Advice about grief?

My partner's mother died several years ago (over 10 years ago) and he acts as if everone around him (who knows him) should be sensitve to this fact....very sensitive. I understand that sometimes the grief doesn't go away but to expect everyone around you to walk on egg shells in relation to this subject is very tricky for me.Has anyone ever had an experience that is similar? How can I deal with it to show support but not to pander to him. Any sincere comments - appreciated.Advice about grief?
Well it sounds like he was close to his mother. Thats to be expected. I kinda went through the same thing. Only thing that helped me was talking about it. Talking about it makes it real. You begin to understand that the person you love is no longer there. Its hard as hell, but it may work. If I didnt make it real I never would have believed that my dad died. Even though I held his hand as he died, I still would have not believed it. But try to talk to him about it. Small stuff at first. The good times. Then slowly move up to her death. Now if he was like me he is going to get pissed. Its just part of it. But start slow and work your way up. 10 years is along time, but he knew her his whole life. It wont be fixed overnight so be prepared for a looooong road ahead.Advice about grief?
SUCH grief never goes away. and never you want to live again after realizing where HE is and where YOU are. The grief goes away when you are around people who feel the same grief about being away from Him because they are also kind and generous and nice and smiley, and soft and all-survivors and victims of this other group of ignorant,proud, egoistic and harmful people.Sometimes the grief goes away or He shows the way to numb THE ORIGINAL GRIEF but otherwise, you live with it always, all the time and people in grief are sensitive, compassionate to others in grief, non-ambitious, all-understanding.......You must let her go. And what is even worse, accept that it is THEIR decision what will happen with her. You had your chance, He sent her to you to save and protect her, to help her maybe do some good for the same kind as she is.....but you missed it. Stop suffocating her for what you have missed, she has no strong self defense system. But weak self defense system is not for people like you. She has been kept like this for others, for the weak and suffering, not for you or the one in whose hands you placed this precious diamond that was given to you for such a short but amazing time. Let her go. In every sense.
Maybe ask him something personal about her, something that more then likely, the answer would be funny. And have a laugh about it....he should after 10 years, be able to talk about her. Or maybe he needs to see a counseler to talk about her and him not being able to let go. Ask him if there is anything you can do to help with the grief process.
to be perfectly blunt, he wants the attention. to truly honor the memory of a loved one is to remember the person with positive energy and not be critical of others for not giving him that attention. you should --- above all --- not be subject to such selfish behavior... the issues are with him, not others... move on, too much drama
Grief Counseling or a Support Group....maybe there are unresolved issues leaving your partner without closure.
he's PLAYING you and I wouldn't put up with being played like that by anyone.


Stand up to his games!