ok ill get strait to it, she is a girl that is way out of my leuge. as in shes a cheerleader, she is defintly beutiful, very popular...you get my point. she is only in 8th grade. im in 10th grade and am slightly chubby, i play football but im not exactly the best, and have mild acne that makes m very nervous everywhere i go. i have only talked to her once on a.i.m. and we had a decent convrsation...i wont ever have a chance to just walk up to her and talk so im gonna tal to her on aim more, i would like to get advice on what i could say to her on aim or how i should act...if anyone has ANY advice i would greatly appriciate it,thank youAdvice about a girl needed?
1. be yourself
2. see if there's something she needs ie help with a class you've taken before
3. be a friend--try to put aside how beautiful and popular she is and get to know her personality--she will definitely pick up on that and appreciate it. If she's a great person then you'll have a great friend. If not, you'll know to back off.
4. Take it slow. The school year seems to rush on by but good things take time. She's in the eighth grade and probably lives in your area. If she's all that, she's worth taking the time to get closer to.
5. Don't lose sight of all the other cool girls that you could be hanging out with. Don't focus all your attentions on this one girl. There might be someone really great who's waiting for you to notice her. She's not going to come right up to you at lunch and start a conversation but she's going to stand right where you can see her.
All the things you've mentioned are mutable
cheerleaders sometimes drop out of the squad because they are overworked
football players sometimes get hurt (although I hope that doesn't happen to you).
Also once you're out of highschool, being on the football team or being a cheerleader doesn't matter that much any more. But having a great friendship that maybe became something more is a really beautiful thing.
Good LuckAdvice about a girl needed?
try to get a girl thats in ur league
You are worried way to much about the way you look, when the right girl comes along she won't care about what you look like but will look past it and see the real you inside and besides most of the time we look better then what we think we do so you probably aren't that bad. Just take a chance and start talking to her give her a compliment. Good luck
isnt there a saying thats like ';you need to love yourself, before loving others'; ..something like that...
what i mean is, maybe you should take it slow with her for a while and then start talking more with her once you are more comfortable and secure with yourself.
whatever you do, dont blurt your feelings out too fast, be her friend first.
You are in 10th grade so that gives you some advantage.
It sounds like you've really built this girl up in your mind to be some kind of untouchable God-like figure.
She's a cheerleader and pretty, so you assume that she's out of your league. As a man of 44, I've learned that the quickest way to solve any problem is to first get the facts.
You won't be able to get the facts talking to her through aim.
You can save yourself a LOT of time and emotional energy by doing the thing that most terrifies you and that is getting yourself in a position where you will be around her.
Whether it's at lunch or walking down the hallway at school.
You need to look her in the eye and say 'Hello' and see if she says 'Hello' back. That's it. Just say 'hello'.
That should be your goal.
The way that she responds to your 'hello' will tell you TONS of data about her and her thoughts about you.
If she wants to talk more to you, it's a good sign.
You can mention that you enjoyed the talk you shared with her on aim recently.
You see my friend, if it is your goal to have her as your girlfriend, you're gonna have to practice talking to her in-person.
It's possible that she already likes you and is waiting for you to ask her out.
Walk tall and employ good posture as you walk near her.
One more thing; she may be pretty and popular, but she is a person with feelings about stuff. There are things about her looks that she doesn't like.
Okay, final bit of advice:
Once she's your girlfriend, find out what her dreams %26amp; goals are in life and help her to achieve them.
If she likes art, for example, take her to the art museum for a date. Show interest in what's important to her.
You don't have to lie to her and say that you like art if you really don't. She will appreciate that you are interested in her being happy. She will feel really loved and supported by your gesture.
Good luck!
Just say what comes to your mind. If you have talked to her online, she probably wouldn't care about how fat or how much acne you have. So what if she's a cheerleader. My sister's a cheerleader and she's the same like me. Be confident and say what's on your mind. Who cares about acne? Be a man. You can ask her online or face to face. Act like you do to your friends. She will probably understand and say yes right away. Be brave and give it a shot. Good luck!!!
First of all why do you think she is out of your league? Just remember to a female, looks are something but its not EVERYTHING. You can be unattractive but if you have the right personality, it will make her attracted to you.
You have to show her that you have personality. Don't be so serious, try to make her laugh and at the same time get to know her a little better by asking her questions about herself. Remember to let her do most of the talking and you do most of the listening. The only thing you do is ask her questions, so of like a interview. She will give you ';hints'; on what to talk about. All you have to do is listen.
Well, if you don't know her that well, it seems like you're just interested because she's beautiful. If you talk about your likes and dislikes, morals in life, all that jazz.. then you at least have a genuine liking for her, and that's a good start.
well
if u like her
get to know her more
but
u should definitely talk to her in person
get to know her hobbies...what does she like or dislike
get some pro-active or face cream to help out the acne
be urself
thats how to get to a girls heart.....dont act like someone else
I would just act yourself and try to become her friend. Once yall have talked alot and become better friends it might seem easier to let her know how you feel about her.
i think you should tell her in person, but if you insisit on telling her over the computer, i think you should be urself, and stop doubting your possibilities. tell her how you fel (which you already are) but say it with confidence. you never know, maybe she sees you as someone who she would like to be with. don't ever doubt yourself, and thin about that while your telling her.
just ask her questions about herself, and what shes up to in school. make sure to tell her about yourself too, to avoid looking creepy. She prolly likes talking to you just because its fun to know that a person 2 grades older than you is interested in talking to you. good luck with her, just be yourself :)
Populr w h o r e, congratulation. Maybe you should look at real women? Move out of country for that.
Don't date an 8th grade girl. She is in middle school, you are in high school. Seriously, you're a football player, so I bet you could find a 9th, 10th, or 11th grade girl who would date you somewhere in the world besides a little 8th grader. :D Anyway, if you did date her, it could give her bad ideas for later on in life...do you want her dating 30-year-olds when she's in 11th grade or something? Then I suggest you stay away.
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