I need some advice about my friend...?

I have been friends with ';Joanie'; since HS.We have always been close and still talked and hung out even when she was at college 2 hrs away.Shes back in town, and is dating one of my husbands friends ';Jim';. They have been together 6 months and have lived togetherfrom the beginning. Now Joanie never does anything but hang out with Jim. When my husband and I were dating, I still talked to her all the time, and we even included her in things we did as a couple. Even now that we are married, we still always did things together, til her and Jim got together. Now she just seems really self-centered, like she doesnt need or want anyone else now. This is her 1st serious relationship. She wouldnt come out with me on my bday unless Jim was going to. She came over at the last minute and said ';sorry, i couldnt afford to get you anythin, btw, check out my new outfit.';Not that i care, but still. Should I confront her, leave it be and accept that shes not a tru friend, or what? i feel used.I need some advice about my friend...?
My best friend was like this all the time. Whenever he got into a new relationship he would always disappear for months and not do anything with me. Then, like clockwork, when the first major fights started between him and his gf, my phone would ring. The last time this happened I totally called him out on it. When he broke up with the latest girl I told him never to treat me like this again, that it is rude and not ';best friend.'; Sure enough, he met another girl. The phone stopped ringing. I stopped calling. it's been over a year since we've spoke and I don't miss him anymore.I need some advice about my friend...?
Life's life. It's not always easy.
People change. Maybe she'll change back, but don't make any long range plans with her.





It might be a phase she's going through, because of the new change in her life of having a first serious relationship. Maybe she feels she was an imposition on you and your guy now that she knows what it's like to be with her guy. This might be causing her to feel guilty and so she distances herself from you to avoid reconciling her guilt. There may be more there, ask your husband if ';Jim'; has said anything about it.
well, part of the problem is you bought her something you couldn't afford for her birthday.


how can she keep up with someone so desperate to be a friend?


a simple, thoughtful, and inexpensive gift would have been appropriate.


if you give the gift of friendship to someone how does that entitle you to require a particular response? she is the way she is.