Advice about my dad needed...?

my dad and i used to be terribly close...we were two nerds in a pod...we hung out and had fun and it was great, until my parents got a divorce...now my dad tiwsts his plans with me so that it can fit his other agendas and makes no consideration of my feelings...he recently got remarried to a woman that has a 7 year old daughter...he spends all of his time with them and only asks me to come hang out when he needs help with things like moving in and babysitting...i just want to get my relationship with my father back, or at least make him understand how i feel. though everytime i try to talk to him about it, he twists my words to make it better fit him. please, i need help figuring it out, and my mom only talks about how he doesnt think, but doesnt give me any real advice.Advice about my dad needed...?
He feels the responsibility of making his new extended family happy and content. He is in a whole new world, apart from the one he left behind.





Be upfront with him. Make time when it is just the two of you and no one can interfere. Tell him exactly what you did here, talk to him from you're heart. He will either see the need you have or he won't. But at least you tried.





He more than likely has lost no love for you. he is just wrapped up in a whole new life now and has a new wife to please.Advice about my dad needed...?
Hi Elizabeth! Sorry you are going thru this with your dad. Please consider sitting down with him, and his new wife. Let them know that you are happy with them, and the little girl. That you would like to spend time doing things together-not babysitting, or helping them move. And, while you are at it, let it be known that you miss and would really appreciate time for just you and your dad-like once a month or so. Once a month at the least.


Meanwhile, and,along with that, please ask your mom to get you into some good counseling. Not a school counselor, one who is professional outside of school. You need someone who is impartial to talk with about this, and even maybe will talk with your dad and his wife about the importance of you needing time with him doing fun things, etc.


I truly hope things work out for you. I wish you the best. Take care.
i tink that if u know wen he's off or something i tink that u should just ask him for u two to have like father-daughter fun time or maybe that but with the new family


cuz since he was ur dad, his new family is kind of urs too...so one u should learn to appreciate them and actually connect with them too...and wen u talk to him...like if u want to say how u rlly feel and since he's like ur bestfriend and all just tell him wat u rlly feel and tell him not to twist the words bcuz this is the truth
Oh, your breaking my heart! :( Adults have a hard time listening to their kids tell them what they are doing wrong, so they tend to turn things around which really is just making excuses to ease their own guilt.... I am sure your father notices the change in the relationship, but doesn't quite know how to fix it. Now that there are 2 other people involved in the situation, it just makes finding a solution a little more cloudy. Give your dad a little time to adjust to having to share his time w/ new wife and you. It can be difficult at first, but he will work it out. In the mean time, let him know that you really miss him and wish that you guys could be close again. Your dad loves you very much.. divorce can be tough, but in time things will get better. Keep your head up, you sound like a very mature young lady!!!!
it is so hard to imagine the thoughts a child thinks when faced with a growing problem today.The twisting of words is very common. Words are made that way to express ideals and grownups and parents with children sometimes fail to see what they are saying in the eyes of the child. understanding the different ways of words will help you someday. Pray that the light of this question shines down upon your Father and he is capable of re securing his future with his daughter early in life.

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