and when he outgrew them, we have him in GoodNights. He is getting better with staying dry at night, but he sleeps so heavily and wouldn't wake up. So until he is much more consistant with his nighttime peeing we will keep him in the GoodNights.
I would rather him get a good nights sleep then worry about him staying dry all night long.Advice about pull-ups?
All adults and teenagers now were trained without them, so that proves that toddlers now do not need them.
pull ups are the biggest waste of money, buy some underwear or diapers, don't waste your money on those overpriced things, they prolong potty training by 90%
i would say a pull up at night for the accidents and undies during the day. only other time to use pull ups would be if you will be driving for an extended period of time with very little chances of potty breaks.
My kids did very well with pull ups. But we offered rewards for keeping the pull up dry. We use nighttime pull ups at night.
My son was entirely day and night potty trained before 4 with pull ups. (Day trained shortyle after 3rd b-day)
My daughter is day trained at 2 1/2 with pull ups. Night is another story, but I'm not complaining.
Pull ups are for training. If he can get out of bed on his own and starts doing that, then pull-ups are great!
I tried pullups for a while and it didnt seem to help in the potty training. They knew they could pee in them. We got no progress until I took all the daipers and pull ups away and they wore regular underwear all the time. They did wear a diaper or pull up at night for a while.
good luck
For daytime, I think pullups are a waste of money. I think either they should be in diapers, or if you're training them, go straight to underwear. I did use pullups at night for a while after my kids were potty trained though (it took them a while to get the hang of staying dry at night) I didn't want to send mixed messages by putting them in a diaper at night.... only issue is they're not quite as absorbant as a diaper. HOpe this helps!
I let her use them while shes sleeping. they stay pretty dry. I like the target brand they are very compareable to pull ups with a lower cost. yes if you want him to get up and use the potty at night too then pull ups at night are fine.
Don't use pull-ups at night. They hold the urine close to the body and will cause a nasty rash if left on for too long.
Waste of time and money. I went from diapers to underwear. Kids don't like to be wet, so if they have an accident, they will learn to stop wettine. I did use diapers at night for a short while.
don't use them while training...they are almost exactly like diapers except the child can pull them on and off. We used them only at night and nap time because they fit better than diapers.
as far as night time goes...if your child is waking up dry consistently you may not need them, just make sure that they don't have a lot of liquids after dinner and that they go to the bathroom immediately before bed. Our oldest didn't ever need pull ups at night our middle daughter used them for a while but is now in just underwear. It totally depends on the child!
I think pull-ups are completely pointless. I've never found that they helped any of my kids with potty training; they're too much like diapers. I used them when putting them to bed and when i took them out in public for about a week, but i felt like it wasn't helping them learn. Feeling that they're wet will get them potty trained faster than some picture of a cartoon fading. Use underwear, it'll make potty training faster and easier.
Best of luck!
My Husband and I actively started to potty train our son around 2.5 years of age. We transitioned him from diapers to pull-ups because they were easier to him to pull up and down for potty time. The pull-ups worked just as good, if not better, then diapers for him.
When he really started to get the hang of potty training we switched to regular underware. We let him choose his favorite charactors and which undies he preferred. We had lots of accidents, but it is all about consistancy with our son.
At nighttime we used the Huggies Overnights, they work really really well and when he outgrew them, we have him in GoodNights. He is getting better with staying dry at night, but he sleeps so heavily and wouldn't wake up. So until he is much more consistant with his nighttime peeing we will keep him in the GoodNights.
I would rather him get a good nights sleep then worry about him staying dry all night long.Advice about pull-ups?
All adults and teenagers now were trained without them, so that proves that toddlers now do not need them.
pull ups are the biggest waste of money, buy some underwear or diapers, don't waste your money on those overpriced things, they prolong potty training by 90%
i would say a pull up at night for the accidents and undies during the day. only other time to use pull ups would be if you will be driving for an extended period of time with very little chances of potty breaks.
My kids did very well with pull ups. But we offered rewards for keeping the pull up dry. We use nighttime pull ups at night.
My son was entirely day and night potty trained before 4 with pull ups. (Day trained shortyle after 3rd b-day)
My daughter is day trained at 2 1/2 with pull ups. Night is another story, but I'm not complaining.
Pull ups are for training. If he can get out of bed on his own and starts doing that, then pull-ups are great!
I tried pullups for a while and it didnt seem to help in the potty training. They knew they could pee in them. We got no progress until I took all the daipers and pull ups away and they wore regular underwear all the time. They did wear a diaper or pull up at night for a while.
good luck
For daytime, I think pullups are a waste of money. I think either they should be in diapers, or if you're training them, go straight to underwear. I did use pullups at night for a while after my kids were potty trained though (it took them a while to get the hang of staying dry at night) I didn't want to send mixed messages by putting them in a diaper at night.... only issue is they're not quite as absorbant as a diaper. HOpe this helps!
I let her use them while shes sleeping. they stay pretty dry. I like the target brand they are very compareable to pull ups with a lower cost. yes if you want him to get up and use the potty at night too then pull ups at night are fine.
Don't use pull-ups at night. They hold the urine close to the body and will cause a nasty rash if left on for too long.
Waste of time and money. I went from diapers to underwear. Kids don't like to be wet, so if they have an accident, they will learn to stop wettine. I did use diapers at night for a short while.
don't use them while training...they are almost exactly like diapers except the child can pull them on and off. We used them only at night and nap time because they fit better than diapers.
as far as night time goes...if your child is waking up dry consistently you may not need them, just make sure that they don't have a lot of liquids after dinner and that they go to the bathroom immediately before bed. Our oldest didn't ever need pull ups at night our middle daughter used them for a while but is now in just underwear. It totally depends on the child!
I think pull-ups are completely pointless. I've never found that they helped any of my kids with potty training; they're too much like diapers. I used them when putting them to bed and when i took them out in public for about a week, but i felt like it wasn't helping them learn. Feeling that they're wet will get them potty trained faster than some picture of a cartoon fading. Use underwear, it'll make potty training faster and easier.
Best of luck!
Advice about my current situation?
Okay, here are the facts. I'm 20 (just turned a week ago) and my girlfriend is 19, turning 20 in a month or two. We've been dating for 5 months. We're both virgins, by choice, and wondering about sex. We've discussed it alot and we both want to wait a bit longer. She wants to wait until she has financial security, which to me seems like an elaborate excuse because she's afraid. I'm also afraid as it seems like a big step. We've fooled around some and it hasn't changed our relationship much. We still are together almost every day. What I'm looking for is a bit of clarity. I've heard that sex changes a relationship and that scares me. I also have typical guy fears about not being very good and not pleasing her.
Anyone have any ideas/advice/anything helpful?Advice about my current situation?
Yeah, wear a raincoat on your jimmy.Advice about my current situation?
Well your first time is always a little scary, but fun. You'll be fine once you get started and she's not gonna expect you to be a pro in the sack b/c it's both of your first times. I would suggest that she gets on birth control if she's not already. I don't really understand what she means about the financial security part. Poor people have sex all the time. If you use the proper protection you should be fine. I wouldn't try pushing her into it though, and it sounds like she's just not ready. Maybe give her a little while and then just try.
If you love and care about each other enough to wait, why don't you wait until you're married? Virginity is something you only get once, and you don't want to make a mistake. If you're that unsure of a big step, don't take it. If you want a child together, then go ahead, because babies can happen the first time. How can you be worried about pleasing her if she's never done it either. It's not like either one of you knows what to expect.
Here, catch this 2 ton ball I'm throwing! Kidding, just trying to break the tension. Okay, no matter what age you are, you remember all of your firsts, kiss, sex, marriage, baby, whether it was good, bad, downright scary or maybe like me you wanna tap the time fairy for a ';do over!'; Having sex, in my opinion, changes your feelings toward a person, I can't have sex for the fun of it, that's just me and it IS a big step. You've seen them naked, you've heard the sounds, you're laying the most vulnerable parts of yourself out there, you should be scared. By most accounts, women are the ones that attach a serious set of emotions to sex. Some men do too, but in general, women do it more often.
Financial security? Man, while it does sound like an elaborate excuse, she's already tying a big commitment to having sex with you.
Only you and her can decide if you want to take it to the next level and be physically intimate and if you're ready for the feelings that will provoke in each of you should you decide, because it's something you can't take back or do over.
Sex is a natural thing, talk to a few DECENT guys about this, if they are real men, they will help you sort out the in's and out's of it. Good luck!
Not sure I understand the ';financial security'; thing... personally I try to keep sex and money as far apart as possible. I do believe that being a bit afraid is a good thing for you guys. It indicates that you feel sex is an big deal... and frankly it is a big deal.
I don't believe it's a bad deal, but it is a big one. It shouldn't be trivialized or be made to seem like it's nothing. And yes... sex does change a relationship. It can make people closer, and it can push them apart. It can turn friends into partners, or partners into enemies.
I believe you give a little bit of yourself, and accept a little bit of another in the act of making love. Being that open and making yourself that vunerable affects a relationship. You will know more, feel more, be more to each other than you were before. I don'r believe in ';meaningless sex.'; Some people just don't care what kind of meaning they make.
I know this... it shouldn't happen until you both want it to... without reservation, without doubt. Otherwise what it could mean, is someone hurt and ashamed, and a relationship that could soon end.
when your 30 your gonna look back at all the time you wasted waiting around...its only sex...be safe but realize its not gonna change the world.
juzz wait a bit longer...besides u should b sure if u want to do it wit her 4 d 1st time...is should b special...n maybe u guys should talk about it a lil bit more....but take it slow...wait a lil longer :)
Ok.. I'm going to agree with my gal, Suthern Yankee. Financial security is not an excuse, but, REALITY is, you'll never truly be financially secure. Once you have kids, the whole thing changes.
As for sex, unless you want to marry her, you better be careful. You guys are too young. enjoy life. have fun. Travel. GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER!!!! If i could pound one thing home its that. My Gal and I know each other so well we finish each other's sentence. We are comfortable at the movie or in bed and that, my friend, is off the chain.
Let us also talk about this: Does she even WANT children? its a question you need to ask and answer. If you both agree NO, then you need to do some things to make sure it doesn't happen, because, I GUARANTEE, the blame game will happen.
Sex does change a relationship. It skips it to the next level and if you aren't ready to commit, then you better think twice.
As to the not very good or not pleasing her, WHO DOES SHE HAVE TO COMPARE TO?? You are you and she is she and well. that's life...
Slow. Steady.. 5 months???? not near enough time... as i said, get to know each other and ask questions. Life questions not heat of the moment questions.
i think its good youre waiting. but if she says she is ready, go for it. if you prefer to wait a while longer, she will respect that if she loves you. If you say you are ready, but she isnt, respect her by not pressuring her. that is true love. love does not revolve around sex.
You definitally dont have to worry about pleasing her if shes also a virgin. And i really think that you might as well wait. What if you guys end up having sex and then break up soon after, then saving your virginity would all have been for nothing. It is a big step and try not to just get caught in the moment with it.
Anyone have any ideas/advice/anything helpful?Advice about my current situation?
Yeah, wear a raincoat on your jimmy.Advice about my current situation?
Well your first time is always a little scary, but fun. You'll be fine once you get started and she's not gonna expect you to be a pro in the sack b/c it's both of your first times. I would suggest that she gets on birth control if she's not already. I don't really understand what she means about the financial security part. Poor people have sex all the time. If you use the proper protection you should be fine. I wouldn't try pushing her into it though, and it sounds like she's just not ready. Maybe give her a little while and then just try.
If you love and care about each other enough to wait, why don't you wait until you're married? Virginity is something you only get once, and you don't want to make a mistake. If you're that unsure of a big step, don't take it. If you want a child together, then go ahead, because babies can happen the first time. How can you be worried about pleasing her if she's never done it either. It's not like either one of you knows what to expect.
Here, catch this 2 ton ball I'm throwing! Kidding, just trying to break the tension. Okay, no matter what age you are, you remember all of your firsts, kiss, sex, marriage, baby, whether it was good, bad, downright scary or maybe like me you wanna tap the time fairy for a ';do over!'; Having sex, in my opinion, changes your feelings toward a person, I can't have sex for the fun of it, that's just me and it IS a big step. You've seen them naked, you've heard the sounds, you're laying the most vulnerable parts of yourself out there, you should be scared. By most accounts, women are the ones that attach a serious set of emotions to sex. Some men do too, but in general, women do it more often.
Financial security? Man, while it does sound like an elaborate excuse, she's already tying a big commitment to having sex with you.
Only you and her can decide if you want to take it to the next level and be physically intimate and if you're ready for the feelings that will provoke in each of you should you decide, because it's something you can't take back or do over.
Sex is a natural thing, talk to a few DECENT guys about this, if they are real men, they will help you sort out the in's and out's of it. Good luck!
Not sure I understand the ';financial security'; thing... personally I try to keep sex and money as far apart as possible. I do believe that being a bit afraid is a good thing for you guys. It indicates that you feel sex is an big deal... and frankly it is a big deal.
I don't believe it's a bad deal, but it is a big one. It shouldn't be trivialized or be made to seem like it's nothing. And yes... sex does change a relationship. It can make people closer, and it can push them apart. It can turn friends into partners, or partners into enemies.
I believe you give a little bit of yourself, and accept a little bit of another in the act of making love. Being that open and making yourself that vunerable affects a relationship. You will know more, feel more, be more to each other than you were before. I don'r believe in ';meaningless sex.'; Some people just don't care what kind of meaning they make.
I know this... it shouldn't happen until you both want it to... without reservation, without doubt. Otherwise what it could mean, is someone hurt and ashamed, and a relationship that could soon end.
when your 30 your gonna look back at all the time you wasted waiting around...its only sex...be safe but realize its not gonna change the world.
juzz wait a bit longer...besides u should b sure if u want to do it wit her 4 d 1st time...is should b special...n maybe u guys should talk about it a lil bit more....but take it slow...wait a lil longer :)
Ok.. I'm going to agree with my gal, Suthern Yankee. Financial security is not an excuse, but, REALITY is, you'll never truly be financially secure. Once you have kids, the whole thing changes.
As for sex, unless you want to marry her, you better be careful. You guys are too young. enjoy life. have fun. Travel. GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER!!!! If i could pound one thing home its that. My Gal and I know each other so well we finish each other's sentence. We are comfortable at the movie or in bed and that, my friend, is off the chain.
Let us also talk about this: Does she even WANT children? its a question you need to ask and answer. If you both agree NO, then you need to do some things to make sure it doesn't happen, because, I GUARANTEE, the blame game will happen.
Sex does change a relationship. It skips it to the next level and if you aren't ready to commit, then you better think twice.
As to the not very good or not pleasing her, WHO DOES SHE HAVE TO COMPARE TO?? You are you and she is she and well. that's life...
Slow. Steady.. 5 months???? not near enough time... as i said, get to know each other and ask questions. Life questions not heat of the moment questions.
i think its good youre waiting. but if she says she is ready, go for it. if you prefer to wait a while longer, she will respect that if she loves you. If you say you are ready, but she isnt, respect her by not pressuring her. that is true love. love does not revolve around sex.
You definitally dont have to worry about pleasing her if shes also a virgin. And i really think that you might as well wait. What if you guys end up having sex and then break up soon after, then saving your virginity would all have been for nothing. It is a big step and try not to just get caught in the moment with it.
Advice about a party please?!?
There's this girl Sarah and it's going to be her birthday next weekend. Me, Natalie and Taylor are throwing Sarah a surprise birthday party. Me and Natalie are very good friends with another girl Madison. However, Natalie and Taylor did not add Madison to the party guest list because she is not friends with Sarah.
Is it rude not to invite Madison...do you think she will be hurt???
I understand that Madison is not friends with Sarah but still...Advice about a party please?!?
in my opinion...
because it is Sarah's birthday party.. i don't think she would like it very much if Madison was there.. and even though you are good friends with both of them, i am sure Madison will understand that it is Sarah's party and that it is Sarah that would not want her there. If you were good friends with Madison.. she will thank you for letting her know and will understand rather than doing it behind her back
if this doesn't help then i am very sorry =P but i tried =)make up
Is it rude not to invite Madison...do you think she will be hurt???
I understand that Madison is not friends with Sarah but still...Advice about a party please?!?
in my opinion...
because it is Sarah's birthday party.. i don't think she would like it very much if Madison was there.. and even though you are good friends with both of them, i am sure Madison will understand that it is Sarah's party and that it is Sarah that would not want her there. If you were good friends with Madison.. she will thank you for letting her know and will understand rather than doing it behind her back
if this doesn't help then i am very sorry =P but i tried =)
Advice about imvu?
hey my friend recently told me about imvu it seems pretty cool but i wanted to get some more views about it before i join. If anyone can help me i just wanna know good and bad points. Thanx i really appreciate itAdvice about imvu?
Its not too bad. They try to sap a lot of money out of you with all the stuff you can buy. Its interesting and fun to play around with, but the actual talking aspect kinda sucks. Once you write something in a bubble, you can't delete it. The bubbles kinda get in the way of eachother, and what you say stays up there for about 5 minutes
I talked to a lot of older people. I'm 19. Half the people I talked to were 20ish and the other half were 40ish, mostly in the UK (I'm in the US)Advice about imvu?
its the best ever im on it EVERY day!!!
I would go to IMVU Help or Agreement and Terms, to get more information.
its a wasit
its fun for about 2 seconds and there are ALOT of kids
i used it when i was 17 and all iw as talking to was 12-14 year olds
ah i depends on yoUr computer because uses graphics rather
than just text but it is more cool/interesting you can c Ur emoticons and get junk for ur avatar.so download it n try it out don't like it install it.:o)
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It sucks
it`s mostly just kids and old perverts on there, and the chat thing hardly ever works it`s always crashing or freezing your computer and they are always taking stuff away from you.after you buy something like the next day they take it away and say, sorry thats not allowed on imvu.but yeah it`s probably fun for about 2 minutes then it sucks A LOT!
Its not too bad. They try to sap a lot of money out of you with all the stuff you can buy. Its interesting and fun to play around with, but the actual talking aspect kinda sucks. Once you write something in a bubble, you can't delete it. The bubbles kinda get in the way of eachother, and what you say stays up there for about 5 minutes
I talked to a lot of older people. I'm 19. Half the people I talked to were 20ish and the other half were 40ish, mostly in the UK (I'm in the US)Advice about imvu?
its the best ever im on it EVERY day!!!
I would go to IMVU Help or Agreement and Terms, to get more information.
its a wasit
its fun for about 2 seconds and there are ALOT of kids
i used it when i was 17 and all iw as talking to was 12-14 year olds
ah i depends on yoUr computer because uses graphics rather
than just text but it is more cool/interesting you can c Ur emoticons and get junk for ur avatar.so download it n try it out don't like it install it.:o)
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It sucks
it`s mostly just kids and old perverts on there, and the chat thing hardly ever works it`s always crashing or freezing your computer and they are always taking stuff away from you.after you buy something like the next day they take it away and say, sorry thats not allowed on imvu.but yeah it`s probably fun for about 2 minutes then it sucks A LOT!
Advice about a girl !!!?
i use to be such good friends wtih this girl. i dated her at one time. if it helps for your answer, her name is christina. adn we got into a fight. ya ya ya. and we didnt talk at all. and then i told her that i loved her. eventually we began to be friends. but not much. she didtn like how i smoked weed, which i never should hvae done. but i hung out with her today, adn we were talking just casually. and it seemed like she was alrite talking. but, what i really want is advice on getting back with her, cuz the last thing i want to do is get too far apart from her.Advice about a girl !!!?
stop smoking the weedAdvice about a girl !!!?
you did what u did last time before u guys went out.
and there is nothing wrong with smoking weed,it could be like a hobby,everyone has a hobby just some are in differnt levels.
bleh.
hello!well first of all what you did with the weed was not nice but since u know that ,it's ok,i mean it was a one time thing...now about christina i don't know why you got into a fight for,i mean it was a serious reason or it was just a stupi regular fight..?anyway seems like you got over that fact...as you said you are ok now but you are not that close.firstly try to get close to her again and remind her good memories of you too together in the past.approach her in the way you feel,i mean don't pretend you see her like a friend when you love her except if you do want her to be your friend.Either way i'm sure you want her to be a part of your life so you need to get her back and then will see about what she feels about you..cuz either way again she will love you either as a friend or sth more than that...let me know what happened...!!!good luck!!!
win her heart,stop smoking,b urself n remember express ur luv again n again only if ur sure she is not gonna break da frndship
Just keep asking her to go do stuff with you. Build a history and be trustworthy and fun. Make her feel like she is a better person when she is around you. Always try to be your best self when you are with her.
Is her name was christiena_jasmine
i dont think i would like going out w/ a guy smoking weed. try and quit, maybe she'll come back if she found out u quit for her.
Sometimes it takes awhile for people to get over a fight and to learn how to trust again. Not talking after the fight could have lead to her feeling either rejected or she just did not want to talk because she feared that there would be another fight coming up. Of course, she could have just been that angry about the whole situation. It also sounds like smoking weed around her made her feel really uncomfortable and unsure of you. Perhaps talking with her and telling her you won't smoke around her ever again would help the situation. Just keep talking and see where it goes. At least she is still talking with you and that's good! Do not push her about having a relationship because that may freak her out. Keep it friendly and chill atm. Good luck.
try and come of weed if u can mate that will make her come back say you did it for her comfort her and make her feel wanted make her feel special
hope i helped
Many girls don't like it if her boy has any bad habits.
So just stop smoking weed and it can do wonders for your own health too not now but later.
So if you want her to be with you stop smoking
Good luck =)
stop smokin weed then tell her you stopped
stop smoking the weedAdvice about a girl !!!?
you did what u did last time before u guys went out.
and there is nothing wrong with smoking weed,it could be like a hobby,everyone has a hobby just some are in differnt levels.
bleh.
hello!well first of all what you did with the weed was not nice but since u know that ,it's ok,i mean it was a one time thing...now about christina i don't know why you got into a fight for,i mean it was a serious reason or it was just a stupi regular fight..?anyway seems like you got over that fact...as you said you are ok now but you are not that close.firstly try to get close to her again and remind her good memories of you too together in the past.approach her in the way you feel,i mean don't pretend you see her like a friend when you love her except if you do want her to be your friend.Either way i'm sure you want her to be a part of your life so you need to get her back and then will see about what she feels about you..cuz either way again she will love you either as a friend or sth more than that...let me know what happened...!!!good luck!!!
win her heart,stop smoking,b urself n remember express ur luv again n again only if ur sure she is not gonna break da frndship
Just keep asking her to go do stuff with you. Build a history and be trustworthy and fun. Make her feel like she is a better person when she is around you. Always try to be your best self when you are with her.
Is her name was christiena_jasmine
i dont think i would like going out w/ a guy smoking weed. try and quit, maybe she'll come back if she found out u quit for her.
Sometimes it takes awhile for people to get over a fight and to learn how to trust again. Not talking after the fight could have lead to her feeling either rejected or she just did not want to talk because she feared that there would be another fight coming up. Of course, she could have just been that angry about the whole situation. It also sounds like smoking weed around her made her feel really uncomfortable and unsure of you. Perhaps talking with her and telling her you won't smoke around her ever again would help the situation. Just keep talking and see where it goes. At least she is still talking with you and that's good! Do not push her about having a relationship because that may freak her out. Keep it friendly and chill atm. Good luck.
try and come of weed if u can mate that will make her come back say you did it for her comfort her and make her feel wanted make her feel special
hope i helped
Many girls don't like it if her boy has any bad habits.
So just stop smoking weed and it can do wonders for your own health too not now but later.
So if you want her to be with you stop smoking
Good luck =)
stop smokin weed then tell her you stopped
Advice about gf's mom?
ok so my gf and i just got together after about 3 months apart. her moms bitchin was the original reason we split the first place. the reason her mom is bitchin so much is b/c she found out i have a pretty bad past. i have done drugs and been arrested twice. since then i have comletely changed my life i quit drinkin and have been off drugs for well over 2yrs. i go to church and have become very active there. my life is so much better w/ out all that other junk of my past life. so ne ways my gf is 18 soon to be 19 and i have just turned 22. i personaly believe that she should be able to see who she wishes to see, but her mom dosent quite see it that way. her mom makes her life a living hell when she even mentions my name, let alone tells her we are back together.so the question is: how can i get in her moms good graces, so that she will approve of her daughter seein me. thank u for ur time and God bless u all.Advice about gf's mom?
It is a tough one. I was in a similar situation, where I was a compulsive gambler. My mother-in-law (now) had the belief that once a gambler, always a gambler, and that I could not offer her daughter anything. We seperated as well due to her parents interference for about 5 months. The good news is my partner and I have been together 14 years (started dating at 20 yrs old), married, child etc. The bad news was me and her mother never got on for years - we didn't speak for 7 years, but my wife always maintained her faith in me - and that was all that was important to me. Funnily enough the parents are trying to make amends for how abysmally they treated me without getting to know me - even though it is probably a decade too late. I am a professional, good father and a nice person, but I always was - they just didn't want to see it.
I did try to let them get to know me in the past, but they didn't want to, just wanted to undermine me, so I did what was right for me - that was concentrate on me and my partner, and we did just fine. I made my wife know I beared them no ill will, and she should continue her relationship with them, but as they didn't want one with me, I couldn't do much else. You can only do so much yourself - the other party has to be willing to meet half way as well.Advice about gf's mom?
Stand up for her! that's what i say! show her mom that you care for her and it's just rude of her to do that!
Wow, I'm a mom and my daughter is 19 yrs old. I also have a 23 yr old son. Now, take that into the equation when I say what I'm about to say.
My son was also into drugs and alcohol as a teen and getting into trouble. He was really going down the wrong road and then he turned his life around. Married now and has 3 kids, just got a promotion and I'm very proud of him. He lived with his father when he was in trouble as a teen.
My daughter has two babies (19 months and 9 months) the father of the babies is not around but we do know he has to go to court again for breaking in and trespassing and may go to the slammer for at least a year. He doesn't pay for the babies at all. He is hard into drugs and alcohol says he is a changed man because he goes to AA meetings.Please, he got kicked out of a high class rehab that was given to him ($7500 gift)for taking a pill his own sister brought him. As for my daughter, she works full time and is going to school part time and I watch the kids.
Ok, I've been a teen mentor for many many years and I see that you probably have fallen back and forth a couple of times before you decided what it is in life you want. Am I right? Now you are definitely on the right path but have to convince mom that you have straightened up. Give mom a chance to realize just how you have changed. Don't go out of your way to please her (red flag) just go about your business. She will come around but it will take some time. Don't expect her to believe your word right away.
just go over and talk directly to the mom. even invite her to come to your church one sunday.show her that you are a changed man and that you really love and respect her daughter.
why don't you call up her mom and suggest a dinner together with just you and the mom so you can tell her all this. if her mom refuses, then just explain it on the phone and tell her you really want to see her daughter and you will treat her well.
her mom is just scared that your going to get her daughter into that stuff, or that you will hurt her. once you get the mom to believe that you have given all the bad stuff up, she will start liking you more and more.
good luck, and i know how tough moms can be, so keep trying till it happens.
well i know you probably don't want to do this but you are going to have to ';kiss-***'; for a while to her mom. like complement her tell her mom something funny. even bake a cake (or go buy one) and give it to her. after ';kissing-***'; to her mom for a while like 3 months if anything then things should start to be good. even invite your gf and her mom to go to church with you once in a while.
good luck! and i hope things work out. =D
well...there are two things that i can think of
1) have your girlfriend talk to her and ask her if she can start over new with you and go to dinner and stuff and show her that you arent the person she thinks you are
2) you could write her a letter or something explaining how you feel
good luck!
you aren't dating her mom your dating her, and if your gf really likes you she will tell her mom to back off.
Take g f and her Mom to church with you. Maybe she will learn to be a little more forgiving. If you are clean and sober as you say, that is super! It may take some time for Mom to accept you. After all, she is scared to death that you might relapse and get her daughter hooked on drugs. I'm telling you that this is a terrifying possibility to her and two years seems like an eternity to you. For her Mom, it is still not enough time to be sure that your sobriety will last. It may always be an issue ! I have seen people go back to it after they had been clean for years. So, son, whether you like it or not, you are an iffy prospect for a boyfriend. If you can manage , talk to her mom and tell her you understand her concerns. Promise her and yourself you will not live together or marry for 5 more years of sobriety. Then you will have a good chance. Good luck!
Well, I would suggest sitting down with the mom and finding out just exactly she has against you. Then you can tell her yourself how you've changed. Let her know that you realize that you were a screw up in the past, but you have changed for the better. I know it isn't as easy as it sounds, but facing the one you have the problem with is the best way to resolve the problem
the fact that you describe her as ';bitchy'; says that you're probably not as respectful to her as you think you are.
You've got to understand that this her MOM she has a right to be concerned about your past.
All you can do is prove to her you are a different person now through your ACTIONS not what you say. So prove to her that you are who you say you are.
It is a tough one. I was in a similar situation, where I was a compulsive gambler. My mother-in-law (now) had the belief that once a gambler, always a gambler, and that I could not offer her daughter anything. We seperated as well due to her parents interference for about 5 months. The good news is my partner and I have been together 14 years (started dating at 20 yrs old), married, child etc. The bad news was me and her mother never got on for years - we didn't speak for 7 years, but my wife always maintained her faith in me - and that was all that was important to me. Funnily enough the parents are trying to make amends for how abysmally they treated me without getting to know me - even though it is probably a decade too late. I am a professional, good father and a nice person, but I always was - they just didn't want to see it.
I did try to let them get to know me in the past, but they didn't want to, just wanted to undermine me, so I did what was right for me - that was concentrate on me and my partner, and we did just fine. I made my wife know I beared them no ill will, and she should continue her relationship with them, but as they didn't want one with me, I couldn't do much else. You can only do so much yourself - the other party has to be willing to meet half way as well.Advice about gf's mom?
Stand up for her! that's what i say! show her mom that you care for her and it's just rude of her to do that!
Wow, I'm a mom and my daughter is 19 yrs old. I also have a 23 yr old son. Now, take that into the equation when I say what I'm about to say.
My son was also into drugs and alcohol as a teen and getting into trouble. He was really going down the wrong road and then he turned his life around. Married now and has 3 kids, just got a promotion and I'm very proud of him. He lived with his father when he was in trouble as a teen.
My daughter has two babies (19 months and 9 months) the father of the babies is not around but we do know he has to go to court again for breaking in and trespassing and may go to the slammer for at least a year. He doesn't pay for the babies at all. He is hard into drugs and alcohol says he is a changed man because he goes to AA meetings.Please, he got kicked out of a high class rehab that was given to him ($7500 gift)for taking a pill his own sister brought him. As for my daughter, she works full time and is going to school part time and I watch the kids.
Ok, I've been a teen mentor for many many years and I see that you probably have fallen back and forth a couple of times before you decided what it is in life you want. Am I right? Now you are definitely on the right path but have to convince mom that you have straightened up. Give mom a chance to realize just how you have changed. Don't go out of your way to please her (red flag) just go about your business. She will come around but it will take some time. Don't expect her to believe your word right away.
just go over and talk directly to the mom. even invite her to come to your church one sunday.show her that you are a changed man and that you really love and respect her daughter.
why don't you call up her mom and suggest a dinner together with just you and the mom so you can tell her all this. if her mom refuses, then just explain it on the phone and tell her you really want to see her daughter and you will treat her well.
her mom is just scared that your going to get her daughter into that stuff, or that you will hurt her. once you get the mom to believe that you have given all the bad stuff up, she will start liking you more and more.
good luck, and i know how tough moms can be, so keep trying till it happens.
well i know you probably don't want to do this but you are going to have to ';kiss-***'; for a while to her mom. like complement her tell her mom something funny. even bake a cake (or go buy one) and give it to her. after ';kissing-***'; to her mom for a while like 3 months if anything then things should start to be good. even invite your gf and her mom to go to church with you once in a while.
good luck! and i hope things work out. =D
well...there are two things that i can think of
1) have your girlfriend talk to her and ask her if she can start over new with you and go to dinner and stuff and show her that you arent the person she thinks you are
2) you could write her a letter or something explaining how you feel
good luck!
you aren't dating her mom your dating her, and if your gf really likes you she will tell her mom to back off.
Take g f and her Mom to church with you. Maybe she will learn to be a little more forgiving. If you are clean and sober as you say, that is super! It may take some time for Mom to accept you. After all, she is scared to death that you might relapse and get her daughter hooked on drugs. I'm telling you that this is a terrifying possibility to her and two years seems like an eternity to you. For her Mom, it is still not enough time to be sure that your sobriety will last. It may always be an issue ! I have seen people go back to it after they had been clean for years. So, son, whether you like it or not, you are an iffy prospect for a boyfriend. If you can manage , talk to her mom and tell her you understand her concerns. Promise her and yourself you will not live together or marry for 5 more years of sobriety. Then you will have a good chance. Good luck!
Well, I would suggest sitting down with the mom and finding out just exactly she has against you. Then you can tell her yourself how you've changed. Let her know that you realize that you were a screw up in the past, but you have changed for the better. I know it isn't as easy as it sounds, but facing the one you have the problem with is the best way to resolve the problem
the fact that you describe her as ';bitchy'; says that you're probably not as respectful to her as you think you are.
You've got to understand that this her MOM she has a right to be concerned about your past.
All you can do is prove to her you are a different person now through your ACTIONS not what you say. So prove to her that you are who you say you are.
Advice about a girl needed?
ok ill get strait to it, she is a girl that is way out of my leuge. as in shes a cheerleader, she is defintly beutiful, very popular...you get my point. she is only in 8th grade. im in 10th grade and am slightly chubby, i play football but im not exactly the best, and have mild acne that makes m very nervous everywhere i go. i have only talked to her once on a.i.m. and we had a decent convrsation...i wont ever have a chance to just walk up to her and talk so im gonna tal to her on aim more, i would like to get advice on what i could say to her on aim or how i should act...if anyone has ANY advice i would greatly appriciate it,thank youAdvice about a girl needed?
1. be yourself
2. see if there's something she needs ie help with a class you've taken before
3. be a friend--try to put aside how beautiful and popular she is and get to know her personality--she will definitely pick up on that and appreciate it. If she's a great person then you'll have a great friend. If not, you'll know to back off.
4. Take it slow. The school year seems to rush on by but good things take time. She's in the eighth grade and probably lives in your area. If she's all that, she's worth taking the time to get closer to.
5. Don't lose sight of all the other cool girls that you could be hanging out with. Don't focus all your attentions on this one girl. There might be someone really great who's waiting for you to notice her. She's not going to come right up to you at lunch and start a conversation but she's going to stand right where you can see her.
All the things you've mentioned are mutable
cheerleaders sometimes drop out of the squad because they are overworked
football players sometimes get hurt (although I hope that doesn't happen to you).
Also once you're out of highschool, being on the football team or being a cheerleader doesn't matter that much any more. But having a great friendship that maybe became something more is a really beautiful thing.
Good LuckAdvice about a girl needed?
try to get a girl thats in ur league
You are worried way to much about the way you look, when the right girl comes along she won't care about what you look like but will look past it and see the real you inside and besides most of the time we look better then what we think we do so you probably aren't that bad. Just take a chance and start talking to her give her a compliment. Good luck
isnt there a saying thats like ';you need to love yourself, before loving others'; ..something like that...
what i mean is, maybe you should take it slow with her for a while and then start talking more with her once you are more comfortable and secure with yourself.
whatever you do, dont blurt your feelings out too fast, be her friend first.
You are in 10th grade so that gives you some advantage.
It sounds like you've really built this girl up in your mind to be some kind of untouchable God-like figure.
She's a cheerleader and pretty, so you assume that she's out of your league. As a man of 44, I've learned that the quickest way to solve any problem is to first get the facts.
You won't be able to get the facts talking to her through aim.
You can save yourself a LOT of time and emotional energy by doing the thing that most terrifies you and that is getting yourself in a position where you will be around her.
Whether it's at lunch or walking down the hallway at school.
You need to look her in the eye and say 'Hello' and see if she says 'Hello' back. That's it. Just say 'hello'.
That should be your goal.
The way that she responds to your 'hello' will tell you TONS of data about her and her thoughts about you.
If she wants to talk more to you, it's a good sign.
You can mention that you enjoyed the talk you shared with her on aim recently.
You see my friend, if it is your goal to have her as your girlfriend, you're gonna have to practice talking to her in-person.
It's possible that she already likes you and is waiting for you to ask her out.
Walk tall and employ good posture as you walk near her.
One more thing; she may be pretty and popular, but she is a person with feelings about stuff. There are things about her looks that she doesn't like.
Okay, final bit of advice:
Once she's your girlfriend, find out what her dreams %26amp; goals are in life and help her to achieve them.
If she likes art, for example, take her to the art museum for a date. Show interest in what's important to her.
You don't have to lie to her and say that you like art if you really don't. She will appreciate that you are interested in her being happy. She will feel really loved and supported by your gesture.
Good luck!
Just say what comes to your mind. If you have talked to her online, she probably wouldn't care about how fat or how much acne you have. So what if she's a cheerleader. My sister's a cheerleader and she's the same like me. Be confident and say what's on your mind. Who cares about acne? Be a man. You can ask her online or face to face. Act like you do to your friends. She will probably understand and say yes right away. Be brave and give it a shot. Good luck!!!
First of all why do you think she is out of your league? Just remember to a female, looks are something but its not EVERYTHING. You can be unattractive but if you have the right personality, it will make her attracted to you.
You have to show her that you have personality. Don't be so serious, try to make her laugh and at the same time get to know her a little better by asking her questions about herself. Remember to let her do most of the talking and you do most of the listening. The only thing you do is ask her questions, so of like a interview. She will give you ';hints'; on what to talk about. All you have to do is listen.
Well, if you don't know her that well, it seems like you're just interested because she's beautiful. If you talk about your likes and dislikes, morals in life, all that jazz.. then you at least have a genuine liking for her, and that's a good start.
well
if u like her
get to know her more
but
u should definitely talk to her in person
get to know her hobbies...what does she like or dislike
get some pro-active or face cream to help out the acne
be urself
thats how to get to a girls heart.....dont act like someone else
I would just act yourself and try to become her friend. Once yall have talked alot and become better friends it might seem easier to let her know how you feel about her.
i think you should tell her in person, but if you insisit on telling her over the computer, i think you should be urself, and stop doubting your possibilities. tell her how you fel (which you already are) but say it with confidence. you never know, maybe she sees you as someone who she would like to be with. don't ever doubt yourself, and thin about that while your telling her.
just ask her questions about herself, and what shes up to in school. make sure to tell her about yourself too, to avoid looking creepy. She prolly likes talking to you just because its fun to know that a person 2 grades older than you is interested in talking to you. good luck with her, just be yourself :)
Populr w h o r e, congratulation. Maybe you should look at real women? Move out of country for that.
Don't date an 8th grade girl. She is in middle school, you are in high school. Seriously, you're a football player, so I bet you could find a 9th, 10th, or 11th grade girl who would date you somewhere in the world besides a little 8th grader. :D Anyway, if you did date her, it could give her bad ideas for later on in life...do you want her dating 30-year-olds when she's in 11th grade or something? Then I suggest you stay away.
1. be yourself
2. see if there's something she needs ie help with a class you've taken before
3. be a friend--try to put aside how beautiful and popular she is and get to know her personality--she will definitely pick up on that and appreciate it. If she's a great person then you'll have a great friend. If not, you'll know to back off.
4. Take it slow. The school year seems to rush on by but good things take time. She's in the eighth grade and probably lives in your area. If she's all that, she's worth taking the time to get closer to.
5. Don't lose sight of all the other cool girls that you could be hanging out with. Don't focus all your attentions on this one girl. There might be someone really great who's waiting for you to notice her. She's not going to come right up to you at lunch and start a conversation but she's going to stand right where you can see her.
All the things you've mentioned are mutable
cheerleaders sometimes drop out of the squad because they are overworked
football players sometimes get hurt (although I hope that doesn't happen to you).
Also once you're out of highschool, being on the football team or being a cheerleader doesn't matter that much any more. But having a great friendship that maybe became something more is a really beautiful thing.
Good LuckAdvice about a girl needed?
try to get a girl thats in ur league
You are worried way to much about the way you look, when the right girl comes along she won't care about what you look like but will look past it and see the real you inside and besides most of the time we look better then what we think we do so you probably aren't that bad. Just take a chance and start talking to her give her a compliment. Good luck
isnt there a saying thats like ';you need to love yourself, before loving others'; ..something like that...
what i mean is, maybe you should take it slow with her for a while and then start talking more with her once you are more comfortable and secure with yourself.
whatever you do, dont blurt your feelings out too fast, be her friend first.
You are in 10th grade so that gives you some advantage.
It sounds like you've really built this girl up in your mind to be some kind of untouchable God-like figure.
She's a cheerleader and pretty, so you assume that she's out of your league. As a man of 44, I've learned that the quickest way to solve any problem is to first get the facts.
You won't be able to get the facts talking to her through aim.
You can save yourself a LOT of time and emotional energy by doing the thing that most terrifies you and that is getting yourself in a position where you will be around her.
Whether it's at lunch or walking down the hallway at school.
You need to look her in the eye and say 'Hello' and see if she says 'Hello' back. That's it. Just say 'hello'.
That should be your goal.
The way that she responds to your 'hello' will tell you TONS of data about her and her thoughts about you.
If she wants to talk more to you, it's a good sign.
You can mention that you enjoyed the talk you shared with her on aim recently.
You see my friend, if it is your goal to have her as your girlfriend, you're gonna have to practice talking to her in-person.
It's possible that she already likes you and is waiting for you to ask her out.
Walk tall and employ good posture as you walk near her.
One more thing; she may be pretty and popular, but she is a person with feelings about stuff. There are things about her looks that she doesn't like.
Okay, final bit of advice:
Once she's your girlfriend, find out what her dreams %26amp; goals are in life and help her to achieve them.
If she likes art, for example, take her to the art museum for a date. Show interest in what's important to her.
You don't have to lie to her and say that you like art if you really don't. She will appreciate that you are interested in her being happy. She will feel really loved and supported by your gesture.
Good luck!
Just say what comes to your mind. If you have talked to her online, she probably wouldn't care about how fat or how much acne you have. So what if she's a cheerleader. My sister's a cheerleader and she's the same like me. Be confident and say what's on your mind. Who cares about acne? Be a man. You can ask her online or face to face. Act like you do to your friends. She will probably understand and say yes right away. Be brave and give it a shot. Good luck!!!
First of all why do you think she is out of your league? Just remember to a female, looks are something but its not EVERYTHING. You can be unattractive but if you have the right personality, it will make her attracted to you.
You have to show her that you have personality. Don't be so serious, try to make her laugh and at the same time get to know her a little better by asking her questions about herself. Remember to let her do most of the talking and you do most of the listening. The only thing you do is ask her questions, so of like a interview. She will give you ';hints'; on what to talk about. All you have to do is listen.
Well, if you don't know her that well, it seems like you're just interested because she's beautiful. If you talk about your likes and dislikes, morals in life, all that jazz.. then you at least have a genuine liking for her, and that's a good start.
well
if u like her
get to know her more
but
u should definitely talk to her in person
get to know her hobbies...what does she like or dislike
get some pro-active or face cream to help out the acne
be urself
thats how to get to a girls heart.....dont act like someone else
I would just act yourself and try to become her friend. Once yall have talked alot and become better friends it might seem easier to let her know how you feel about her.
i think you should tell her in person, but if you insisit on telling her over the computer, i think you should be urself, and stop doubting your possibilities. tell her how you fel (which you already are) but say it with confidence. you never know, maybe she sees you as someone who she would like to be with. don't ever doubt yourself, and thin about that while your telling her.
just ask her questions about herself, and what shes up to in school. make sure to tell her about yourself too, to avoid looking creepy. She prolly likes talking to you just because its fun to know that a person 2 grades older than you is interested in talking to you. good luck with her, just be yourself :)
Populr w h o r e, congratulation. Maybe you should look at real women? Move out of country for that.
Don't date an 8th grade girl. She is in middle school, you are in high school. Seriously, you're a football player, so I bet you could find a 9th, 10th, or 11th grade girl who would date you somewhere in the world besides a little 8th grader. :D Anyway, if you did date her, it could give her bad ideas for later on in life...do you want her dating 30-year-olds when she's in 11th grade or something? Then I suggest you stay away.
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