Thursday, July 29, 2010

Any advice about what to do about my husband?

Hi My husband has a mental illness and takes medications, But he will not do anything all he does is sit on the corner of the couch and watch TV or play video games all day. He does take and pick up the kids from school. But Im concerned because he used to be 120 lbs when I met him and now is 225 and has high blood pressure, high triglycerides, high cholesterol, and liver problems. He does not drink and smoke any more so that's good. But my problem is that He does not care of what he eats. I have to tell him no! that's not good. or else he will eat, In N out every time we eat out. Im frustrated and need some help! I am also overweight but I have had 4 kids and do not eat at all like him. I feel he just dont care any more.Its so hard for him to clean the car and the garage! its all full of trash now!!! I love him and we have been together for 7 years. So what can I do???Any advice about what to do about my husband?
It is up to you to provide healthy food for you family. Buy fresh vegetables and fruits. Ask your Dr. for a good family diet. It sounds like you are all headed for health problems unless you learn how to eat right. If you are the one preparing the meals, you need to learn how to cook healthy and nutritious meals. No more junk food. And don't eat out if he can't control himself. Tell him that you will have to hire someone to clean the car and the garage. You can probably get teenagers to do it for very little cash.Any advice about what to do about my husband?
At some point he is going to have to start doing things again. I don't know what his diagnosis is but sitting around doing nothing is not good no matter what. I would recommend you see a counselor to find out more on what you should or shouldn't be doing. You don't want to enable him to continue to be this way. He has to want to get better. You can't do all the work. You can't make him better he has to want that. He has to start taking responsibilty for his illness and work on it. See a counselor for yourself.
I would sit down with him for a serious talk, and if that doesn't work, try consoling.

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