Ok this is a lil about me... I have been ';Seeing'; someone for almost 6 yrs now, only complication we have is that he is incarcerated and has been for the past 18 yrs. Not sure when he will get out.... Now over a lil month ago, I met the most incredible man. He is good to me and my children. He makes me feel like I'm the most beautiful women EVER on this planet. He tells me he LOVES me everyday, even though I haven't said it back yet. I am starting to fall for this man, but yet don't want to hurt the one I've been ';seeing'; for the past 6 yrs. I love him with everything inside of me... but don't want to be alone for the rest of my life either. Anyone been in this situation? Or can anyone just give me some good advice as to what I should do?
Thanks,
Confused and Torn!!!Advice about 2 men, One I'm in Love with, the other, I'm falling for...HELP?
try the latter but be sure that he really loves and cares you and your childrenAdvice about 2 men, One I'm in Love with, the other, I'm falling for...HELP?
Find out how long you will be waiting fro the man inside? Be honest with yourself and find out why he has been in 18years! you do not say why as you may not be safe with him when he comes out!
Tell the new man about the man you are seeing in Prison and ask him to be understanding. You do not have a physical relationship with the prisoner yo owe him respect and men inside expect relationships to be rocky ... lots of them fail due to the lack of intimacy.
It's ok to feel this way, it means you're human. I have been.... better yet, i'm going through a similar situation right now!! Decide who you feel you really want to be with. The person that you think about all the time. Then tell the other person the truth and if they really love you like they say they do, then they'll understand. They might not show that their happy for you, but if they truly love you they'll support you with your decision
go with the one your falling for i know that it is hard, but the one whom you have been with is not here no more for you and your kids, if this man makes you feel good go for it girl the opportunity is knocking at your door step it would go away if you don't open....
i would say go with the guy that ISN';T in jai.. I mean.. how can you be in love with someone when they were in jail when you met, and has been sence then.. -- You should also think about you'r kids.. Lead by example.. Get a positive mail role moddle who is nice to you and you'r kids.. sorry for the other guy.. but he obviousally has made some bad dicisions that have made his sitiation like it is now.. Do the right thing.
This is hard. But you need to think about the man you have been with for 6 years, He has been with you this long and still loves you. But you also do not want to be with someone who you do not love either. Think about your kids too.
I love feeling beautiful thats a good a great feeling but it depends on your feelings for the man you've been seeing and the guy your not seeing seems like a great guy if you dont get him now he might not be avaible in the future.
wow, thats really hard and painful to be going through. I think you should just ask yourself who do you want to spend the rest of your life with. Try thinking about who you really want to wake up everyday beside.
you shud definetley go with this new guy!
go enjoy a normal life with a guy that's on the outside
Go for the one that is not incarcerated. End of story!
So choose between a serious felon and a nice guy?
How on earth did you meet this guy in prison anyway? Do you work there? Your relationship outside prison might be completely different. I guess he's convicted of at least murder to serve more than 18 years,
Sounds like you've been given a gift with this new man but you don't love him or you wouldn't be asking after saying how he feels about YOU!.
I'd suggest killing the prison relationship and seeing where the new one takes you unless you know you couldn't be with this new guy for any reason.
Well I have no faith in the system being worked for it for years all that is created in prison are educated monsters backed by the feelings of liberals.. I bet he has met about 6 other girls by being in prison by other inmates its a game they play.. Called pass the b@$#h.. Get the book called Games inmates play... If the other guy has morals,Clean,Working,and true I would go for that person.. You kneed someone who is going to work with you and not against you... I bet if you tried praying about it you would get an answer..........
Oh wow that's really tough!
I wouldn't know what to say honestly. I mean yes I completely understand not wanting to be alone for the rest of your life, but then you still don't want to cheat on the man you've been with for 6 years.
This is a real tough one. I think the best thing to do is tell this new guy that as much as you would like to have a relationship with him, nothing can happen between you two. Or if you would like something to happen between you two you wait til after your tell the guy you've been seeing for 6 years that you no longer wish to be with him and then go for the new guy.
Although in my opinion, although this new one seems to make you feel special and all I would continue to stay faithful to your love (the one for 6 years).
lifes to short to wait on someone forever. If you have met this new person, and you say that your ';falling';, for then give it a shot. You never know..he may be the one. Why waste your life away waiting on someone who may or may not ever get out. Theres a reason why he's locked up, why should you be lonely because he made the wrong decision? good luck. Shannon :)
oh wow....your definietly in a situation...but its not as complicated as you making it.At the end of the day if you moved on from the incarcerated one would you regret it?....if part of you is saying yes than maybe you should stick with it and be friends with the other guy but if you feel like you really have found somethng special than be hnest with the incarcerated and remain friends and a support system for him but do whats best for you and your children....you only get one heart and one life you dont want to wake up wondering what if....
Definitely HAVEN'T been in your situation. WOW!
You mention children...*red flags* I don't know what this guy did, but it must've been pretty serious to have been in jail that long (without a release date in sight!). Would you want him living in the same house as you and your children?
The choice should seem so obvious, right? I mean, a prisoner or an amazing guy...but I know it isn't that easy. I think you need to realize that you can't have a relationship like this, and that now you have this amazing chance. Are you ';in love'; with him, or do you care for him a lot? There's a difference.
Obviously, I'm going to say go for the new guy. Let the ';old'; guy know that you can't build a life with him when he's in jail.
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