Advice about gf's mom?

ok so my gf and i just got together after about 3 months apart. her moms bitchin was the original reason we split the first place. the reason her mom is bitchin so much is b/c she found out i have a pretty bad past. i have done drugs and been arrested twice. since then i have comletely changed my life i quit drinkin and have been off drugs for well over 2yrs. i go to church and have become very active there. my life is so much better w/ out all that other junk of my past life. so ne ways my gf is 18 soon to be 19 and i have just turned 22. i personaly believe that she should be able to see who she wishes to see, but her mom dosent quite see it that way. her mom makes her life a living hell when she even mentions my name, let alone tells her we are back together.so the question is: how can i get in her moms good graces, so that she will approve of her daughter seein me. thank u for ur time and God bless u all.Advice about gf's mom?
It is a tough one. I was in a similar situation, where I was a compulsive gambler. My mother-in-law (now) had the belief that once a gambler, always a gambler, and that I could not offer her daughter anything. We seperated as well due to her parents interference for about 5 months. The good news is my partner and I have been together 14 years (started dating at 20 yrs old), married, child etc. The bad news was me and her mother never got on for years - we didn't speak for 7 years, but my wife always maintained her faith in me - and that was all that was important to me. Funnily enough the parents are trying to make amends for how abysmally they treated me without getting to know me - even though it is probably a decade too late. I am a professional, good father and a nice person, but I always was - they just didn't want to see it.





I did try to let them get to know me in the past, but they didn't want to, just wanted to undermine me, so I did what was right for me - that was concentrate on me and my partner, and we did just fine. I made my wife know I beared them no ill will, and she should continue her relationship with them, but as they didn't want one with me, I couldn't do much else. You can only do so much yourself - the other party has to be willing to meet half way as well.Advice about gf's mom?
Stand up for her! that's what i say! show her mom that you care for her and it's just rude of her to do that!
Wow, I'm a mom and my daughter is 19 yrs old. I also have a 23 yr old son. Now, take that into the equation when I say what I'm about to say.





My son was also into drugs and alcohol as a teen and getting into trouble. He was really going down the wrong road and then he turned his life around. Married now and has 3 kids, just got a promotion and I'm very proud of him. He lived with his father when he was in trouble as a teen.





My daughter has two babies (19 months and 9 months) the father of the babies is not around but we do know he has to go to court again for breaking in and trespassing and may go to the slammer for at least a year. He doesn't pay for the babies at all. He is hard into drugs and alcohol says he is a changed man because he goes to AA meetings.Please, he got kicked out of a high class rehab that was given to him ($7500 gift)for taking a pill his own sister brought him. As for my daughter, she works full time and is going to school part time and I watch the kids.





Ok, I've been a teen mentor for many many years and I see that you probably have fallen back and forth a couple of times before you decided what it is in life you want. Am I right? Now you are definitely on the right path but have to convince mom that you have straightened up. Give mom a chance to realize just how you have changed. Don't go out of your way to please her (red flag) just go about your business. She will come around but it will take some time. Don't expect her to believe your word right away.
just go over and talk directly to the mom. even invite her to come to your church one sunday.show her that you are a changed man and that you really love and respect her daughter.
why don't you call up her mom and suggest a dinner together with just you and the mom so you can tell her all this. if her mom refuses, then just explain it on the phone and tell her you really want to see her daughter and you will treat her well.





her mom is just scared that your going to get her daughter into that stuff, or that you will hurt her. once you get the mom to believe that you have given all the bad stuff up, she will start liking you more and more.





good luck, and i know how tough moms can be, so keep trying till it happens.
well i know you probably don't want to do this but you are going to have to ';kiss-***'; for a while to her mom. like complement her tell her mom something funny. even bake a cake (or go buy one) and give it to her. after ';kissing-***'; to her mom for a while like 3 months if anything then things should start to be good. even invite your gf and her mom to go to church with you once in a while.





good luck! and i hope things work out. =D
well...there are two things that i can think of





1) have your girlfriend talk to her and ask her if she can start over new with you and go to dinner and stuff and show her that you arent the person she thinks you are





2) you could write her a letter or something explaining how you feel





good luck!
you aren't dating her mom your dating her, and if your gf really likes you she will tell her mom to back off.
Take g f and her Mom to church with you. Maybe she will learn to be a little more forgiving. If you are clean and sober as you say, that is super! It may take some time for Mom to accept you. After all, she is scared to death that you might relapse and get her daughter hooked on drugs. I'm telling you that this is a terrifying possibility to her and two years seems like an eternity to you. For her Mom, it is still not enough time to be sure that your sobriety will last. It may always be an issue ! I have seen people go back to it after they had been clean for years. So, son, whether you like it or not, you are an iffy prospect for a boyfriend. If you can manage , talk to her mom and tell her you understand her concerns. Promise her and yourself you will not live together or marry for 5 more years of sobriety. Then you will have a good chance. Good luck!
Well, I would suggest sitting down with the mom and finding out just exactly she has against you. Then you can tell her yourself how you've changed. Let her know that you realize that you were a screw up in the past, but you have changed for the better. I know it isn't as easy as it sounds, but facing the one you have the problem with is the best way to resolve the problem
the fact that you describe her as ';bitchy'; says that you're probably not as respectful to her as you think you are.





You've got to understand that this her MOM she has a right to be concerned about your past.





All you can do is prove to her you are a different person now through your ACTIONS not what you say. So prove to her that you are who you say you are.