Saturday, July 31, 2010

Need advice about boyfriend?

well, we've been together for 7 months now, and he can be really sweet to me, but sometimes he's not. tonight, before he left on a trip where he'd be gone for 10 days i told him i'd miss him, and all he said was he'd miss me for the most part. also, he tells me that sometimes he's uncomfortable around me, but he has no idea why. when we talked about it more, he said that on one side he's feeling restless, but on the other side he's thinking ';i hope i don't screw this up, please don't let me screw this up.'; so what's he saying with all this? what should i do when i talk to him next?Need advice about boyfriend?
There is no problem with you two. He is restless like an old fasioned sailor. After a while he has to go somewhere alone, or with mates. But then, he is happy to arrive home to you. He is right: you should not let him screw up your relationship. The best is that if you can also find some activities out of your common life.Need advice about boyfriend?
be yourself and make sure that you are relaxed and calm when talking to him.
While he's gone, go and read ';Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.'; Feeling restless means he needs cave time, but he's not taking it because he knows that'll screw things up. All guys need cave time, and they need permission from their women to take it. The way to make things work is for you to tell him that it's perfectly ok for him to have cave time, that you'll be happy to see him when he comes out, but you need him to tell you that's what he's doing so you don't worry. ';Cave time'; can be 10 day trips like the one he's on now, or it can be playing computer games in the next room. Don't punish him for it. To punish a guy for needing and taking cave time is like punishing a girl for talking. Though there was that time when my hubby was so stressed at work that all he did was work and sit in his cave. I threatened to buy it and only rent it to him on short term leases! He laughed and went back to his role playing game books :) The better quality permission you give (meaning the less grudgingly you give it) the shorter he will need to be in there.
wha the........i dont know.....ask him if he really wants to be with u

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