Im deploying soon worried about my kids ADVICE pls esp vets thanx?

so worried about leaving them I feel as if its abandonementIm deploying soon worried about my kids ADVICE pls esp vets thanx?
You are no different than any one else who has deployed. You will have hardships as has everyone else who has deployed. You knew this is what may happen when you joined the military, so you will have the support of everyone else over here who is in the same boat as you are.


Vet USAFIm deploying soon worried about my kids ADVICE pls esp vets thanx?
First off, I hope you have a dependent care certificate on file. I was in the Navy for 10 years and fortunately only did two cruises, but it did wreak havoc on my kids. They were 5 and 3 when I left. They cried everyday when I was gone. Drove my husband crazy. Oldest had to see the school pyschologist. I know sounds like a horror story but the next six month cruise 13 months later was a little smoother. Talk to your kids about it openly. Cherish them while you are here. Have the most fun as possble. Tell them you will be able to write and call them and they can do the same(if these are school age kids). You are not abandoning your kids b/c your job is the military, but you may want to consider whether or not you can continue with your military obligation while trying to raise a family. The military says they are all about family but many times they are not. It is all about ';THE MISSION';.
bring plenty of DVD's, take plenty of pictures, take online classes, go to the gym, and most importantly mind your own business. Good Luck
as a air force brat, I did not feel abandoned, We grew tighter waiting for corrospondence. We updated by tape and letter.


I was proud of my ol man.


As a vet, I thank you for your service and God Bless you and your family
just explain that what you are doing is something they can be proud of. That you are doing this for their and everyones future. That you wouldn't be doing this if everyone didn't depend on you for your service. Yes your going to miss your kids and they are going to miss you its going to be hard. But if they know how important your job is and how so many people depend on you they will be so proud of you and understand. Even if they are young, when they get older they will appreciate what you did for you country and your kids!!!





Just keep in touch as mush as permitted and let them know that you'll be in there thoughts every waking moment and your thoughts of them is what will be bringing you home!!








I'm not a vet nor of any military background, but if my parents/family were deployed and they told me this I would understand! (I'm 22 now but!)
Not to be harsh but you did know when you enlisted that you would deploy. If you were worried about leaving your children, you shouldn't have enlisted! Talk with your children about it, children are more resilient than you know. They will be fine and so will you. Parents deploy all the time and thier children are no worse for it. It actually makes them stronger. My husband has been to Iraq times and my son is just fine and so am I :0)
its not...this si hard because right now you are going through so much ...talk to them tell them, mom has to go work for a while but that you love them..really no matter what you say..you will feel you didnt say enough. I have been there, it will be hard.