Advice About Talking To This Girl?

I'm a freshman in high school and a guy. Theres this girl I like, and I don't know why, but I can't get the balls to just talk to her. I really, really, realllllyy like this girl. I'm fine talking to her through texting and on AIM. I just can't get the balls to talk to her in person. It is really eating at me. We haven't talked on AIM or texting for a while. She recently got a boyfriend. I am kind of upset about this, but it's a good time for me to work on trying to talk to her and become friends. How do I work up the balls to talk to her?Advice About Talking To This Girl?
Well since she has a boyfriend now, keep telling yourself that you shouldn't be flirting with her anyway. This gives you the advantage of calming down and just talking to her as you would talk to any other friend. Lie to yourself and tell yourself you don't like her. Maybe after a while you'll believe it.


Just ask her what she's doing with her boyfriend that weekend, how her classes are going, what she's doing after school, just in general, how she is.


I mean, if you've been talking to her on AIM and texting, you should know her a little bit. So remember stuff she's told you in the past, like if she's a dancer, ask her if she's got a dance recital coming up. If she plays sports, ask her if she has an important game soon.


Just relate to her as you would any other friend.








And def. be there for her when her and her boyfriend break up. =]


Best of luck.Advice About Talking To This Girl?
I think what would help the most is actually to visualize the worst that could possibly happen. Hopefully things will go great, but it is actually your fear of what could go wrong that is holding you back. So you try and talk to her and she blows you off, or says something that hurts your feeling. Well you aren't in a worse off place than you are now, so how bad it is really? Accept that as a possibility and then just go for it, you really have nothing to lose. Plus if you are already talking to her on AIM and texting she obviously likes talking to you. She will have a fight with her new boyfriend sooner or later and being there to listen to her will put you in a great position.
I think you're just getting yourself too worked up about it. She's just a person, even though you've put her on a pedestal, and especially now that she has a boyfriend you don't have to be concerned about getting her to like you romantically. Just say the same things you would texting or on aim, or talk to her like you would any other friend. Don't worry that you'll say something stupid, and try to relax. Don't think about it as something that you have to ';work up the balls'; to do. Let it feel natural.
Well, as ';after-school special'; this might sound, just imagine her as one of your guy friends, or at least someone you feel comfortable talking with. If you've talked to her via texting and aim, and it's apparent you can hold a conversation, there's no reason you can't cross her path and just say something as simple as ';hey, what's up?';
well, you probably should not ask her out while she has a boyfriend because this would make her uncomfortable, but maybe a week or so after her and her boyfriend broke up, start talking to her on aim or text. if you guys seem to hit it off, and you talk a lot during school, then ask her out! its okay if you get rejected..just do it and she might say yes! if you see her in school, and she says hi to you and stuff, or starts conversations with you, thats a sure sign that she likes you. but definitely don't ask her out while her and her boyfriend are together!! that just makes girls feel weird!
Well, this is gonna sound stupid, but just say Hi! It works like this, a greeting is found at the beginning of most conversations, So say something like. ';Hey what have you been up to i haven't talked to you in a while!'; And she'll talk about her self for a while and ask you how you're doing and before you know it you'll have a full fledged conversation. I assume you know some things about her so try to play to her interests. That's a good way to start. Be nice but be yourself.


A side note of advice, if you want to date her make sure you're careful as to not make her like the friendship so much that she doesn't want to risk it by having a relationship. If you want anymore advice just email me. the specifics of the situation re very important but this is the best i can do with the info you have given me,
well first you gotta stop using the word balls =P and next is you just gotta go up there and talk to her.. if your talking to her on aim or texting.. then she wouldnt mind you just walkin up and talkin


like a walk in talk not a talk and text you need to walk to ehr and talk to her .. just get up there and be assertive =D
helllo ,


i would have to say .


start talking to her again on aim .


Then , have one of your friends who is a girl talk to her a little and when there talking one day , walk up to them , and make sure the girl you tell to ask her something or what ever , is someone your are uber comfotable with. This may sound cheesy but you could practice talking to her , then when shes not talking to her boyfriend or after she gets done talking with someone , talk to her . Im in 8th grade 14. but i know were your coming from .


uuhhmm , yuu shouldd talk to me on myspaceee , or aim or what everrr.. ( xxhollixx27)


and then the last part of the myspace thing like after the www.myspace.com/ ( its this part ) picsrperfect








loveee holli
Maybe text her and talk to her on aim more often. If she talks to you more throug electronics she may wanna talk to you more in person. When talking to her, get to know her and don't just say the usual: hey what's up?.


But ask her how she's doing and maybe what the homework was for a class. Find out her hobbies and tell her yours. Then when you talk to her enough through aim and texing then you will feel like you know her well enough to talk to her in person. Trust me, this works.oh And always be ur self too.





I really hope I helped and I wish you the best of luck...


-Lilly :)
if you share any classes you should try to talk to her on the way out of class, just ask her something about the class and try to carry on a conversation from there. try to branch out as soon as you can though, cuz focusing completely on a school subject is kinda lame. try to figure out a mutual interest and talk about that.





another thing you could try is just being a gentlemen whenever you see her, hold open doors, smile at her in the hallways and stuff. that goes a LONG way with us girls.
Aww, that's cute. I think you'll find that once you start talking to her it just kind of flows. Like find something you have in common (sports, classes, etc.) and go from there. Just don't make a move--- she has a boyfriend! But you're a freshman, and freshman relationships never last very long. I guess that's good and bad news for you


Well good luck!
um.. JUST DO IT MAN!!!!


its really super easy, ive never had issues with talking to anyone, but of course, Im on the outgoing side (:


anywho, if I were you I would just go up to her and talk to her.


if shes not a total bi$%h she will talk to you.


and if she doesnt act like she wants anything to do with you-move on!


further advice- just do it.


and if shes got a bf then dont try anything on her until you get to know her better
just go up to her an talk to her..! be yourself. It is you that is talkting to her when you txt and on AIM so this is not any different...





Stir up a conversation, and just let it flow..why dont you try ' i accdidently deleted your number, what was it again? and carry on from there. Just lay of any cheesy lines
Next time you say balls I'm going to punch you. All you can do is be her friend since you were such a pansy a s s and missed your chance. Don't go in between them i mean what if you were in her bf's place. Just continue to be for you and grow some balls.
Just remind yourself, if you don't do it soon, it'll probably never happen.


I was in the exact same situation with a guy when I was a freshman and since I didn't speak up, we quit talking and he moved on and found a girlfriend.
Well if you really cant some up the balls just to start conversation, how bout you make an excuse like, ';';';Hey, did we have math homework?';'; or something like that depends on your situation, then from there it wont be as awkward just talking to her
walk up to her and comment on her nice rack. and ask her if she's ever heard of the shocker (and if not) tell her your willing to demonstrate!





%26gt;%26gt;Two in the bush, one in the tush%26lt;%26lt;


%26gt;%26gt;ONE in the pink and TWO in the stink%26lt;%26lt;


%26gt;%26gt;Two in the pleasure, one in the treasure%26lt;%26lt;
you reall cant do any thing but just sac it up and talk, start with just like short conversations and work your way up, seem interested in her (that shouldnt be hard) just like ask questions and stuff.


wouldnt it be wierd if she answered this question
well you need to wait until she is single now because you like her for more then just a friend! If your really that nervous to talk to her then just start out with saying hi when you see her in the halls or class.
Try to find something you have in common and start there.


notice any changes in hair or dress and comment on them,


relax and be yourself and be HONEST.
Dude... you just have to remember one thing. If your all jittery when you go to talk to her, she will see you as a freak, whereas if you talk to her normally she'll think you are cool xD. Simple.
just do it. don't think about it. don't try and break them up though if she's really happy with him though because she'll resent you for it.
if any of your friends know her try to hang around with them while they talk to her
BALLS OF STEEL
Go up to her with a friend and be yourself (:
You sure like to say ';balls'; a lot. Are you gay?
hun, just be yourself! (:
Well for one.. do not flirt with her while she has a boyfriend, that is such a turn off and you could get her into trouble with her boyfriend, then she would just dislike you.





Just be her friend for a while (but not the kind where she isn't willing to date you).


Just start out talking to her in small amounts if your afraid.





Like for one.. If you have a class together and you sit by her, pass her a note.


Or if you saw her in hallway.. just walk up to her and say ';hey'; or ';i havent talked to you in forever'; something simple


Maybe if you have another class with ask her to help you with your work.


Or call her one night and ask what the assignment for the previous day was.





Just text her, and get close.





Im not shy at all so I can't really relate, but i like it when guys have the courage to talk to me even though I have a boyfriend.


Dont be a pervert either.





Dont be afraid to talk to her. You gotta learn how to use those balls god gave to ya =)





Hope this helps a little
don't put her on such pedistole. doing that makes her seem untalkable. if its becuase there is nothing to talk about it sounds lame but write it down first, like: that test was insane wtf was mr/mrs whoever thinking OR how was your weekend mine was so boring if her's was boring it is a great way of getting you two together you can inviter her out as friends next weekend in hopes that it won't be so boring next time. the weather, where she got her outfit she's looking good or your sisters bday is coming up i need a women's perspective can you come to the mall w/ me. your favorite music. but get it through your head she is a girl and just a girl don't worry if she says no there is agirl out there who will say yes. hope this helps if not my bad!
i had a lot of trouble with this in hight school as well! i was always very shy, and the guy i liked (who also liked me back even though i didnt know at the time) was also really shy, so neither of us would talk much outside of technology, and we missed out on a lot of fun times because of our lack of communication. just think about all of the things you will miss out on if you don't talk to her, and ask yourself ';what's the worst that could happen'; especially if you are just trying to be her friend right now (which is by the way a great idea because if she has trouble with her bf, she will talk to you about it and if you are there for her, there is a good chance she will develop a crush on you!) then you have nothing to lose! good luck!!!!!! =)
There are two answers.. Both totally important.


You tell me which sounds harder.





The first one is talking to her and other pretty girls in spite of making mistakes, feeling flustered and potentially even looking foolish. Every 60 seconds you spend doing that - you will be getting incrementally better and more confident at doing it. The easiest thing is simply asking questions. The occasional well time compliment is usually easy to get out also (don't overdo).





Perhaps you are nervous, who knows how badly - worst case scenario you ralph on her shoes. That is as bad as it could possibly get and even that is more effective than totally ignoring the object of your interest. No matter what words are coming out of your mouth - you can feel good that you are practicing a life skill that you will need for decades to come. Inside you can smile and see it as money in the bank - even if on the outside you happen to be stuttering and forgetting how to drink from a straw..





The second thing is personal development.


On the day to day what type of stuff do you do that you are proud of?


How are you spending your time constructively..? Whatever it is that makes you happy.. I don't know why, i just know it's true - when you are coming off personal success you feel more confident. Positive energy kinda beams out of you. It makes your resolve stronger, while simply making you more interesting to talk to...





good luck.. and remember practice makes perfect..